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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/14/2011 8:19:00 AM   
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An enema before helps. For a first timer go slow, slow, slow. It will get easier for both of you.

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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/14/2011 9:13:16 AM   
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Ahhh, I guess I missed out on the whole specialness of an ass de-flowering and went straight to the ass fucking... be happy I spit on you, scenario...(sobs) I feel so cheated.

Anal has always been more about domination than romance for me.  Romance is kissing, lick each others' privates and bang the pussy until she squirts then pull it out when cum and shoot on her belly so you can trace the words "I love you" with your jizz.

To me, the "be happy I spit on you", scenario is just so appropriate for anal. 

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He could use Marilyn Monroe's line from an early film she did called 'Clash By Night' When her character's boyfriend so much as tried to KISS her she came up with "Don't Joe...I feel icky" THAT put Joe in his place - I doubt there were any 'anal shenanigans' going on with Joe that evening...

I'm not like Joey.  I would fuck Marilyn in the ass dirty!



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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/14/2011 11:01:23 PM   
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I'm not like Joey.  I would fuck Marilyn in the ass dirty!
*Fans self* Hot statement, but I don't get down that way.
I think she'd have found many reasons to live, if she'd hung out with someone like you RS. M


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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/15/2011 12:43:22 AM   
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I'm not like Joey.  I would fuck Marilyn in the ass dirty!
*Fans self* Hot statement, but I don't get down that way.
I think she'd have found many reasons to live, if she'd hung out with someone like you RS. M

At least she never could have gotten to those pills while locked up in my nice red cage.  If I had owned her I would have let you come over and play with her! 

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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/15/2011 1:05:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist
I'm not like Joey.  I would fuck Marilyn in the ass dirty!
*Fans self* Hot statement, but I don't get down that way.
I think she'd have found many reasons to live, if she'd hung out with someone like you RS. M

At least she never could have gotten to those pills while locked up in my nice red cage.  If I had owned her I would have let you come over and play with her!
An unselfish gentleman... I like. The only thing I could do with her, is warm up her ass, by a great spanking. I am otherwise, too hetero to do anything other than converse, or dance with a woman. I suppose I could watch. M

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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/15/2011 1:47:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		Enemas. Lot's and lot's and lot's of lube. If you think you used enough lube, add more, then go for it. Move sloooooowly. If the "giver" is uncircumsized that helps immensely, if not then see above advice and have fun. Also, don't get really hung up on how "clean" you want it. Anal sex is dirty. Accept it, live it, love it.

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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/15/2011 1:57:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		What everyone else said with a few important additions.

One, you should restrict any anal activity larger than a finger for one half hour after an enema.

Two, in order to effectively penetrate someone's anal cavity, you must push past the sphincter. That hurts and there is no getting around it. Newbies tend to try and gentle it in there, but that just hurts more. One initial good thrust will get you past the anal ring, but don't go too deep.

After that, slow slow slow and you can't have enough lube available.

Good luck and have fun.


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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/15/2011 2:18:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		In a John Cleese 'Meaning of Life' voice, 'What's wrong with a simple kiss, boy?!'

Start your partner off by showing him his usual orgasm can be much stronger just by putting your finger over [not in] the anus, so he can wonder at the contractions.
Next night: trim your fingernails and cuticles, and put on a fingercot [like a finger condom]. After you get your partner hot'n'bothered, warm some lube and slather his anus and your finger [baby or index], get him hot'n'bothered again, and put your finger in, fingernail-side up [hooking it in the other way is asking for tearing if he's tight] and angled for the inside of his bellybutton.
Next night: do the same, ensuring you're deep enough to feel his prostate. Then strapon and strapup!
Enjoy!

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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/15/2011 3:48:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		There are two sphincters in your rear end: the internal and external. Do NOT think just because you have cleared one you are in the green. Take it slow and take short thrusts vs long ones. As for keeping it clean, you can often feel when you have to go to the washroom and the first couple of times you will think this is happening during. Talk it over with your partner and be okay with ending the act when it feels "icky". Better to stop and play another day than never go in again!

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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/15/2011 3:51:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		I may be exploring anal very soon, and I'm not sure the best way to begin. I would ideally like to play in the shower for cleanliness, but the running water could cause a problem for lube. I don't plan on actually having sex with her for awhile, but mostly explore with fingers at first, maybe a toy later if she seems receptive. I'm eager for any advice on how to take it slow and make sure she's comfortable. I don't want to rush in and ruin chances to go further with her, although I doubt she would complain to me even if she was in agony, as long as I was having fun. I'm mostly concerned with using lube in the shower since most are water-soluble.

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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/15/2011 5:18:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: EternalDecent

I need to learn the rope when it comes to anal and how to keep things clean


i love anal sex. passionately.  the man who takes my ass owns me.  care is good, concern appreciated.  At the same time, anal for me is ownership, not romance, and i can't help but feel if you're going to fuck me in the ass don't whine over a little less than pristine. with respect, of course.
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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/15/2011 6:29:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		Would there be any problem with using silicone lube for anal play? I wouldn't be using silicone toys, of course.

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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/15/2011 9:49:28 PM   
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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/15/2011 10:23:39 PM   
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Use water based lube.  it cleans up much easier!! ;)
If I decided to play in the shower, would a water based lube wash off too quickly?

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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/15/2011 10:39:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		not inside, where it counts.  Insert before getting under the water. 

A lot of things folks use arent good for the insides.

http://www.boybutter.com/product-info  is a product I've had great results with.  

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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/15/2011 11:21:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		Personally, I prefer the silicone lubes...the water based ones get so sticky and gooey, I hate that sensation.  The silicone feels smoother to me, and you don't have to use tons of it each time.  One point, let the guy know it's silicone based, other wise he will pour half of a $40 bottle of lube on you before you realize it.  Learned that the hard way!  I don't remember the name of what I had, but it came in a black bottle, and they had different ones for different penetrations....I had one regular bottle and one especially for anal sex.

And yep, I don't care how much you hose yourself out....it's gonna get dirty at some point.  I've tried.....doing it too much just hurts.

Anal for me is totally about his desire to possess, the have the taboo sensations......sweet and slow just is a drag...if you're going to do it, DO IT ALREADY!  But a word of warning......this is NOT the prescribed way to start someone out who has never done it before.....that'll guarantee that you'll never get another opportunity to try it again.  Start small, as suggested, go slow, and listen to your partner.....when they say stop, STOP!  Don't be an ass and push it.

< Message edited by soul2share -- 4/15/2011 11:22:33 PM >

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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/15/2011 11:58:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		I like the silicone lubes better too.  A micro fine layer is all that is needed and it lasts a long time.


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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/16/2011 3:40:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't know when you all have time for these enemas you keep recommending.

I am like RS; I am not into it for romance, it is hot, dominant, intense, violent and you can be as clean as you think, but sometimes, shit happens. If that bothers someone, don't do it.

Just grab your girl by the hair, throw her down the bed, couch, floor, whatever and go for it.

I am not a huge lube fan for intense anal; I like it to hurt a bit. I am not doing it to be a lady; I am doing it to be a slut.

So much worry about the details when the important thing is to know who you are doing it with. Start there.

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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/16/2011 5:10:24 PM   
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Just grab your girl by the hair, throw her down the bed, couch, floor, whatever and go for it.

You mean like this excerpt: 
. . . if your pretty ass did show up in Florida, I would cut your cute little retro panties off and wrap them around your neck, choking you as I threw you to the ground.  Then I would take you from behind like you were a bitch in heat. 

After the product of my lust was planted deep in your plump little ass and a hot pool of cum was leaking down your quivering legs, I would carelessly pull you off the ground, tying your hands up to the cross.  With your ass throbbing, now bound, blindfolded and helpless, I would take out my knives . . .
The rest of this wank fodder here






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RE: Introduction to anal - 4/16/2011 7:51:14 PM   
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