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bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 12:57:00 PM

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How can you tell if your dom only considers you a booty call ?

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RE: bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 12:57:50 PM

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You say that like it is a bad thing. You should be honored.

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RE: bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 12:58:17 PM

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Generally, if you are wearing a booty, and he is the least bit het.

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RE: bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 1:01:48 PM

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not a bad thing at all i just want more than he does unfortunately

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RE: bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 1:07:36 PM

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You only do activities based around sex/kinkiness. There's nothing else there aside from that. Seems more like a bond of convenience than one of romantic flair.

In other words, boring shit.

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RE: bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 1:07:50 PM

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How can you tell if your dom only considers you a booty call ?

In the event this is a serious question... the same way you would if he weren't dominant.

What is your definition of dom?
Now, what is his definition of dom?

I wouldn't be assuming he were my dom if he and I were involved just for play.
He would be a dom that I just happened to play with.

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RE: bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 1:08:27 PM

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How can you tell if your dom only considers you a booty call ?

This is one of those things that if you have to ask yourself that question, you already know the answer

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RE: bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 1:08:52 PM

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I am completely honored by his presence, However I want more

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RE: bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 1:09:39 PM

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From what you just said I would guess that you have issues with your realationship that envolve more then just being a booty call. Not that I can really say or not but I would suggest really talking to your dom and finding out what you both want and need from a realationship. If you don't agree then move on to someone that can give you what you really need. I know it is hard to end a realationship but if it really isn't what you need then you deserve better....everyone deserves what truely makes them happy. Good luck.

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RE: bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 1:09:42 PM

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Seems like you've already established whether or not the relationship is going where you want it to.

But I'll humor you with an answer, regardless.

Does he only call you for booty? Does he suddenly have to go when you start talking about commitment? Do you get the feeling you might just be a booty call?

.... Warmest wishes, best of luck.

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RE: bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 1:11:41 PM

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I am completely honored by his presence, However I want more

Here's this amazing idea, but hold onto your chair because it might shock you. Ready? Okay!

Talk to him about it.

Wow!

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RE: bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 1:15:00 PM

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How can you tell if your dom only considers you a booty call ?

He tells you to spell suffering wrong.

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RE: bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 1:16:45 PM

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How can you tell if your dom only considers you a booty call ?

This is one of those things that if you have to ask yourself that question, you already know the answer

This !!

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RE: bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 1:17:11 PM

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i quess i can chalk it up too lack of communication . i wouldn't have to search for answers like this here if our communication was what it should be . thanks for your input .its greatly appreciated

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RE: bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 1:21:33 PM

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How can you tell if your dom only considers you a booty call ?

This is one of those things that if you have to ask yourself that question, you already know the answer

No, it means you probably are a 'booty call' - but there's always the chance there's more to it.

To the OP, you haven't actually said you have a problem with this; only that you want more. More what? Him turning up more often to treat you as his 'booty call'?

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RE: bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 1:26:49 PM

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How can you tell if your dom only considers you a booty call ?

This is one of those things that if you have to ask yourself that question, you already know the answer

No, it means you probably are a 'booty call' - but there's always the chance there's more to it.

To the OP, you haven't actually said you have a problem with this; only that you want more. More what? Him turning up more often to treat you as his 'booty call'?

There could always be more to it, but the point is, if one person isn't committing the way the other person would like, it doesn't matter in the end why this is so. What matters is that both people get their need met.

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RE: bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 1:30:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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How can you tell if your dom only considers you a booty call ?

This is one of those things that if you have to ask yourself that question, you already know the answer

No, it means you probably are a 'booty call' - but there's always the chance there's more to it.

To the OP, you haven't actually said you have a problem with this; only that you want more. More what? Him turning up more often to treat you as his 'booty call'?

There could always be more to it, but the point is, if one person isn't committing the way the other person would like, it doesn't matter in the end why this is so. What matters is that both people get their need met.

She didn't say anything about committment. Only that she wants more, which could mean him turning up more often with a tool box to put Jack the Ripper to shame, and leaving when the deed is done.

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RE: bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 1:34:40 PM

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Talking to him about it would be my first suggestion. He is the only one that can answer that question.

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RE: bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 1:36:43 PM

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How can you tell if your dom only considers you a booty call ?

This is one of those things that if you have to ask yourself that question, you already know the answer

This.

Talk to him about it. Tell him what you want from the relationship and ask him what he wants. If he waffles or does not answer the way you want...... taadaaaaaaa! You've got your answer, crystal clear.

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RE: bootycall ? - 4/28/2011 1:38:00 PM

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How can you tell if your dom only considers you a booty call ?

how can you tell if any man only considers you a booty call - same rules apply here too -

if a man is into you he's going to be wanting to spend all sorts of quality time with you, right? and if that cant always be together then therell be phone calls and clues into the stuff you talk about and the things he says to you.

the problem with all of this is that if you guys dont live together and can only get together once in a while, what tends to happen is that BDSM takes over because for alot of people that is how they express their Ds and for some its the only common ground they have.

in the end it does boil down to what you signed up for. if the whole thing kicked off as an orgy of BDSM playtime then thats likely what he signed up for and thinks you did too.

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