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kalikshama -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 1:45:35 PM)

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ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker

You only do activities based around sex/kinkiness.  There's nothing else there aside from that.  Seems more like a bond of convenience than one of romantic flair. 


NS nailed it.



SailingBum -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 1:49:34 PM)

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ORIGINAL: BeautifulSufforing

not a bad thing at all i just want more than he does unfortunately


Ya know its a age old thing da bitches trying to wrap a ball and chain around ole Capt Midnight so they can ruin some smoking hot action.

BadOne



BeautifulSufforing -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 1:52:33 PM)

well i chose my username on my own misspelled on purpose . my dom an i are new so at this point in time .ill take what he offers .however, i know this won't appease me for long .



Palliata -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 1:52:36 PM)

If he never interacts with you romantically, or never interacts with you emotionally at all except for that which is necessary for sexual purposes, you're just a few holes and the tissue connecting them. Nothing wrong with that - there's beauty in pleasure-seeking - but ideally you both want to be on the same page.



BeautifulSufforing -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 1:59:00 PM)

as for my username i chose it an misspelled on purpose . at this point in time i will take him anyway i get to . we are new only 5 scenes . i know to ask him but i like to get a different outlook than my own b4 i talk to him about something . thank you all for your input



VaguelyCurious -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 1:59:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker

You only do activities based around sex/kinkiness.  There's nothing else there aside from that.  Seems more like a bond of convenience than one of romantic flair. 

This is the second genuinely constructively useful thing I've seen you say in two days. It's weird.

But, yeah. What jokes does he laugh at? What does he like to eat? Does he talk through films/TV shows or is he one of those 'SILENCE ON ZE SOFA!' nazis?

If you can't answer those questions and once you've been together a while then you're a booty call. Sorry.



NocturnalStalker -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 2:00:02 PM)

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ORIGINAL: BeautifulSufforing

well i chose my username on my own misspelled on purpose . my dom an i are new so at this point in time .ill take what he offers .however, i know this won't appease me for long .


Then why not end it while you're ahead?  Right now you're just digging yourself into a deeper hole and one that from the sounds of it your dom enjoys keeping you in.  You sound like you have an idea of what you want, and I promise you that nobody will think you're any less submissive for looking out for number one. 



LaTigresse -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 2:04:24 PM)

Good grief! You are 41 years old and you are asking this type of question???

Seriously, when I went to look at your profile I expected to see an age of late teens or very early 20's.



kalikshama -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 2:13:22 PM)

Ask yourself, "Would I be happy in 3 years if nothing changed?" If the answer is no, get out now, because nothing will change.

Last year I saw a man who said he loved me but treated me like a booty call. He'd go radio silent for days on end and only contact me when he was able to come over for sex. He kept saying I wasn't just a booty call, but his actions spoke much louder than his words. He only lived 8 miles away and was unemployed, but because of continual "family emergencies" saw me rarely. I invited him to lots of vanilla events, but the only time he came anywhere other than to my house was to a SDC party and the nude beach.

The constant dissonance between his words and his actions made me crazy and when I dumped him I vowed to always heed to the actions henceforth.

Other men have been more honest but my experience has been that if it starts off only being about the kink it will always be only about the kink.



BeautifulSufforing -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 2:21:15 PM)

i misspelled my username on purpose. my dom and i are new to each other (only 5 scenes) . iam 3mo new into this lifestyle an i like to get different perspective other than my own. before I ask my dom my questions. Thank you all for the input I appreciate it bunches



MrRodgers -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 2:33:50 PM)

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

quote:

ORIGINAL: BeautifulSufforing

How can you tell if your dom only considers you a booty call ?


This is one of those things that if you have to ask yourself that question, you already know the answer

I agree now that you call him yours, that this is a question only you can answer.

But isn't that the dom's dream ? Very possibly having a number of sub/slaves around town waiting for that phone call for dinner and a blow job.



mnottertail -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 2:34:59 PM)

Certainly nothing wrong with their being good cooks.



leadership527 -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 2:38:20 PM)

I think this is a great question. One, in fact, that I've heard regularly from women of all stripes.

I find the answer to be simple. You can tell what I'm interested in by paying attention to what I'm interested in. What do I choose to talk about? How "face forward" am I when we're talking about it? What do I choose to do? How engaged am I with the activity?

Usually when I hear this question it comes about because the person asking it sees one reality but wishes for another. In my experience, when a person loves another person, it's kind of unmistakable. Love, especially in it's early stages, tends to be pretty splashy.



DesFIP -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 2:56:29 PM)

So if you tell him you don't feel well enough to play, but would like to go to dinner and just spend time together, does he cancel? Don't listen to what he says, look at what he does.

Does he ask about your life or is conversation only sex/kink? Is he sympathetic when you've had a rough day or is he impatient because you won't get naked immediately?

Don't make any man a priority who makes you an option.



sunshinemiss -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 3:33:53 PM)

Sunny
Quote of the Day
goes to
leadership527
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for
when a person loves another person,
it's kind of unmistakable.
Love, especially in it's early stages,
tends to be pretty splashy.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_3652159/mpage_2/tm.htm



littlewonder -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 5:39:52 PM)

he doesn't give you his phone number or home address
only calls when he wants to fuck/play
any other time he just doesn't bother to keep in contact
doesn't introduce you to family and friends

just to name a few things off the top of my head




littlewonder -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 5:43:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Good grief! You are 41 years old and you are asking this type of question???

Seriously, when I went to look at your profile I expected to see an age of late teens or very early 20's.



Oh fuck...had I known that I wouldn't have even responded. I just assumed from the terrible spelling and question it was a 19 or 20 yr old. Shows what I get for assuming.




AneNoz -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 6:23:01 PM)

Please excuse the aside, but English idiom is difficult at times. A "bootycall" would be a person one is with only for sex, akin to a "fuckbuddy", no?

Be at peace
Aneka



kalikshama -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 6:29:48 PM)

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Please excuse the aside, but English idiom is difficult at times. A "bootycall" would be a person one is with only for sex, akin to a "fuckbuddy", no?


Similar. You have a booty call with your fuckbuddy.

Many idioms are defined here: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=bootycall



lovelyesme -> RE: bootycall ? (4/28/2011 6:55:56 PM)


( This is one of those things that if you have to ask yourself that question, you already know the answer)


what she said. sorry.  hoping there's more- if you want it- someday.
esme



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