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Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 7:37:46 AM)
DesFIP, it works both ways! Us Doms know the score the moment we are feed bland Oatmeal for breakfast and microwave for Dinner. We can just feel the Love fading away, as the Gourmet cooking transforms into in blahzay meals. Pretty sad when you have to use your pets, to double check if there's any poisoning in the meals. If the cat or dog does not kick it, it's safe to eat. LOL

leadership527 -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 7:52:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Could you submit to, or dominate, someone who spurned your cooking? (And yes, we're both quite competent home cooks). Yes, yes, and we could also marry and stay married to said person. For Carol and I, we would find this line of reasoning to be fundamentally flawed due to inherent selfishness. If Carol "spurns a gift of mine" then I don't assume she's flawed. I assume that I'm flawed -- I picked the wrong gift for this person.

YSG -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 8:45:20 AM)
For me, cooking is something I do for the people I care about. The way I was raised, we always equated food with good friends/family. Its also part of how I show that side of myself that wants to nurture and provide for that special someone. Yeah, ok, my cooking isnt always healthy, but I guarentee you'll walk away with a happy tummy and feeling better about life.

Kana -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 8:53:36 AM)
Oh Christ. I'm a trained chef. If she can't cook (and its shocking how many folk really can't) I'm gonna. Don't be messing with my food. Now, on the other hand, if she's a perfectly cromulent cook-then by all means go to it woman.

sheisreeds -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 9:26:54 AM)
I can't be with anyone who likes bland awful food. I cook w/ a lot of spices, fresh veggies, and inspiration from a lot of different cultures. All my food is also vegan and I've never had a complaint. To me, a want of flavor in food, is a want of flavor in life.

OwnedFemaleFlesh -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 9:45:06 AM)
I am a very picky eater and it's always a bit of a nightmare when others insist on cooking for me. There then follows a lengthy list of "Do you eat..." invariably followed by my increasing embarrassed "No"s. This always seems to come to a head when I make foreign friends, for whom cooking and giving food is a big part of their social life. It's not that I want to be rude, but their cooking is almost always more 'fancy' and involving ingredients that I don't really like. My Sri Lankan friend keeps bringing curry into work for me to eat, and then I feel really bad because it's got cashew nuts in, or sultanas, or aubergine, or... you get the idea. As much as I protest and tell them I'm just a picky eater, and I really don't need anything cooking for me, they take it almost as a challenge and start quizzing me about what I do like, determined to find something they can make for me. After having agreed on chicken, chillis, lettuce, onion and cucumber, they think they have finally cracked in, and bring me in what is, no doubt, delicious, well prepared food, only for me to discover that it has oyster sauce on it. And then I have to admit that I can't eat it, again. I know people mean well when they want to cook for others, but for those of us who know what we like and are used to cooking for ourselves, insistent attempts to feed us can snowball into awkward, embarrassed situations where we don't want to offend people we like, yet we know we just can't eat what they want us to. I would never want anyone to eat my cooking if they didn't like it, and I will never be offended if they don't want it, as I've had too many years of feeling obliged to eat things which, to me, taste just awful. I remember desperately trying to get through a bowl of spaghetti in tomato sauce at a German friend's house some years ago, where I was literally retching as I was trying to swallow it, yet too embarrassed to tell her I didn't like it as she was such a new friend. I would die of embarrassment if I thought someone had ate my cooking because they felt obliged to. If you don't like it, just tell me and I'll make you a cheese sandwich and a bowl of chips! owned xxx

BurntKitty -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 10:06:31 AM)
A cooking thread? Where's Holly? [sm=flameout.gif] [sm=lol.gif]

LaTigresse -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 10:06:44 AM)
I love love LOVE to cook. So far, no one has ever turned down a meal at my house. At least not that I can remember. Fool if they did! Food and cooking is a big part of life. I don't think I would have anyone in my life that didn't enjoy what it brings to the warm nurturing aspect of my home.

domiguy -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 10:45:54 AM)
I have a hard time getting involved with someone that is not into food. Those fuckers disgusts me! I think it sucks ass to have a limited palate, in that it takes away from one of the great enjoyments of life. I have never met a type of food that I don't care for. (There is such a thing as a poorly made meal) To go out of your way and prepare a meal to only have it rejected, without a damn good explanation, is pretty much a kick in the teeth. Food is life. Why am I wasting my breath on you fucks?

Aynne88 -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 10:48:45 AM)
I'm with LaT. I garden, take gourmet cooking lessons with local chefs, wine tastings, hours in the kitchen doing dinner parties, I love to cook, I love to create, and for me cooking is sexy as hell at times, seducing my man with a meal I prepared designed to stimulate his senses. He loves my cooking and even my ex-husband still calls and asks me to make him ceviche or a batch of my bearnaise sauce, and I do, because I love to do it. I could never be with someone that didn't enjoy my love of culinary arts. Nor could I be with someone that thought chain restaurants and unhealthy junk food was acceptable either, it just would irritate me too much to be happy. I dated a man a few times that did take me to my favorite places, and on our last date we went to a place that was (and is) my favorite french bistro and he ordered a mudslide (a milky frothy sweet cocktail) with his steak frites, which he ordered medium well also, and that was the death knell for me. [;)] Wines to die for, and he orders that and then kills his meat as well. Oh hell no. Edited because my dream date Domi snuck in, for an Internet Prick, he does know his food.

tazzygirl -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 10:50:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BurntKitty A cooking thread? Where's Holly? [sm=flameout.gif] [sm=lol.gif] This is a cooking thread. Why would Holly be here? [;)]

domiguy -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 10:51:39 AM)
because Holly is a fucking whore. Maybe she also likes food, too?

MasterJoeExcited -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 10:54:45 AM)
Once upon a time I commisioned a list of my favorite 22 foods. I'm gonna share it with you now. DISCLAIMER: Upon reading the list, some may experience increased salivation, while others may have an urge to vomit. Those trying to lose weight might find their dieting suddenly gets to a serious obstacle 1. Head of a calf, especially cheeks 2. A high quality pizza 3. Pasta with minced meat 4. Crepes with nutela 5. Hot lamb meat 6. Cold pork 7. Leskovac pljeskavica (similar to a hamburger) 8. Watermelon 9. Cold bear 10. Chicken 11. Ommelete with bell peppers 12. Sweer cheries 13. Spinach (with milk, potato and a little garlic) 14. Beans with bacon 15. Bread and ayvar 16. Chevapi 18. Cold coca-cola 19. Cold Jagermneister 20. Popcorn 21. Doughnuts with nutella 22. Kinder Bueno

domiguy -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 10:57:56 AM)
I prefer my bear warmed to taste, but looks like nothing here to out of the ordinary. How are you, my Bosnian brother?

Asherscorp1 -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 11:36:55 AM)
I've never particularly liked cooking, it was something I did because I had to and occaisionally enjoyed it. So for me cooking is definitely an expression of love because I am doing something I don't enjoy simply to give enjoyment and nourishment to someone I love. Before this relationship I thought I was a good cook. Then one night I made my favorite dish, baked salmon with mango salsa ... and Master looked at me and said, "Do you LIKE your fish this way? Iit's alright, I'll teach you how to make fish." Needless to say that killed any desire I had to ever cook for Him again. He is the sort who expects gourmet meals, not oatmeal but steel-cut oats that take an hour to cook, not white rice but basmati rice that has been propperly prepped and slowly steamed in a crock-pot all day ... you get the idea. He is also constantly on a mission to improve everyone, including himself so He absolutely demans that I learn how to cook the foods He enjoys eating and has banned some things from the kitchen altogether. This is a constant battle for me. Cooking at all is something I have to half force myself to do even if it's simple meals. Cooking complicated meals with ingredients that take 5 steps to prepare before cooking even begins ... I detest it. By the time I have spent an hour or two in the kitchen I am so offput by food that I generally don't eat at all. This doesn't mean I am not happy in my relationship though, I see it as something I have to change about myself, work harder, accept failure and keep trying. It's a struggle but I am sure in the end being a much improved cook and the self-discipline it took to get there will be good for me as a person and as His devoted slave.

domiguy -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 11:39:42 AM)
sounds like your guy is a real jag off.

Asherscorp1 -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 11:44:11 AM)
He is a complete and utter food SNOB! Lol. That's alright because his snobbishness is a traight I share, just not about food. I can forgive flaws but usually it's better if they are the same sort of flaws I have too. And truth be told He does get a little embarassed when He remembers that night, in retrospect He was more of a jerk than He meant to be. But ... in the end He has every right to demand, expect, encourage and instruct anything He'd like from me. I strive to live up to His standards.

domiguy -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 11:46:07 AM)
No, he sounds like a pompous jag off.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 12:05:24 PM)
This: quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse I love love LOVE to cook. So far, no one has ever turned down a meal at my house. At least not that I can remember. Fool if they did! Food and cooking is a big part of life. I don't think I would have anyone in my life that didn't enjoy what it brings to the warm nurturing aspect of my home.

domiguy -> RE: Feeding people and submission (4/30/2011 12:08:12 PM)
this quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy No, he sounds like a pompous jag off.

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