Zonie63
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Joined: 4/25/2011 From: The Old Pueblo Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: kickable As for a true lifestyle Dominant Woman, I still have to rate that as an urban myth. I don't think it exists. I disagree. I think lifestyle dominant women exist. I know I've found a few in real life. But it's also a matter of finding one who meshes personality-wise and who shares a mutual attraction. Trust is also an issue, especially in the world of BDSM where you're practically putting your life in someone else's hands. So, trying to find someone where all these factors click together (and one who isn't 2000 miles away) is exceedingly problematic. I've never gone to a pro-domme either. Not that I'm against the idea, nor do I believe that there's anything wrong with that. But my wariness is strictly on a business level, since pro-domination doesn't seem to operate like any other business I'm familiar with. There's no licensing or accreditation that I'm aware of, and I don't see any of them mention that they're members of the Better Business Bureau. Some claim to have degrees in psychology, so at least that's something. I've also noticed that the lopsided ratio of dominant women to submissive men gets mentioned frequently, but that only really tells part of the story. There are other types of social settings where the women might outnumber the men. It's never been all that difficult for me to find "a woman," or to even find one with a compatible personality and mutual attraction. But when it comes to the moment of truth and having to mention "oh by the way, there's this little quirk about me I think you should know," that's when things start to go sour. It's like I hurt their feelings in some way, as if they were expecting me to be different. So, I've learned to be careful and play it pretty close to the vest. Not so much for myself, but for others around me. I know the score, and I know how this is perceived by most people. So, I'm not going to reveal that side of myself unless I know the other person would be receptive to it, and I know that most people just don't accept it. But that's okay, too. I'm actually more at peace with this than I was 15-20 years ago. I've mellowed, and I've taken a more detached, philosophical view on things. In a hundred years, nobody is going to care about any of this anyway.
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