Awareness
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ORIGINAL: OwnedFemaleFlesh I really don't think this is true. A great many submissives will 'test' or challenge a known Dom just to show him that he's not in charge (unless he is their Dom). Some of the most Dominant men I know are very softly spoken and deferential in public, and willing to let women take the lead so as to appear non threatening / pushy to her. A 'known' Dom? You're either not understanding the question or not understanding the answer I gave. In the context given, he doesn't know if she's a sub and presumably she has no idea he's a Dom. So we're talking about a social situation, not some ludicrous BDSM theatre. Second, my answer simply states that if he's a Dom, she'll naturally respond to him. It's not like he's supposed to flick the Dom switch and all of a sudden assume an extra set of behaviours. Most normal, healthy hetero women respond to dominant men. Period. The ones who don't aren't worth worrying about, but they're outliers anyway and nobody can reasonably expect or hope to bring every single personality type into their orbit. quote:
In most vanilla relationships I know, it is the women who wear the trousers. Macho, overbearing men are more annoying than appealing. I'm not exactly sure what point you're trying to make here. quote:
As regards knowing whether a woman is submissive, you'd just have to ask her, there are no short cuts. Besides whether or not she identifies as submissive, you'd need to know whether she was willing to be submissive to you, which is not guaranteed. Oh bollocks. Sometimes they don't even know if they're submissive. And you don't "find out" if a woman wants to 'submit to you' by asking. How fucking lame. If a man wants a woman, it's his task to seduce her. End of story. He either succeeds or fails.
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