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LillyBoPeep -> RE: Bets way to get a female sub/slaves attention (5/17/2011 3:43:10 PM)
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best way to get her attention -- be her definition of awesome.
sometimes guys send very nice messages, but they often seem like they haven't even read my profile. people should always read profiles or forum posts before writing to someone -- it's the online dating version of noticing what's in her shopping cart or what magazine she's browsing at the newsstand.
being nice isn't the end all be all (and sometimes nice guys aren't as nice as they seem -- or they come across as TOO nice); mention something specific in her profile that made you want to write. don't just say "your profile resonated with me," because that can be really cookie-cutter. again, approach it like you're approaching someone in person. if you see a post you like, reply specifically to that -- "your post on X was really interesting, care to talk about it further?" i've answered messages like that because the person seems genuinely interested in getting to know me, and not just bouncing words back and forth before "okay so when do we fuck?" =p
good for you, though, for having lots of "vanilla" interests mingled with the kink ones -- that shows that you're more of a well-rounded person. one thing i will say; many women seem to be turned off by the word "role" when describing what you want to do in a relationship. the way your profile is written, it sounds like you prefer to roleplay Daddy Dom stuff, i.e. keep the kink in the bedroom, but not outside of it, and many women seem to be looking for partners who are dominant inside and outside the bedroom. but to contradict that, you say you "Tolerate" role playing games, so it's a little confusing.
people assume more than they care to admit, really -- what kind of woman are you looking for? who are you sending messages to? you're very interested in fitness, but sometimes even the women with the nicest bodies on earth aren't super into fitness and exercising. some people might assume that you'll put them on diets and control their eating, etc etc. =p you make note of the fact that you work out A LOT in your profile, and you have lots of fitness related interests -- again, NO NEED to change yourself, fitness is good anyway, but it does come across a little heavy in your profile. if you're seeking a fitness-minded partner who would like to accompany you on workouts or something like that, mention that.
talk more about you, how do you build relationships? what is your relationship style? some people like lots of rules and regulations, some people don't. elaborate on you a little more.
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