sexyred1
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ORIGINAL: Zoe61 My friends, I am not stupid but seriously..why the judgemental stuff here in what should be an open forum? "You were played.."..lol..Sweetheart, you dont know what 'played ' is..This man did not 'play' me. I knew from the get go that this was a sexual thing. I love sex and not every 'date' with a Dom is a chance at forever..We had discussed sex from day 1 and I was fine with that..Being 'played' is when he takes advantage or lies and the sub falls for it..He was a good man from a far away place..he flew in from europe on his way back to Cananda to take me to dinner ( a lovely restaurant) and then in mutual adult consent we went to his hotel and played I loved it..My simple question was just asking for clarification. Some responses here make me sound like the "poor widdle sub who didn't know what getting fucked is"...yikes Thank you and I understand again ad nauseum..But when a man flies into see me, takes me to a great dinner pays the check and from the start we knew it was sex..why reply as if you are thinking I'm a silly woman? I am 61 I was merely confused about his statement. Much appeciated but sometimes good people do sexy things lol It amazes me that people who live an extreme lifestyle like BDSM respond as if they are filming "Leave it to Beaver".. You are a grown woman who posted on a free message board. You heard the comments. People are as free to comment in any way they see fit on a free message board, just as you are free to post dumb questions or smart questions, which sometimes happens. As for people who live an extreme lifestyle like BDSM not being judgemental...I am so over that misconception. People into BDSM are no different than people anywhere. If someone tells you you were played, or he was just not into you or whatever, that has nothing to do with being into the lifestyle, and everything to do with their ability and freedom to comment on the situation you posted. Even if this guy was strictly vanilla and he said that to you, the responses would be same. New posters seem to think that everyone is going to agree with whatever they post because this is some utopia of alikeness. Oh, and it is totally cool to discuss sex from day one, but did it occur to you that sometimes people talk too much about sex from day one and then the expecation level did not match up? You or he might have talked a good game but the game did not turn out the same for him. Whenever a man talks constantly about how good he is in bed, I just laugh. Let's face it; he is from a far away place, you were a pitstop and move on. Your profile states you are into somewhat casual behavior so why be concerned over the comment?
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