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angelikaJ -> RE: Question for For submissive females!! (5/31/2011 5:15:18 PM)
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ORIGINAL: aromanholiday
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ORIGINAL: douchebagfirefox
Honestly I a so damn tired of seeing all this BS about "treat me with respect and get to know me" on your profiles!! Why it is when a guy does try to do that 9/10 females ignore him?? I am really tired of getting deleted and ignored but yet 9/10 ten females also bitch about guys that come at them like billy badass! So if you will please....... Tell me what is going on here?? [:-]
To address your actual question, a lot of submissive women with ads on Collarme look for any reason or excuse to reject a man who writes them. The majority do this, I personally believe, because they are giddy on the power trip of all these male dominants supplicating them for attention and trying to catch their eye. They love the feeling of rejecting somebody: it makes them feel powerful and special and far more attractive than the probably are in real life. Nowhere in real life does a woman get the quantity of flattering attention that she gets on an online dating site. All that flattery all too frequently goes to a submissive woman's head and she forgets that she's actually on here to find a man to control her. No matter how well-written your email is, a good majority of these women will find a way to reject it because of this intense inflation of ego that's going on. They'll nitpick it until they find one tiny thing: a misspelled word (the guy must be an illiterate idiot), an approach that was too aggressive, that wasn't aggressive enough, that was just right but he didn't mention my favorite fetish right off the bat so we must not be compatible, etc. ad nauseum.
I believe the profile itself, which has become the focus of this thread, is fairly irrelevant, but I suppose it wouldn't hurt to pay some attention to it. If you really are writing nice emails to submissives that attempt to get to know them, chances are your lack of success is, in part, the bitches' faults, not yours. Their overweening pride at their "popularity" will often cause them to reject even men who would be perfect for them. Nevertheless, if I were you I'd follow some of the suggestions made here to improve your profile. If you ignore the nastiness with which the suggestions have been delivered, and look for the repeating pattens (i.e. there were a lot of comments about exclamation points) you will find the lowest common denominator of things that people find "difficult" or off-putting about the profile. I do think this is secondary, however, and that even after you clean up the profile, you're still going to get little to no response. It's just that bad here. There are lots of ways to catch a submissive woman's attention and stand out. Sometimes these techniques are talked about in "Ask a Submissive" in threads with keywords like "email" in them.
Asking questions a good technique and makes you stand out from the crowd. Read each profile you write to and ask a few interesting specific questions about it. Ask things that you think would be fun to answer if you were her, not boring things or obvious questions comments that anybody would think of to ask. Don't forget humor, when you can pull it off. It relaxes the reader and make even start her liking you. Women tend to appreciate men who seem "different" from the other men around them, so anything you can think of to say that will not be the standard ordinary stuff that that anyone would think to say to her is also good. It takes practice to become non-obvious or non-cookie-cutter "sounds the same as all the rest" in an email, but it can be mastered with practice.
You may not think a profile has much relevance in getting responses... and in some cases, as it was in the case of the man who became my Master, that is the case... because he did not have one when he first made his polite approach.
However, had his very interesting and yes, fun questions been accompanied by a name and a profile such as that of the OP's then I would not have received them the same way.
So it is a perfectly valid point when dbff asks in his frustrated tone why people are not responding despite his attempts at treating women with respect for the answer to be: "douche, it might have a lot to do with your profile" (and implied within that response his name).
Simply put, it would be hard for me to read that profile and entertain the image of guy who will treat me with respect.
I don't know if you are familiar with my posting style.
I am often chided by some people for being "too nice" on the forums and for the most part, I detest bullying behavior.
The rest of the posters who are aware of my posting generally think of me as being kind... as noted in their commentaries.
I think your charaterisations of the women on here are incorrect and I take offence at that.
I did an almost unheard of thing and actually answered every single cmail I received until my circumstance changed and I wasn't even looking.
Most women do not have time for that and learned as I did that even the politest rejections are not often responded to in polite ways. Most women are more discriminating and do not bother being polite to people from Nigeria.
Many women here dislike the instant and crude familiarities we often receive.
So, have compassion for the OP and be angry where you perceive injustice.
(You do always have the option of reporting posts that you feel cross the line.)
But do not blame us bitches if we opt not to respond to a profile that is just not in line with what we are looking for.
Many women do not find the pushy, in your face, confrontational style of profiles to be endearing.
And to the OP: the nice thing about profiles is they can be re-written.
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