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Iamsemisweet -> Good manners when contacting potentials (6/2/2011 5:41:40 PM)
I have been on the site, and I have talked to and met, some really great people. But sometimes, I am just surprised at the way people conduct themselves. For example, yesterday I had the following exchange, with a complete stranger: Him: Do you have a slutty side you try to keep hidden. Me: Well Hello to you, too. Him: Sorry, didn't mean to offend. I am just direct. Me: Not offended really, but what do you mean by "direct"? Him: I speak my mind. So, do you have a slutty side you try to keep hidden. Me: Nope, mostly I just act slutty. I have a prudey side I try to keep hidden. LOL So here is my point. Why would any sub woman ever respond favorably to such an approach? Or when someone demands to know their measurements, or demands a picture without even saying hello. Common courtesy always greases the wheels, as my mother used to say.

DarkSteven -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/2/2011 5:47:18 PM)
So some guy was rude. You wasted time chatting with him, and then wasted more time posting about it. Save time. Block, delete.

BonesFromAsh -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/2/2011 5:57:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet Him: Do you have a slutty side you try to keep hidden. I'm curious, why did you even bother replying to the above message? Was there something about it that appealed to you? Did you think the individual would suddenly become more respectful? Personally, I've come to love the "mark as spam and delete" button.

FelineFae -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/2/2011 6:00:22 PM)
Ever notice how some people respond in anger when they are destressed ? The exact emotions they may be feeling could be sadness or confussion, yet the use anger to express themselves. Why ? In our time, anger is seen as a strength. Sadness or confussion are viewed to be weaknesses. We are taught to draw attention to our strengths and hide our weaknesses. Though there are times i am wanting for degree of tact, i feel that honesty is not an excuse to be rude. [sm=2cents.gif]

RedMagic1 -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/2/2011 6:04:44 PM)
A woman told me last week that she went through a period in her life where she would log into chat rooms with the mission to make every hng come. She never got off on this herself, but it was very important to her to satisfy desperate men. Different strokes. Literally.

smartsub10 -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/2/2011 6:05:39 PM)
quote: Personally, I've come to love the "mark as spam and delete" button. Oh yeah.

tj444 -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/2/2011 6:11:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet So here is my point. Why would any sub woman ever respond favorably to such an approach? maybe she would respond cuz she is bored or to play cat and mouse without any intent to ever meet him, just to see how big a hole he digs for himself. [sm=poke.gif] or maybe she has a website she wants guys to subscribe to or some such scam thing. I dont usually waste time with most guys, most email without even reading my profile first. I tend to use the block and delete very liberally. [sm=blasted.gif]

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/2/2011 6:18:00 PM)
quote: Why would any sub woman ever respond favorably to such an approach? Why did you?

DesFIP -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/2/2011 6:18:39 PM)
Was this email or chat? Because if email, why on earth did you bother to respond? And if chat, well that's about par for the course and why so many of us won't do it.

Iamsemisweet -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/2/2011 6:45:10 PM)
All good points. I think I responded because I thought it was kind of funny. But it did get me thinking about approaches.

littlewonder -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/2/2011 7:09:29 PM)
many people come to websites like this because they equal bdsm websites with sex websites which equal easy fucks/lays....why be polite when they assume everyone is here for the same reason? They would never make polite conversation with the hooker they're hiring on the streetcorner so they see no reason to do that here either. Never said their way of thinking is correct, only that is what many think and feel who visit this site and others like it.

ThundersCry -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/2/2011 7:17:11 PM)
What a goofy question he asked... Everyone on here is a slut, in one form or another -L-

LadyPact -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/2/2011 7:37:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BonesFromAsh Personally, I've come to love the "mark as spam and delete" button. Same here, but I still reply first. I tell people that I'm blocking them and why.

BurntKitty -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/2/2011 7:37:49 PM)
<snip> quote: ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet Him: Do you have a slutty side you try to keep hidden. My answer would have been: Do you have a courteous side you keep hidden?

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/2/2011 7:40:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet I have been on the site, and I have talked to and met, some really great people. But sometimes, I am just surprised at the way people conduct themselves. For example, yesterday I had the following exchange, with a complete stranger: Him: Do you have a slutty side you try to keep hidden. Me: Well Hello to you, too. Him: Sorry, didn't mean to offend. I am just direct. Me: Not offended really, but what do you mean by "direct"? Him: I speak my mind. So, do you have a slutty side you try to keep hidden. Me: Nope, mostly I just act slutty. I have a prudey side I try to keep hidden. LOL So here is my point. Why would any sub woman ever respond favorably to such an approach? Or when someone demands to know their measurements, or demands a picture without even saying hello. Common courtesy always greases the wheels, as my mother used to say. LOL... Dugh what a crazy question. It's a bit like asking if Chilli-Dogs really have Chilli. LOL

sunshinemiss -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/3/2011 2:48:59 AM)
So here is my point. Why would any sub woman ever respond favorably to such an approach? Why did you?

VaguelyCurious -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/3/2011 3:26:14 AM)
FR Think about it like this, OP. That's a copy/paste message that would have taken him about 15 seconds to send (I'm picking 15 because it makes the numbers easy, so hush if that sounds a bit fast because I am too lazy to think in inconvenient numbers and the point still stands). If he sends 1000 of them a week (spends four hours and ten minutes over the week - a bit more than half an hour a day) and has an attempt/success rate of 1000:1 then he gets laid once a week. And even if the odds are 4000:1 then he's still getting a new partner once a month. And if they're 12000:1 then he's getting a new partner each quarter. For half an hour a day? Not bad. What the majority of women will do is irrelevant; he only needs that one.

windchymes -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/3/2011 7:25:17 AM)
I'm surprised that after all these years, people still come in here shocked because everyone on the internet isn't a graduate of the Emily Post School of Etiquette. Good lord....you don't do anything!!!! You just continue on with your day!!!!

Iamsemisweet -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/3/2011 7:48:41 AM)
Sunshine, I responded to that identical question. A sense of wonder. I don't necessarily expect that wind. On the other hand, it is a little surprising that someone would use an approach guaranteed to fail when trying to meet a woman. Especially in light of the large number of profiles here that complain others don't respond when they are contacted.

Killerangel -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/3/2011 8:09:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet On the other hand, it is a little surprising that someone would use an approach guaranteed to fail when trying to meet a woman. Especially in light of the large number of profiles here that complain others don't respond when they are contacted. I find that particular point interesting as well, especially when the sender supposedly has all this experience in the BDSM world. You'd think that they'd have learned something by then if they were indeed interacting with live human beings - which is always up for grabs as it is. I think the clueless approachs happen in part because men are linear thinkers. They're on an adult site, they see nudity in the ads and in profile pictures. They just jump right in, they forget that there is a person at the other end. It makes sense to them - guys are action oriented, they just want to get the job done. If that job is their dick then so be it. They forget that women aren't interested in their dick till they know them. One other reason is that an online way to interact I think tends to appeal to those with poor social skills. They really don't know how to interact so they also just dive in and get straight to their point. Both categories don't necessarily see what they are doing as bad manners.

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