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VideoAdminTheta -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/9/2011 2:58:27 PM)
If your post has been removed, please note that it was unacceptable, quoted something unacceptable or responded to it. The thread drifted to age and I think that aspect of the evolution of the thread has pretty much been covered. Please return to the topic and refrain from posting about age. Thank you

sunshinemiss -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/9/2011 3:19:58 PM)
Sunny Quote of the Day goes to hlen5 [sm=friends.gif][sm=waiting.gif] for Mostly age and wisdom go hand-in-hand. Sometimes age walks in the door all alone. http://www.collarchat.com/m_3705092/mpage_6/tm.htm#3713852

SailingBum -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/9/2011 6:18:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aderious quote: ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet I don't agree. Minimum age limits indicate a sub who knows what she wants. I am willing to be somewhat flexible about age, but what could I possibly have in common with someone my son's age, for example. Quite honestly, if someone is too young, they can't match me socially, financially, or in a number of other ways. However, I do agree that, within reason, age has nothing to do with maturity. Men and wimmin have absolutely nothing in common to begin with. Zero. Zilch. Nada. This coming from a guy who cant afford clothes... REALLY Da bitches have everything I want mostly cuz there warm and fuzzy and do as there told. BadOne

hlen5 -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/9/2011 8:08:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss Sunny Quote of the Day goes to hlen5 [sm=friends.gif][sm=waiting.gif] for Mostly age and wisdom go hand-in-hand. Sometimes age walks in the door all alone. http://www.collarchat.com/m_3705092/mpage_6/tm.htm#3713852 Woo-Hoo!!!!! I won! I won! I won! (composes herself) Thank You very much, Sunny![;)][;)][;)]

Arpig -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/10/2011 2:53:57 AM)
quote: Most (not all) of the ones I see that are my age are fat, bald and dress bad. Babe, some of us never dressed any other way. But don't hold it against us, its not our fault, FBS (Fashion Blindness Syndrome) is a serious disease and there is as of yet no known cure.

Arpig -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/10/2011 2:59:34 AM)
quote: Used to be all a guy had to do was buy me drinks. Why the hell do I only meet you girls AFTER you become selective!?!

Iamsemisweet -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/10/2011 9:54:14 AM)
Good point, Arpig, in the FBS. I think that is recognized under the Americans with Disabilities Act. LOL

oldermaster4u -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/10/2011 2:42:43 PM)
On the other hand, I have emailed female subs whose manners are not so hot either. I was friendly and nice and on a half a dozen well thought out and well intentioned mai!s I did not get ANY response. Some of my sent emails were even deleted unread. Bad manners are not found only in males or dom's.

juliaoceania -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/10/2011 2:50:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: oldermaster4u On the other hand, I have emailed female subs whose manners are not so hot either. I was friendly and nice and on a half a dozen well thought out and well intentioned mai!s I did not get ANY response. Some of my sent emails were even deleted unread. Bad manners are not found only in males or dom's. I do not think we owe strangers a response to their queries.... Recently my mom was shopping around for a home loan, and she got preapproved with this one lender who offered her a not so great rate. She went on and found a much better rate with another lender. This lady from the first place she went to called her several times, and my mom politely let her know she was not interested presently... This woman actually cornered me in the grocery store to ask why my mom still wasn't returning her calls... well, sometimes no response IS a response, no one owes us one.... even if we tried to "seal a deal" with them in a handful of emails. And this has nothing to do with manners. Manners are reserved for people I know in the real world, not strangers who have their own agenda on the internet.

VaguelyCurious -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/10/2011 2:51:25 PM)
Honestly? On the internet that's not particularly bad manners. An unsolicited mail is just that - unsolicited. And if it's unsolicited I don't personally think that there's any obligation to reply.

Arturas -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/10/2011 3:04:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet I have been on the site, and I have talked to and met, some really great people. But sometimes, I am just surprised at the way people conduct themselves. For example, yesterday I had the following exchange, with a complete stranger: Him: Do you have a slutty side you try to keep hidden. Me: Well Hello to you, too. Him: Sorry, didn't mean to offend. I am just direct. Me: Not offended really, but what do you mean by "direct"? Him: I speak my mind. So, do you have a slutty side you try to keep hidden. Me: Nope, mostly I just act slutty. I have a prudey side I try to keep hidden. LOL So here is my point. Why would any sub woman ever respond favorably to such an approach? Or when someone demands to know their measurements, or demands a picture without even saying hello. Common courtesy always greases the wheels, as my mother used to say. Why would any sub woman respond favorably to such an approach? I'm not sure he conducted himself so poorly an you seemed to enjoy it and did a good comeback; I enjoyed reading it. I'm also reminded that this is fairly tame for a CM exchange. As for his approach, you know, it's not like he demanded you serve him or something out there and this did take place on CM rather than on a vanilla dating site. Additionally, doing an online conversation and making it interesting takes some skill developement and he is likely doing that. I think you should enjoy the attention and be less critical of someone who thought you were interesting. Trust me, some of the approaches by women to me here are pornographic and since I am on CM it seemed pretty natural and I did not judge the approach as I would in a sports bar setting on Saturday night.

Iamsemisweet -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/10/2011 3:51:58 PM)
I understand what you are saying Arturas, and since I started this thread, I have been approached in far more unacceptable ways than the exchange I started with. And actually, such an approach is not limited to non vanilla websites. Having been in the dating world for a while (sigh) I am beginning to think I have heard everything.

VaguelyCurious -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/10/2011 3:59:07 PM)
Never say that you've heard everything. The universe will take them as fighting words. [8D]

RedMagic1 -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/10/2011 4:18:07 PM)
It has been some days now. Have you looked at female profiles? The ones that say they won't write back unless the man explains what her life will be like when she is owned. Or the ones that day in capital letters that they have no interest in switches, only in natural take charge doms. Some men type aggressively because they are typing with one hand. Others are that way because they think it is what they are supposed to do. It took me a while to realize that dating was not a popularity contest -- that I wanted certain people to reject my advances, because we were incompatible and it would save us both time. I got an email this morning from a woman I have not met, inviting me to a trapeze swinging class -- you learn how to somersault in the air from one trapeze to the next. I said yes, but I knew it was part of her filter. A man who said no would not be dorky adventurous enough for her. It will be fun, who knows about anything else. I don't see the purpose of profiles or emails to be attracting attention; their purpose is to sort people in and out.

Awareness -> RE: Good manners when contacting potentials (6/11/2011 8:36:36 AM)
I'm factoring the odds here. Do you want: A) A genuine answer to your question? B) To bitch about an email you received in a tone of righteous indignation? I'm going with B. Here's a news flash for all the chicks. Nobody gives a flying fuck about the contents of your inbox. Really. Suck it up and deal with it.

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