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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
None, but as you pointed to yourself, the content of the boards is more how to treat people and live in power dynamics than what to do in the bedroom.  And she ran an order for much of her life.

Still, even if you don't like that example, some of the strongest posters here have had illnesses or disabilities (or just life realities, like, well, deployment) that have kept them from being as sexually active as they used to be.  Their current physical situations don't suddenly turn them into fantasists.

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The words themselves shouldn't be banned, I can think of a lot of ways "cocksucker" can be used without it being an insult. Things like that are OK, it's just a word then, but throwing it at a gay man with the intent to belittle or demean makes it a weapon. That isn't OK. Pick a different word, it's just wrong on a site like this to use a person's sexual practices against them.

Actually I see it as unoffensive to call a gay man a cocksucker, especially if he calls himself one.... it is offensive to call a het man one with the intention of using gayness as an insult. As if being gay is a bad thing

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The words themselves shouldn't be banned, I can think of a lot of ways "cocksucker" can be used without it being an insult. Things like that are OK, it's just a word then, but throwing it at a gay man with the intent to belittle or demean makes it a weapon. That isn't OK. Pick a different word, it's just wrong on a site like this to use a person's sexual practices against them.

Actually I see it as unoffensive to call a gay man a cocksucker, especially if he calls himself one.... it is offensive to call a het man one with the intention of using gayness as an insult. As if being gay is a bad thing

Yet it still reverts back to the intent and context in which calling a gay man a cocksucker is used. Too often it is used in a moment of anger and extreme frustration that it is not appropriate.

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We're not everywhere, and we don't read all the posts and all the threads, so often we only know there is a problem if someone hits the report button. This accounts for quite a bit of the "but Suzy said it on the other thread and nothing happened to her" types of messages that land in my inbox on the other side.

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ORIGINAL: SternSkipper

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We're not everywhere, and we don't read all the posts and all the threads, so often we only know there is a problem if someone hits the report button. This accounts for quite a bit of the "but Suzy said it on the other thread and nothing happened to her" types of messages that land in my inbox on the other side.

Well thanks for letting us know you're not "Living Goddesses" like that charlatan Icarys always implies... Guys ... Cease operations on that pyramid we were building in their honor... and somebody take that chick out of her martini.

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It's funny. I recently unblocked someone (because I'm an optimist), and even though I have done my level best to keep the conversation civil, it seems I was still adding to mod workload.

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That's the Resident Sadist's job to remove her from the martini glass. I'll just wait to be whipped and chained by Lance!

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Nah...you're looking for a bevy of beauties to be lining up between your legs!

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To be fair, the only reason there is a politics and religion forum in the first place is to keep that stuff out of the rest of the forum.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Since we're actually talking about moderation, there is one thing that I'd like to see handled a bit more heavily and that is derogatory comments regarding sexual orientation.  Throwing terms around in a negative way (like cocksucker or queer is a bad thing) isn't something I think should have a lot of leniency on a site like this one.  I honestly don't care if it's buried in Politics and Religion or not.  I don't think it belongs on the site anywhere.

I agree with this....

That also goes towards kinks, which many people cannot post about other people's kinks without adding their personal commentary, and I am not talking "It does not work for me, but if it works for you" comments... but people that do XYZ are in some way sick, or gross, or abusive.... (there is a subset of people here who are really weirded out about daddy doms for example).

I just think, if it ain't your kink, why do you care?

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not if she doesn't suck.



And how is it you know she didn't?




I may be of somewhat more advancing years than I would like most of the time, but I would have remembered it.

You can quote me.

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Where do the mods draw the lines?

You have put downs for sexual orientation and kinks.

What about the put downs of intelligence, weight or someone's looks?

How about bad language?

How about passive aggressive attacks vs. in your face snark?

Everything is subjective right? If I reply strongly to a comment that someone makes putting women or subs down, since I am a female sub, I feel justified in commenting on the topic.

There are some posters here who incessantly post negative comments designed to provoke women. I sometimes fall prey to that and reply in full snark mode; I am well aware of that.

When I reply back, I feel justified in making a point. And yet, those same posters claim that I am personally attacking them, when in fact, they attacked a group that I am part of.

Perception vs. reality.

I don't think there is any solution to this topic other than people trying to take the high road, but that will never happen.

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Where do the mods draw the lines?

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You have put downs for sexual orientation and kinks.

What about the put downs of intelligence, weight or someone's looks?

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How about passive aggressive attacks vs. in your face snark?

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Everything is subjective right?

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Perception vs. reality.

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figure out if the person is getting into personal attacks, or just stating an opinion?