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LillyBoPeep -> RE: What am i doing wrong? (6/23/2011 5:15:49 AM)
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i'm not a Dominant, but a lot of the same principles apply because, FemDom or femsub, we're both female. if i got a message from someone with your name, i would pass. i tend to ignore messages from Dominants with similar names, like MasterAssLuvr, or BBCDom4u, SlutOwner99, or anything like that. to me, it's a sign of a thought process that i have no compatibility with; the sex/kink is the primary emphasis or motivation for them, even at the cost of being original or creative and showing something about who they really are, while it isn't for me.
in this medium, every little bit goes into a first impression, and a screenname DOES matter.
i dunno if you've done any modifications to your profile yet, but perhaps take away the "Hello Mistress" salutation, and replace it with a simple "Hello." your profile comes across to me as not so much desperate but as groveling, and oddly enough, random groveling is a turn-off for many. you need to talk more about YOURSELF and less about the kink you're into -- not only do you have this information in your Interests, but you have it in the body of your profile. Take it out of your profile (anyone who views your profile can see the interests lists you have) and write a little more about you. What makes you interesting, what non-kink stuff do you do in your spare time, what are you studying? What do you like to read? Women of either orientation like a well-rounded guy who isn't just one-dimensional.
you can always write a journal about your female supremacy ideas (a lot of women like reading journals because they show how your brain works, which is part of what makes you interesting), but frankly, that stuff isn't as attractive to women as you might think. you can SHOW your own mistress that you believe in her right to own you, but you do that with your interactions, showing respect, care, and obedience -- that comes later, though, not Day 1 on your profile.
and the profile picture -- a nondescript hairy chest is never going to stand out. And honestly, it's probably not as impressive as you think it is. a full-body shot of you, or a face shot, would be better. even if, for some reason, you have to blur out the face or conceal your identity, there are more creative, appealing ways to do it than what you have at the moment.
think of it as doing the same things you'd do to attract a girl offline -- how would you go about finding compatibility in the vanilla world? would you introduce yourself with "hi! i'm one seriously slutty guy!" i hope not. would you walk up to someone, take your shirt off, and throw your chest in her face? i hope not. would you hand her a list of your favorite sexual fantasies? i hope not. you'd introduce yourself, chit chat with her, share opinions, find common ground and hopefully mutual attraction, and move from there.
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