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RE: Who Moves - 5/16/2006 10:38:24 PM

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I don't like the town I live in, so relocating would be something I would like

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RE: Who Moves - 5/17/2006 6:57:38 AM

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I'm glad this thread was started, i was just going to start one, but thought i would check recent threads to see if the subject was being touched on. I agree that indivdual circumstances should dictate who moves when relocation is discussed.

I can't say that i believe being willing to relocate makes One less dominant. However, if a Dominant is too willing to relocate because of upheavals and/or preexsisting issues in their lives, it tends to set off red flags. (for me).
I've been offered the opportunity for relocation, and at this point in my life i can say, pretty adamantly that i would not relocate. When the nest is completely empty i would consider it, but not to the extent that i would only see my family members a few times a year.

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RE: Who Moves - 5/17/2006 7:28:59 AM

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I see nothing wrong with a Dominant being willing to move if it's the right thing to do. If the submissive has ties to his/her area that can not be severed, but the Dominant can; then by all means, he/she should be the one to move.
Relationships of ANY kind are all about the willingness to compromise.

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RE: Who Moves - 5/17/2006 10:20:40 AM

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I wouldn't initially expect to move for a relationship with a slave, I'd initially expect the slave to move to me. However, sometimes this just isn't practical and I'm a practical, logical person. My girl anne is married, I am not. I'm at a point in my life where I can pick up and move, so I will be moving to her. But, moving for a slave isn't something that I'd advertise as an option, even if it is. It just seems...wrong for me....somehow. I'm not totally sure why.

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RE: Who Moves - 5/17/2006 11:06:24 AM

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"Willing to Relocate" can mean many things. I have it on my profile and I consider myself a "dom".

Personally, I have tried to arrange my life for the maximum freedom in my choices. Isn't that what a dom does?

Isn't the "ideal" dom one who has the freedom and the ability to live where he or she wants? If she or he wants?

I've always liked to travel, and have lived all over the world. Where I currently live I have connections and property, but I find traveling and living in different places more of a broadening experience, rather than a reflection of dominance.

That doesn't mean I will move anywhere. I don't particularly like places that are cold and deary (been there, done that), and I do like places that are sunny and warm - preferably with a nice beach and some of those little umbrella drinks easily available.

I even address this issue in my profile here slightly, and on another site in great detail. In my line of work, I really require nothing more than a couple of phone lines, a computer and internet access. I enjoy new places, and am willing to consider relocating for the right woman, because the woman I asked for (and found) should be "competent in her own life". I sought that fully aware that it might mean she might have commitments that might make it difficult for her to relocate to me.

We have talked about this issue, and as things develop, it's possible that she will relocate. It's possible I will relocate. It's possible we will both relocate to the Bahamas or some other idyllic Carribean island.

How is arranging your life to your satisfaction anything but "domly", however you chose to do it?

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RE: Who Moves - 5/17/2006 11:45:42 AM

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I think it's a knee-jerk reaction by subs to consider the ability to relocate by a Dom as a bit of a red flag. I've been guilty of it myself... equating that flexibility with lack of stability.

Fortunately, my knee-jerk reactions can be effectively countered. ;)

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RE: Who Moves - 5/17/2006 12:03:09 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FirmhandKY
How is arranging your life to your satisfaction anything but "domly", however you chose to do it?
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I would consider relocating because:
1. My professional skills are readily transferable
2. I enjoy travel always have and look forward to more
3. Children are grown
4. I live in a community for my work not because of a personal love of the area

As to the imbalance of power in relocating to a slave/sub:
As previously suggested look for a new house to share and/or relocate jointly within the area.

I do not believe flexibilty and openess to new situations indicates any level of imbalance in a person's psyche or lessens their dominant personality, quite the contrary I would argue.

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