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RE: Can you take what you dish out? - 10/2/2006 6:44:53 PM

MaggieMommy

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OMG! What a wonderful topic question. No, I don't enjoy the same things at all when I am expressing my slavery to my husband through scening, as when I am expressing my dominance of my girl, through scening. Moreover, she does not enjoy even close to what I prefer when compared sub to sub. Different ends of the spectrum entirely, and Sir Stephen does not view us in remotely the same way, and scenes with each of us in totally different ways.

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RE: Can you take what you dish out? - 10/7/2006 2:40:32 PM

kenpretend

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What you say is ABSOLUTELY the core attraction of switching
My games have been alternate giving and receiving- every swatt I take - I must give
Every swatt I give .....I am due to receive back ....in spades

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RE: Can you take what you dish out? - 10/24/2006 5:44:57 PM

Amelora

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For the most part I can take what ever I give out. I am a pretty heavy bottem, so this works for me. I will how ever learn to do something I don't happening to me if it is something that my sub is interested in. For example water sports is a hard limit for myself as a sub, but it costs me nothing to do it to my sub if they enjoy it, so it is something I will use as a treat for them

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RE: Can you take what you dish out? - 10/30/2006 7:35:32 AM

jthorne

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ORIGINAL: TNstepsout

Ok, this is just a "for fun" question. As a Switch do you enjoy the same kinds of activities, whether top or bottom, or do you find that what you can take as a bottom is very different than what you like to dish out as a Top? Do you have limits as a bottom that you love to engage in as a top?

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I domme the same way I want to be dommed. *grin* Although I will venture out of the comfort zone *****within reason***** for a good, honest sub who wants me to, as I'm all about keeping them happy. I wouldn't do that for a domme, because my limits are my limits and any going beyond them would be something I came to want completely on my own. But I suppose it IS all the same...the sub wants, and if it's good and they're good, the sub can have.

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RE: Can you take what you dish out? - 10/30/2006 8:33:20 PM

AvalonGoddess

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Wow I finally delved into this "ask a switch section" after reading through Domme and Mom sections.. and yep I feel at home. I am a bit of a pain slut, though certainly not extreme as I am fairly new to the lifestyle, but acting submissive to men doesn't come easilly to me.. so I am experimenting with topping in the s/m part of things... I have mentally dominated and done some work on a male sub under the supervision of an experienced Domme.. found I really didn't get a kick out of causing pain but knowing that the pain feels "good" to me I do it out of generousity. So far it hasn't served as foreplay for me ie. I don't get arousal out of it the way my former Dom did when hitting me. I also don't like stingy pain like from sticks and paddles, but yes I gave it... he craved it... and it was fun. I have been collecting paddles and such to use on others but when I handle the thick belts and floggers I just keep thinking how good this would feel to me.
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RE: Can you take what you dish out? - 10/31/2006 4:12:04 PM

AberrantSwitch

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For the most part I don’t want to inflict more then I could take, although I like to push her limits (sensibly). But I expect (and hope) that whatever I do to her, she’ll turn around and use against me.
Frankly I hope my tolerance is still higher then hers.

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RE: Can you take what you dish out? - 11/4/2006 11:00:51 AM

beltainefaerie

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I find that my limits and what pleases me just depend on my mood in either role. I enjoy using tools on subs that I hate when subbing, precisely because of that. I know for me, taking something that I don't like, because it pleases my Master is in a different way, pleasing. Does that makes sense? Anyway, I enjoy the psychological aspects of it as well. I would not want to push anyone farther than they were comfortable with, but I could dish out things I wouldn't want to take. For example, I can't handle the paddle as a sub, but would be delighted to watch someone squirm under a paddle for me. We all have different limits. I would dish out things I could not take as a sub, if my sub would enjoy the ride. My primary brat, however, has vastly different (stronger) limits than I do. It has less to do with what I am comfortable with and more to do with her past. There are a variety of situations that I adore as a sub that I can't put her into. For instance, she was abused by her grandmother as a child, so paint stirrers and belts are totally out. She also pretty much can't take anything on her ass, as that is generally where she was hit. Over time as we build trust, I may be able to take her farther.

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