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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/15/2011 12:16:09 AM   
lobodomslavery


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Thats how I know not to give MONEY to anyone PERIOD
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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/15/2011 9:20:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		Didja miss the big red letters at the top of every c-mail sent that says, and I quote, "DO NOT SEND MONEY TO OTHER USERS FOR ANY REASON!"?  There's obviously a reason why it's there.  But then, if you choose to ignore it, then no one to blame but yourself.  It's called common sense and judgement. 


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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/15/2011 9:54:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: tiggerspoohbear

It's called common sense and judgement. 



Ya know, most guys who send money to an online "mistress" before anything, hoping for more, have no problem with the judgement part. They pass judgement on these women for wanting money....problem is, they forget to pass judgement on themselves for sending cash in the first place. You know how the song goes..."Money for nothing and chicks for free"

As for commen sense, there's no such thing. It's now called extraordinary sense because only extraordinary people have it.


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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/15/2011 11:26:10 AM   
tiggerspoohbear


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Now bow to me peasants, I'm no longer common, I'm royalty!!!

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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/15/2011 12:03:15 PM   
BonesFromAsh


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ORIGINAL: tiggerspoohbear

Now bow to me peasants, I'm no longer common, I'm royalty!!!


Does that make you the Grand PoohBear?

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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/15/2011 12:25:21 PM   
tiggerspoohbear


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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/15/2011 4:48:35 PM   
seekingOwnertoo


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ORIGINAL: NothingWithoutYo

Could an experienced collarme user please tell is it normal that a mistress ask for money like in the first 2/3 messages of a conversation?



I apologize, but your OP caught my eye.

Frankly, I assume you are a male; and yes, this happens ALL the time!

I cannot count how many games like this have been attempted on me.

The Mod's can give you more details on scams, if you need to ask them.

But I find, if the profile or her early emails, do NOT tell you SHE is a Pro-Domme, and "she" asks for money ... "she" is a fraud!

Plain and simple.

It is very easy for guys to take a picture today, and make a profile as the person in the picture. In fact, couples use this "team" technique, too!

If you are going to spend money, then HAND it to a Pro-Domme, when you meet!

Or better yet, meet a Lovely Lady who is willing to go to dinner, with you!

Good luck!


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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/15/2011 10:33:09 PM   
seekingreality


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ORIGINAL: NothingWithoutYo

Could an experienced collarme user please tell is it normal that a mistress ask for money like in the first 2/3 messages of a conversation? I am not a gullable person and I am refusing to send money without so much of a photo of them to verify who they are. It would be stupid of me to do so. They say they need it to show I am for real, then why not a phone conversation?




Personally, I don't get the financial domme thing. If you are going to give someone money -- in the form of a fee, tribute, Amazon wish list or whatever -- I'd say you should simply look through the many professional dommes' web site, find someone you like, and then purchase a session. I can't fathom why someone who was willing to give money to a domme would bother to go through the rigamarole of CM -- it's a buyer's market if you want a pro.

I suppose some people have this psychological need of pretending they have a personal relationship rather than a purchased one. Still, you have to be sensible. If someone you've never met is demanding money, you have to be smart enough to realize all they want is your money, not you.

So if you are willing to give a domme money, don't give it for nothing. Purchase a session and order up what you want.

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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/16/2011 4:55:05 PM   
hangemhigh1953


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Status: offline 		Your profile text looks pretty filled with fantasy, I think you should erase it, learn MUCH more about the lifestyle, then try again with something a bit more realistic-sounding. Otherwise you're just going to attract scammers and porn bots, because they know what a gullible, inexperienced profile sounds like.

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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/16/2011 6:29:43 PM   
JJ05


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If I had to guess, I would say there are about 10 male subs for every Mistress. Might as well learn to be patient and just keep at it. Expecting to fine a Domme you are compatible with right off the bat, I just don't see that as being realistic.

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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/16/2011 7:33:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: JJ05

How hard is it to find a genuine Mistress?

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If I had to guess, I would say there are about 10 male subs for every Mistress. Might as well learn to be patient and just keep at it. Expecting to fine a Domme you are compatible with right off the bat, I just don't see that as being realistic.



Add another zero, JJ. 100 to 1 is more like it. But don't let the ratio discourage you...for every 100 submissive males, a genuine Mistress might want to move forward with only 1 or 2. Same criteria applies as vanilla relationships: single? Is there chemistry? Single? Are there common interests beyond the lifestyle? Single? Geographically compatible? Single? On the same plane with fundamental beliefs, outlook, position in life? Single? Time and desire to actually commit to a significant relationship? Single? Do we genuinely like each other? Single? Etc...etc...etc...etc...etc... And at the very, very last...do our bdsm interests have enough in common to be satisfying to both? Single?

Is it hard to find a genuine Mistress? Not really, unless you are do-me and/or married douchecanoe in which case a fat wallet and/or your left or right hand will be your best friend. Carry on, amigo

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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/16/2011 11:11:10 PM   
SexyBossyBBW


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Status: offline 		Everything is normal online. Use your brain/common sense, and act like you would as if someone walked up to you and asked you for whatever!!! M

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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/17/2011 5:26:15 AM   
JJ05


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Status: offline 		MistressDarkArt ......... But don't let the ratio discourage you...

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Oh, I don't, not at all. My attitude on this is that you just have to keep at it, be open to any contacts and exploring any possibilities I run into. You never know what might happen. If a person doesn't keep at it, keeps on trying, nothing would ever be accomplished. And in the meantime, I just try to enjoy the process and the experience and get anything useful out of it that I can. Looking at various profiles, reading what different Mistresses have to say, one can learn a whole lot not only about the whole BDSM experience but also about what I would prefer myself. The bottom line is that a person just has to keep at it.

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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/17/2011 6:46:18 AM   
stoni23


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Looking at various profiles, reading what different Mistresses have to say, one can learn a whole lot not only about the whole BDSM experience but also about what I would prefer myself. The bottom line is that a person just has to keep at it.


I wouldn't view the profiles on Collarme as a typical BDSM lifestyle experience. 90% if not more of the Domme profiles I see are kids with fantasies. This whole you are a piece of shit attitude and will serve me as I see fit thing is not what I consider to be the BDSM experience. I'd say 1/10 Domme profiles are real people with an actual understanding of the difference between fantasy and reality.

For those of you that will pick this apart because that's what you do. I'm NOT saying 1/10 people on CM are real. I'm saying 1/10 Dommes are real AND understand the difference between fantasy and reality.

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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/17/2011 6:47:49 AM   
SuperHappyTime


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

Add another zero, JJ. 100 to 1 is more like it.


I think you may be overstating it a little - certainly in terms of CM profiles the ratio is nowhere near 100:1. In my searches of Domme profiles the ratio is somewhere between 5 and 10:1 and that's not including the effect of the 100+ profiles I've hidden from view (i.e. findommes, pro or lifestylers who can't say anything interesting, anyone with a wishlist in their profile, most Dommes who state that they don't want any more sub men despite still having them listed etc etc). Obviously there are none of the male subs who I've hidden (and clearly from a Domme perspective there are soo many that could be considered not serious / inappropriate). Now there may be sample bias and Brit women of 35+ just may be a right kinky lot (yay!), but the ratio is likely to be less than 10:1.

Rejoice genuinely seeking subs, your chance of finding someone has gone from "yeah right!" to "Pretty unlikely!". Happy days!



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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/17/2011 7:06:49 AM   
stoni23


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Status: offline 		If you're sincere, and have an intelligent profile, and have intelligent thought out posts here on the forums: you will find someone. It just takes patience and an open mind.

< Message edited by stoni23 -- 8/17/2011 7:07:10 AM >

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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/17/2011 7:09:52 AM   
SuperHappyTime


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ORIGINAL: stoni23

If you're sincere, and have an intelligent profile, and have intelligent thought out posts here on the forums: you will find someone. It just takes patience and an open mind.


Err..yeah, thanks for that

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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/17/2011 9:42:32 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		I changed my settings on the other side (where I pretty much go to check my mail every few days) to Michigan folks, any age/gender/orientation. There are VERY FEW of the red lettered names! VERY few. Of those, half are pro ONLY, and a big chunk of the rest are semi pro/not interested in relationship. Not sure if that has any meaning, just an observation of how things have changed in my area.

And thankfully, I get very little spam mail. I kind of gigglesnort when the same guys write to me...like they don't remember talking to the flower lady?

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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/17/2011 9:54:10 AM   
SuperHappyTime


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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I changed my settings on the other side (where I pretty much go to check my mail every few days) to Michigan folks, any age/gender/orientation. There are VERY FEW of the red lettered names! VERY few. Of those, half are pro ONLY, and a big chunk of the rest are semi pro/not interested in relationship. Not sure if that has any meaning, just an observation of how things have changed in my area.

And thankfully, I get very little spam mail. I kind of gigglesnort when the same guys write to me...like they don't remember talking to the flower lady?


Yeah, its been like that for ages - ever since the Michigan Domme plague in the late 80's. Terrible, terrible business.

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RE: Collarme Mistresses - 8/17/2011 10:06:59 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Each time I've done the research on this, I've gotten roughly the same numbers.  I'm the first to admit that it's really crude and is very open to flaw. 

Every time that I have looked at accounts opened in the last twenty-four hour period, the numbers do come in at roughly 10:1.  (That's male submissives in the US any age, race, etc compared to female Dominants in the same time frame.)  Generally, it's about a hundred males a day compared to roughly ten females that join in that same period.  I'm not going to say anything about the content of the ten, because most folks around here can decide such things for themselves.

With this in mind, no, not every male submissive is going to find a Dominant on CM.  The numbers just don't support it.


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