Tazzy, littlewonder, LadyP. None of that is training in the sense used by the OP, It is effectively exactly what Heather calls her learning. I don't call it training, learning, guidance or teaching, I call it showing/telling them what I want. Oh well, semantics, different terms for the same thing.
But the sort of training the OP is talking about is a very different thing, and I don't do that either. I expect somebody who submits to me to do so. If I have to enforce their submission, then I don't want it.
If she is having trouble, then we'll talk it over, figure it out. Who knows, maybe I'm being unreasonable, maybe she has some deep seated issues she is running up against. Training or breaking her won't fix that, only push it aside. Communicating and working together will.
I was responding to what Heather said.
Telling me to take Midol wont help your butthurt.
RIP, my demon-child 5-16-11
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Dont judge me because I sin differently than you.
If you want it sugar coated, dont ask me what i think! It would violate TOS.