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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 8/28/2011 6:05:28 AM

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I suggest you get some training and actually just get some experience before you start charging people. You need to specialise in something and know what you want. Being a Pro Domme is far from easy and it's not something that happens over night either. You really need to know your stuff. Like someone else said either find a Mistress who will take you on or get yourself in the right circles. Munches etc might help.

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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 8/28/2011 12:56:18 PM

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Actually, to be a proper pro-Domme, you're a bit on the old and wrinkly side once you're out of your teen years, OP. However, you can make up for your droopy grooblies and buttocks by being wise and knowing, and stuff.

I hope that helps.

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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 8/29/2011 8:53:21 AM

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could i have some advice on the following;
* a guys coming to my flat for a session how do i keep safe (i have people on text alert if you catch my drift but anything else like licence plates etc)
You don't. You are inviting strange men into your home and you have no way of knowing ahead of time if they are really interested in seeing a pro or they have mental issues and will end up coming back and making you the latest victim in a sex crime. There are a lot of sick people out there just waiting for someone like you.

*my "routine" is a little wooden. any sexy fun ideas any one could suggest. what are good humiliation exercises etc etc
If you are going to charge for this, you should really learn what you are doing first. Otherwise you just make the rest of the pros look like lazy little twits.

*does it matter that i cant afford equipment yet, does homemade make do?
That would depend on how fussy your clients are and how good you are at improvising.

*how i know if a guy really isn't enjoying himself lol
Well if you honestly can't tell by their reactions the next best thing would be to keep track of how many repeat customers you get.

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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 9/1/2011 12:00:18 AM

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You're my first post.
I don't like that you are 'starting out' by inviting subs to your home. "Unwise" is the very best way I can put it.
Find out what you're doing and get a solid safety plan in place BEFORE you start inviting strangers into your home. Just because someone claims to identify as a sub doesn't mean they are guaranteed harmless. Basic safety is my only issue with this situation.

Also, from the subs point of view- yeah, you need some experience before you can claim to be Pro. Also for safety's sake alone.

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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 9/1/2011 12:46:10 AM

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I myself started at a dungeon house. Learned all the basics from there and made some cash. I quickly became bored with the douchbaggery of rules and clientele. I quickly started making friends in all the right circles. Learn a little here learn a little there. I've been trained by some of the best domes in NYC. Will be making my way overseas very soon and right now am working on my own play space. Bdsm is no joke. Especially if you want to be a pro in the industry. You can't just overnight say hey I'm going to start charging dudes. You could seriously hurt someone if you don't know how to do something properly. You dont want to be that domme that ends up on tv and sets back Bdsm years back from what it is today... I mean not like it's really mainstream or anything. Just be careful take your time and learn.

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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 9/1/2011 11:13:09 AM

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MsSofiaprincess Whilst you may of lied about your age, your only a few years older than what you state in your profile and so I'm not sure why you think men will find you more attractive as a 19 year old than your true age of 21. I'm happy to confirm that without a shadow of a doubt Sofia is who she says she is in every other way and that all the pictures are of her.

Anyone can set themselves up as a pro Domme but that doesn't mean they are any good at it or that they will make any money. There's no qualification, no degree to be had in this business but the one thing pro Dommes rely on is their good reputation and to earn that you need to know and understand your trade. As well as the art of S/m techniques you need to understand a lot about D/s. Not all subs are alike, in fact each and every one of them want something different from you. You have to be a good actress because not every guy that walks through your door is going to look like Brad Pitt. When you have a sweaty 280lb guy dribbling on your boots you are not allowed to vomit! Yes, one can be choosy but believe me, when that 280lb guy is your best and most reliable client, your not going to be turning him away.
You have to learn about the actual running of the business and how it works overall. You have to have a dungeon or at least be in a co/operative. You need to have a secretary because at no time should you be working alone. You need to learn about appropriate hygiene techniques and contamination risks. You have to learn and understand about advertizing yourself and having your own webpage. I know you understand about that already.

Others have mentioned training with other Mistresses and personally I believe, if you want to make serious money at this, that's the only way to go. Getting that training, especially with top Mistresses (which I highly recommend but do your homework) isn't going to come easy. Don't go for someone in your area because your a threat to their turf especially as your young and pretty. Be prepared to travel and be prepared to earn peanuts whilst your training. Remember its a good investment because if you get in with a top Mistress you will likely become a top Mistress yourself.
Just because your young and sexy doesn't mean you will get loads of work. The top Mistress (in the way of reputation and earnings) presently in the UK is in her late 40s. A lot of the young Dommes have linked domination onto their escort trade and are ten a penny. Don't be just another one of those!
Finally I would say specialize but you can only choose what route you want to specialize in after or during your training.

Good luck
CM is not a good starting ground. You don't see any Dommes on here that you would see in UK Mistresses. What you see on here are women earning pocket change for a whole heap of hard work.

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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 9/1/2011 12:14:01 PM

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I'm not sure why you think men will find you more attractive as a 19 year old than your true age of 21.

Nor am I. Does a bigger market open up for those who advertise themselves as 'teen Dommes'? Very odd.

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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 9/1/2011 12:59:32 PM

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Peon I think it is just marketing, playing to the lowest denominator.

Or some cop trying to bust perverts!

( I remember generic dude working on a net sting operation.....going after guys trolling for underaged......and that was the sort of shit they saw)

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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 9/1/2011 1:00:37 PM

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"Teen Dommes" sounds like a sitcom that would be on the pervy Disney channel, right after iCarly or whatever.

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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 9/1/2011 1:12:07 PM

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Oh good god Hibby!!!!!!!!

That made me snort laugh and I am still laughing.

Fucking Icarly shit......my grandsons actually WANT to watch that crap now! WHY???? It must be their mutant mother's genetics I tell ya!

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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 9/1/2011 1:13:36 PM

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Shoot, I wont even leave that on for my PARROT!

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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 9/1/2011 1:56:18 PM

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*Chortle*

Sounds like it could work for the same demographic as 'Buffy The Vampire Slayer'. High kicks with no knickers, though. Phwoargh!

Seriously - it's kind of cute: the age difference between 19 and 21 might well feel enormous to someone of that age. Funny!

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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 9/1/2011 2:44:24 PM

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I wonder, if when I am 51 I should pretend to be 49?

The few seconds I've given myself to consider it, I cannot imagine why.

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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 9/1/2011 3:23:24 PM

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Dear Ms Sophia,

If you just want to make some extra money you don't need to be very experienced or skillful. It's your attitude and enthusiasm that counts, rather than having a practised routine, or lots of equipment and a rubber dress.

Good luck!

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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 9/1/2011 3:29:39 PM

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Put a six foot whip in both our hands and let's see if you say that one again.

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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 9/1/2011 3:56:47 PM

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I wonder, if when I am 51 I should pretend to be 49?

The few seconds I've given myself to consider it, I cannot imagine why.

Yes you should, La T. 51 is too old to be having sex. It's unseemly and, frankly, shouldn't be allowed.

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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 9/1/2011 8:52:31 PM

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... The top Mistress (in the way of reputation and earnings) presently in the UK is in her late 40s. ...

Imagine! U.K. guys choosing to spend their money on someone who actually knows what she's doing! Just another reason to love the Brits.

And this "When you have a sweaty 280lb guy dribbling on your boots you are not allowed to vomit!"

explains why for some of us there's not enough money in the world to be tempted to dominate someone simply because they've thrown themselves at our feet, virtually or otherwise.

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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 9/1/2011 10:07:58 PM

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Yes you should, La T. 51 is too old to be having sex. It's unseemly and, frankly, shouldn't be allowed.

you only say that because you haven't been fucked by the right 50+ year old.

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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 9/2/2011 3:52:33 AM

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Oh yes I have. And top notch it was, too.

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RE: young domme seeks guidance - 9/2/2011 6:25:43 AM

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I wonder, if when I am 51 I should pretend to be 49?

The few seconds I've given myself to consider it, I cannot imagine why.

51 is too old to be having sex. It's unseemly and, frankly, shouldn't be allowed.

I dont fuckin' think so.

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