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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 8:04:55 AM

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There are some good people out there you just have to look and that sometimes can take awhile. Females and males all have flaws, some worse then others its just all a matter of what you can deal with and what you can't.
Look deep within your ownself as to what truly is important to you and what needs you have, then go try to find someone who comes as close to that as possible. Don't settle for second best, it will never be good enough.

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 8:12:08 AM

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They are out there... work on yourself while you wait... watched pots never boil.

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 8:16:13 AM

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my first post but i felt i needed to say this---there ARE wonderful Doms out there, i have met more than one. sometimes cicumstances are not what we would wish---and life gets in the way through no fault of either party....it's just the way it is. i met a truly wonderful man on my first foray back into this lifestyle after many years away, un fortunately something happened (not his fault, but rather outside influences and obligations and his sense of duty) that made our being together uncomfortable at best and difficult to make work. then his work nessessitated a move out of state. c'est la vie eh? but they are out there----and i have found the more honest you are about who and what you are and what you want, the better chance you have of finding that "One". hang in there!!!!!!

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 9:41:03 AM

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OH believe me there are great Doms out there i should know i am collared to the best (of COURSE i am biased). There are also many bad Doms out there again i am speaking from experience. I think ther is a match for everyone a perfect one. I believe he/she will find yoy whan you are least exepecting it.

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 9:43:22 AM

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Well... I’m sorry to hear your frustrations, but I’m also compelled to say that it’s somewhat therapeutic for me to hear this complaint from the other end of the spectrum from a beautiful submissive woman. It took me years to find the perfect match and the road was EXTREMELY bumpy (I won’t give specifics because I’m sure you have all heard them before).

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 4:39:29 PM

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I guess I am getting jaded in my old age, but all I see is a pre-op transexual getting his kink off.

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 4:49:06 PM

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A lot of it is luck. I never believed that, but I think it's true. My suggestion: get more involved in your life, develop some new hobbies and interests and allow something to unfold (I know, easier said than done).

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 4:56:02 PM

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*grin* I am such a huge CrappyDom fan...

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 5:06:41 PM

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I'm a huge KL fan...even if we do root for different teams and have had some "don't be hatin", I never would and never could.

Kevin

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 8:20:58 PM

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When I feel myself losing faith..I come onto Collarme..and see the many great couples or poly families found on here.I also read many Dominants viewpoints and for the most part ,many of the Dominants on here I respect, ,and thus it gives me hope that if I find many on here that I like or respect then why not out into my R/L...heck I even confess I had a crush on each and every one of them for a moment in time..lol...or maybe 2 moments..(grin)..Tempting

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 11:31:04 PM

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Oh dear...where do I begin? THEY are out there. Just check where you are looking for them and the message you are sending to them while looking. Even if all of that is perfect....a little "fate" doesn't hurt. (ok - sue me - I'm romantic.)

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 11:39:13 PM

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I would recommend finding someone that seems interesting to you and then reading their forum posts. The posts will give you a good idea of how they react to certain situations and can give you pretty good insight into their character.

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 11:43:12 PM

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I don't know, it is probably as hard as finding a real submissive that isn't a man in drag that hides his adams apple with a collar and crosses his legs to hide his bulge.

lololol

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 11:56:31 PM

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I would recommend finding someone that seems interesting to you and then reading their forum posts. The posts will give you a good idea of how they react to certain situations and can give you pretty good insight into their character.

excellent advice *oh wise Loki*... i'm impressed... that's 2 amazing posts i have read from You today

cheekily, tali

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 11:58:15 PM

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tali, it would be worth the swim to paddle your cheeky hiney!

Smiling

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RE: lost faith - 5/23/2006 12:12:21 AM

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oooo... promise Loki???... pleeeaaassseee....

tali grins and wiggles her hiney in His direction...

i'm waiting.... (tali sits drumming her fingers on the desk)

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in giving You my freedom, i gain the freedom to be me ...
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RE: lost faith - 5/23/2006 12:30:53 AM

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i, like pretty much everyone on this site.. can relate extremely well. It's very hard to be let down again and again.. make a connection.. then*poof* they vanish. i did begin to wonder if it was all worth it..and almost walked away... but the optimist in me.. will not allow that.
i go back and remember the good and real Doms/Daddies/Masters i have talked to and even come to be friends with.. and what They have taught me.. and i hold out hope..that one of these times.. the next One i talk to will be the last One i have to talk to..and i will be His for good.
Yeah.. it's kind of the BDSM version of "happily ever after".. but hey... i am still a sappy girl in a slaves body.

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RE: lost faith - 5/23/2006 12:34:15 AM

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oooo... promise Loki???... pleeeaaassseee....

tali grins and wiggles her hiney in His direction...

i'm waiting.... (tali sits drumming her fingers on the desk)

You should be careful what you wish for!http://www.geocities.com/elesamees

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Submission is not a gift... it is plunder!
Where there is a whip, there is a way!
Dom/mes of a feather, beat the f*ck out of slaves together

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RE: lost faith - 5/23/2006 4:19:27 AM

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There have been some very good posts on this thread and i don't know anyone who has never had to deal with adversity or betrayal of some kind. So it seems to me that at the end of the matter is comes down to a personal choice, what kind of person do i want to be. Do i want to be a bitter person dealing out on others the injustices that i have been dealt or do i want to be a better person dealing with others the way that i wish to be dealt with?

Do the latter isn't always easy, but it does tend to make it easier for one to sleep at night. And in the end, i believe that a person reaps what they sow, even if they have to walk through a bit of dung to reap it.

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RE: lost faith - 5/23/2006 5:41:35 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld

quote:

ORIGINAL: talibahh

oooo... promise Loki???... pleeeaaassseee....

tali grins and wiggles her hiney in His direction...

i'm waiting.... (tali sits drumming her fingers on the desk)

You should be careful what you wish for!http://www.geocities.com/elesamees

dear fairy God Mother... i wish.... i wish... i wish...

lmao...(loved the site, thanks Loki)

ooo... You buying a yaught Loki? i thought You was swimming down???

tali runs off to sydney harbour to wait for her Ship to come in...

tali

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