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RE: lost faith - 5/23/2006 6:00:40 AM   
Wulfchyld


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RE: lost faith - 5/23/2006 6:09:10 AM   
talibahh


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guess i won't have to wait too long at the harbour then...
 


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RE: lost faith - 5/23/2006 7:17:40 AM   
cloudboy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: 34shadesofblue

Anyone got any ideas on how to restore faith that there are real, honest, genuine, loyal, true,understanding ,respectful Doms (real)out there?or am i just dreaming that those qualities are possible?


Two things:

1) If you market yourself as an object, you can't be too surprised if you are treated as one. (Your picture selections.)

2) Your self description is one long paragraph and in it you have the word "I" listed about 22 times amd then "me/my" ten times. This really doesn't make the best impression. The "I want," "I need," "about me," "my interests," and "I am" approach is a bit self centered, especially when it comes from a sub.

< Message edited by cloudboy -- 5/23/2006 7:18:29 AM >

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RE: lost faith - 5/23/2006 7:23:01 AM   
sweetnurseBBW


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Status: offline 		I too lost faith in this lifestyle after being in it many years. Seems all I could find were players and fakes. I stopped looking and just chatted then one day I met a Dom that was persistant but not pushy.  It turns out he was real and genuine. I had become very distrusting and bitter, he restored my faith. Real ones are out there it is just all the players make them hard to find. It took a little over a year to find him and him 2 years to find me. Don't give up they are out there.  

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RE: lost faith - 5/23/2006 7:53:15 AM   
ADomDoc


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom
I don't know, it is probably as hard as finding a real submissive that isn't a man in drag that hides his adams apple with a collar and crosses his legs to hide his bulge.


:-) Hmmmm ... kinda sounds like you are bluntly saying ... don't expect others to be honest to you ... if you aren't being honest to them.

I learned decades ago that lying or misleading someone to meet them only leads to disaster when the truth comes out.  It isn't worth my time to meet someone based on false impressions.  I endeavor to be honest & up-front ... and for those that don't like it ... tough luck ... for those that appreciate my candor, perhaps we have enough in common to open a discourse. 

The most common lie I see everyday are the folks who list their height ... but not their weight.  Do you honestly think we can't see through that?  Better to be honest with yourself & with others ... there ARE Doms who are chubby chasers ... save time trying to fool others & go after folks who want you.

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RE: lost faith - 5/23/2006 8:25:09 AM   
CrappyDom


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Status: offline 		Actually, what I am saying is I believe the OP is either a TV or a pre-op transexual. 

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RE: lost faith - 5/24/2006 8:12:23 AM   
MoonGoddessIsis


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Status: offline 		I think that we have all lost faith once, twice or a million times in our lives.  Whether it is faith in ourselves, faith in other people or faith in the world in general.  I think it is how you handle that lost faith that makes you the person that you are.  Do you just give up forever? Or do you mourn a bit, hop back on the wagon and this time put protective gear on cause ya know you are gonna fall off again sooner or later!

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RE: lost faith - 5/24/2006 8:28:04 AM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		First...there are real doms out there.  You just have to weed through a lot.
Secondly.  I read your profile and my first impression was that you are angry and bitter in your words and pictures.  All I see is you bringing a lot of baggage into any relationship.  Your first sentence is negative and the rest of your profile is demanding.  That's certainly not going to attract anyone seriously looking.  You'll get a lot of trolls though.  You can be strong and submissive, but I see all of that negativity as a turn off to a lot.   Just an opinion.

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RE: lost faith - 5/24/2006 9:37:16 AM   
KatyLied


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I learned decades ago that lying or misleading someone to meet them only leads to disaster when the truth comes out. It isn't worth my time to meet someone based on false impressions. I endeavor to be honest & up-front ...


I learned the hard way that anything built on a lie will not last.  Usually one lie is the beginning of many.  At the time, my need to believe (that moving forward there would be only truth) overrode my good judgement.  It turned out that one lie was just the beginning and almost everything told to me was a lie.  It was a hard lesson for me to learn, as I mistakenly think that people are as honest as I am.

grammar edit


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RE: lost faith - 5/24/2006 11:22:38 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		I wanted to edit my post and add some information, but for some reason the "edit" option is gone.
It's best to find ways to get over your "lost faith".  It is difficult to learn to trust again...but why allow one person who treated you badly have that power over your life?  I went from a bad experience to a wonderful experience.  I now have a Dom who is honest with me about everything.  Sometimes I don't like to hear the harsh realities, but I definitely appreciate the truth.  You will find a better place, it may not seem like it now, but it will happen.  I went from a bad experience to a very good experience, with pleasant surprises that I never expected....


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RE: lost faith - 5/24/2006 12:04:47 PM   
champagnewishes


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quote:

ORIGINAL: 34shadesofblue

Anyone got any ideas on how to restore faith that there are real, honest, genuine, loyal, true,understanding ,respectful Doms (real)out there?or am i just dreaming that those qualities are possible?


As faith requires no logical or material proof i can easily say "Yes have faith those qualities are possible". 

Maybe you should start with having faith in yourself first and foremost.  Portraying an accurate account of yourself goes a long way in attracting someone that has similiar qualities.

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RE: lost faith - 5/24/2006 1:37:10 PM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		I'm so happy for anyone that goes from a bad experience to a good one. However, I would caution that sometimes it's not the fault of the Dom, but more the misconceptions of the submissive.
Look at the BIG picture. Were you treated with respect? Were you cared for? Were you enjoying the time with the Dom who you now say betrayed you? Have you ever been guilty of the same accusations?
That's really the question.
People are people and if you meet one who you like, but things don't work out...Don't dump publicly...show some class and there's a good chance that a friendship can last forever.
Just my humble opinion...but WTF do I know? I trust everyone!
Kevin

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RE: lost faith - 5/24/2006 1:56:38 PM   
Areflectionofyou


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Status: offline 		me too Sir::wink:::

quote:

ORIGINAL: Level

<<<is all in favor of wonderful pairs LOL

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RE: lost faith - 5/24/2006 2:06:35 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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quote:

ORIGINAL: KarbonCopy
There is no hope.

Its all bullshit.
Is your domina not hugging/loving you anymore?  Your posts sound increasingly sad (and from a depressed person) to me Karboncopy, and that is unfortunate from someone so young, smart, and beautiful.   M

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RE: lost faith - 5/24/2006 3:45:35 PM   
Level


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ORIGINAL: bandit25

You are?  Well, Level, I have a wonderful pair right here, jsut waitin' ...LOL


*laughs*...... alllllllrighty then! Chicago, here I come......

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RE: lost faith - 5/24/2006 3:55:55 PM   
Level


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Areflectionofyou

me too Sir::wink:::

quote:

ORIGINAL: Level

<<<is all in favor of wonderful pairs LOL



*makes more travel plans  *

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RE: lost faith - 5/24/2006 4:15:38 PM   
ShivaTS


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Status: offline 		I find it is very hard to find real Doms on here because it is mostly tops looking to jump anything that moves.  I think the only way to find someone is to get off your computer and go meet some Doms/Masters in a safe place, a munch.  Hope you find what you are looking for.

I love you too CrappyDom. (Recrosses my legs) lol

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RE: lost faith - 7/28/2006 5:31:26 PM   
sweetbabygirl74


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Status: offline 		i have find that in the resent months that i have been looking that i have come across quite a few players and wannabes and i too am struggling with my faith right now in the lifestyle, but i shall somehow hang in there until i find Him or He finds me....smiles.

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RE: lost faith - 7/28/2006 5:57:29 PM   
eroticangel


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Status: offline 		i too have had a hard time lately......i think and rethink if i need to change...but, i figure there will be someone to want me for me...not for what He thinks He can make me into.....So, i keep the faith and keep pushing along.....i happen to think i am pretty wonderful and will be an asset to whoever is the One to find me.

and ya know what...i think Crappy and Level are pretty wonderful too!!

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RE: lost faith - 7/28/2006 6:17:18 PM   
popeye1250


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Status: offline 		LOL Crappy Dom! You too, eh?
I can't tell you how many TV's or just men have contacted me and wanted me to "Dom them!"
I'm fairly new posting on this site and it's already started in this site too, 3 times in the last month!
Yes, there ARE some very good Doms out here. And there's quite a few in this site and if you'd read the boards in here you'll get a good idea of who they are and which one may suit you.
Read their profiles and read their posts on these boards first though.
It may take you a while but so what.
The other poster was right about your profile though, lots of "I's" "Me's".
You'd definately need some politeness training online first imho.

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