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Uncomfortable Topic - 5/22/2006 2:58:02 PM

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i am interested in learning more about ED; when it can be treated, when it cannot. TY if You choose to answer.

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RE: Uncomfortable Topic - 5/22/2006 3:14:47 PM

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Mr. ED? He's hung like a horse!

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RE: Uncomfortable Topic - 5/22/2006 3:22:07 PM

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RE: Uncomfortable Topic - 5/22/2006 3:26:40 PM

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Do you know what the underlying condition is that led to the ED?

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RE: Uncomfortable Topic - 5/22/2006 3:31:40 PM

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Having a professional (urologist) determine the causative factor would be the first step to treatment.
Diabetes, B/P med's, and some that are used to treat depression, etc can have sideeffects that cause erectile dysfunction.
Viagra, although the brunt of a lot of jokes is an effective drug for some.
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RE: Uncomfortable Topic - 5/22/2006 6:17:49 PM

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TY leatherorlace; this is the sort of information i seek. i want to know generally; there's no one in particular i'm asking for.

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RE: Uncomfortable Topic - 5/22/2006 7:20:15 PM

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Ed could be caused by diabetes or a real Nasty divorce where the wife took every thing. D:

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RE: Uncomfortable Topic - 5/22/2006 8:04:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: leatherorlace

Having a professional (urologist) determine the causative factor would be the first step to treatment.
Diabetes, B/P med's, and some that are used to treat depression, etc can have sideeffects that cause erectile dysfunction.
Viagra, although the brunt of a lot of jokes is an effective drug for some.
Gentry

What I would have said also. ED is something that most males will have in their lifetime. Sometimes it's very treatable; sometimes it's a sign of something deeper or just a sign he's not interested or is worried. Age, medication, diseases, mental state, must all be taken into account.

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RE: Uncomfortable Topic - 5/23/2006 5:47:30 AM

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ED can also be caused by porn/sex addiction.

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RE: Uncomfortable Topic - 5/23/2006 6:08:27 AM

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ED is rarely (but not so rare as to not be) a physical condition, usually mental, as in stress, performance anxiety, alotta blood pressure and cholesterol pills get in the way of raging hardons.

The common wisdom says that 8 of them there VEEGRAS will set them on the road to glorious male pigs once again if it is mental.

Goes to show it is all in the mind.

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RE: Uncomfortable Topic - 5/23/2006 6:17:20 AM

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TY for the replies so far; may i ask; is there ANY way a woman can discuss ED with a Dom or Master?

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RE: Uncomfortable Topic - 5/23/2006 6:23:28 AM

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You're correct in reminding us that not all divorcees are amiciable. Some of the most rabid misogynist that, I've encountered over the decades had their cojones handed to them by an attorney and judge, but most of them wouldn't accept that they were woman haters prior to finally been dragged into divorce court after several episodes of maltreating the spouses because of early developement problems that caused them to regress into the most common of abusers after they passed their first anniversary.
Closeted males are another group that suffers from ED if their sexual partners are only female. There are numerous other causes, exhausted from work, emotional reactions to a family crises, fear of another pregnancy, but to indoctrinated or lame to make use of common birthcontrol methods. Like, Alexa said; age can also play a role if One hasn't maintained their health.
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RE: Uncomfortable Topic - 5/23/2006 7:20:23 AM

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Mr. ED? He's hung like a horse!

LMAO you are such a naughty fastlane

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RE: Uncomfortable Topic - 5/23/2006 10:04:15 AM

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It's not an easy topic to discuss...my partner i think has issues with it, he will lots of times be more interested in just watching sexual acts or erotic things (porn, just me in a short skirt) than he will be in the actual act. Sometimes he's lost interest right in the middle of it.

It makes for all kinds of interesting problems....

i think it's important to talk about though...someone else's lack of sexual interest can cause you to lose your libido as well. i know i don't have an interest in it as much anymore, and it's made us incredibly out of sync when it comes to being in the mood.

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RE: Uncomfortable Topic - 5/23/2006 6:32:58 PM

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TY for the replies so far; may i ask; is there ANY way a woman can discuss ED with a Dom or Master?

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We discuss it all the time. Master's illness impacts on His sexual abilities - He is diabetic (for 30+ years) and His kidneys have shut down. He is able to get an erection but keeping it is a problem

Although since His blood pressure meds were doubled things have improved a little

It's not that He isn't interested, on the contrary! The mind is extremely willing but the body does not co-operate sometimes. We manage by using toys, G spot play and He is able to orgasm through blowjobs so those are always a part of our repertoire. We kiss, touch and talk all the time. Affectionate touch helps keep us "together" and keeps intimacy in our lives even when we are not being sexual. I'm encouraged to masturbate if I feel the need to (with or without Him present).

He does feel bad sometimes about not being able to do the things He wants to with me. Those times are when we cuddle and I tell Him He can't get rid of me that easy! I am bisexual and we are seeking a female partner so I can be satisfied on that level. We are very happy together and we take each day as it comes.

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RE: Uncomfortable Topic - 5/23/2006 7:09:21 PM

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ED can also be caused by porn/sex addiction.

WHAT?!? Where did this gem of misinformation come from? I would think that porn would CAUSE an erection, not prevent it...

Maybe whacking off every day in front of computer porn may keep a guy from getting a hard-on when it is time to perform, but that is certainly not E.D. ... that is fatigue!

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RE: Uncomfortable Topic - 5/24/2006 3:56:20 AM

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Dear Invictus Sir,

Please keep in mind as you read this, that I am not referring to someone who occasionally watches a bit of porn, but rather the person who is addicted and can not stop.

The porn,sex addict uses porn and sex as a drug, just like an alcoholic, cocaine or heroine addict. It is a means to hide from reality, to numb emotions and feelings, and to get into a fantasy world where things don't hurt.   The p/s addict will masterbate to porn, sometimes to the point of making themselves sore, thus, using themselves all up sexually, so that they can't perform in reality.

Also, the porn provides them with an easy in, easy out, and the porn ladies are perfect in every way to fulfill that fantasy. When the porn addict is finished with them, he simply shuts down the computer and they are gone. No pillow talk, no hugging, kissing, no intimacy at all. The intimacy is precisely what the porn addict needs to avoid, because they can't deal with reality.

The repeated masterbation to porn images becomes the norm, and it is much easier than getting intimate in reality and making love.   By indulging in porn, they can avoid all the things they are not capable of experiencing.   They can't get an erection with a real person, they need those perfect porn images to get aroused, and quite often they will need to move to the next level of porn, more hardcore to get the same fix.   Ex. they might start out looking at a victoria secret, then on to a playboy, then on to more explicit things, until eventually they begin to act out with real people, ( hookers, escorts, one night stands, etc). This in some cases can progress to beastiality, children, rape etc, which will eventually land them in jail if they are caught.

Hope this helps you understand more.   If you need too, you can google "porn addiction" and see what you get.    This is not misinformation, I live with it everyday and have done much research on it.

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RE: Uncomfortable Topic - 5/24/2006 10:57:26 AM

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mew,

may i message you sometime on the other side? my fiance lives with a similar problem that he recognizes and states that is a problem, but does nothing about...i can't convince him to deal with it and its hard sometimes to be supportive and just do my own thing.

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RE: Uncomfortable Topic - 5/24/2006 12:11:54 PM

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There's a link below to an article on Erectile Dysfunction. It's from the UK National Health Service website offering advice to the public on health issues (just so that you know the nature of the source).

http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/articles/article.aspx?articleId=210&sectionId=8338

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RE: Uncomfortable Topic - 5/24/2006 1:12:36 PM

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Hey candy...If it is something you feel a need to discuss, then odds are he is aware of it. Unfortunatly many men view ED as a sign that they are less than a man, and the stress caused by the inability to perform only compounds the problem.
My ED came about as a result of the anti-depressant drugs I was on for a year, and even though I have been off them for a year, the ED still remains, however I have serious lower back problems which may contribute...we manage just fine with toys, tongues, etc.
I would suggest that you do not try discuss it when it is an actual issue, reassure him that it isn't his ability to get or maintain an erection that attracts you, and to suggest he discuss it with his doctor, but do not nag about it. I understand how embarassing it is to raise with one's doctor, however as soon as I did, it became clear to me that he dealt with this issue with many of his patients, he prescribed viagra and suggested I try that, and to let him know if it didn't work.. I came out of the discussion very much less uptight about it (and yes the blue pills do work quite well, not all the time with me, but that is when we break out the dildos and f**k her silly that way).
One of the advantages a Master has over a vanilla man is that actual intercourse makes up a lot less of WIITWD, so ED is less of an issue if he is willing to find the root medical cause (if any) and to accept that he isn't 22 anymore.
Reassure him that it doesn't lessen your love of him, nor your devotion and submission to him. Buy him a new flogger to use, or a couple of fun nasty-looking dildos, and let him know you are just as much his as when he was hard all the time.
It is not your fault, nor is it his...ED is a symptom of some other medical or psychological condition, and is almost always treatable, emphasise that and keep reassuring him that he is no less a man in your eyes for the lack of a hard on (believe me as dumb as it seems, a fellow does feel less than manly when he can't perform), he needs to get the right mind set, he has to come to understand that his erection is not him, nor is it what makes him a man or a Master...and he will need your help getting there, be supportive, be reassuring, and for Gods' sake don't make any jokes about it until he does....