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RE: Stress relief - 9/26/2011 5:26:37 PM

zephyroftheNorth

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One day when we were all together my niece (his daughter) who was 9 at the time just mentioned something about how she missed her daddy and the sandwiches he used to make her for lunch sometimes and it broke the ice. Suddenly through our tears we were sharing memories and our thoughts about him and yes, our grief as well. The tears flowed freely but for the first time since his death, we also allowed ourselves to smile a little and even laugh at some of the silly things he would do.

That is exactly how my Great Aunt Molly's funeral was. Rather than a long speech by the Rabbi, it was a time of everyone's favorite stories about their memories of her. Yes tears were shed but there were just as many smiles. The Shiva was just a continuation of her funeral only with enough food to feed twice as many people. I cannot think of a better way to honor someone who is loved than to sit around and tell stories. I greatly recommend what wanders says Bunny, it heals great hurts.

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RE: Stress relief - 9/26/2011 10:54:36 PM

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<hugs the bun-bun>

So sorry about the loss of your father.

Restorative yoga is wonderful for moving through any sort of grief, trauma or illness. It feels good right now, and the beneficial results are cumulative with further practice. If you're interested in more info I'm happy to provide on the other side.

Best to you! Sending thoughts of health and healing your way :-)

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RE: Stress relief - 10/12/2011 6:01:14 PM

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I have depression,

Take a walk on sunny day, it may be hard to "get out" but try too

Get a pet or if you alreay have one spend more time with it

Get involved in a religion or an activity

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RE: Stress relief - 10/13/2011 4:05:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: myotherself

- do you do anything to make yourself feel better and more positive about life when things get a bit rocky? It may be food, it may be a drink, a change in routine, whatever.

I do many things to avoid falling into a deeper depression. Homemade hot cocoa with marshmallows on top, making caramel apples, eating red jello cubes with my fingers, having a red popsicle (my favorite when I was little), fresh strawberries, shrimp dipped in cocktail sauce, eating pretty, bright colors...

I put away all sad things and start stuffing happy things into my brain to try to alter my brain chemistry. Dramas? Movies with people dying? (can you believe that friends kept recommending movies with dying people in them while I was having chemo for lymphoma?) Pfft. Disney cartoon movie orgy time, and the same for comedies. Favorites here are Galaxy Quest, Blazing Saddles, and White Chicks, when things get rough.

Hobbies help...I knit and quilt and do crafts. I read fun books and play my Pokemon games. I also do silly things that I left behind in my childhood, like coloring in a pretty coloring book, blowing scented bubbles, taking bubble baths with food dye (like blue) dripped over the bubbles, yanno...just STUFF. I stare at flowers as if trying to memorize them to draw from memory, I walk on rose petals because it pleases me, spritz my favorite perfume over my pillow case, light candles and burn insence...and if I feel like wading through a mud puddle then so be it. Sometimes I buy day old bread and feed the ducks.

I also take time to grieve. I try to honor the loved one who died by writing down details of happy or quirky memories before time steals away all the details. I take flowers to Carin's grave because my roses remind me of her. My aunt, before she died, was obsessed with getting all of her pictures into pretty scrapbooks...and I cannot pass a scarlet macaw picture in some store without thinking of her and her pet Scarlet who loved her so.

Life. Whenever I feel weighted down by death I gravitate toward life... I look for babies of all sorts, human and kittens and puppies and little chicks. I need to feel that sense of balance.

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RE: Stress relief - 10/14/2011 7:46:05 AM

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Bunny,

my condolences on your loss. Both of my parents have passed during the past 5 years, and both their passings took a great toll on me.

In times passed I would tell you making very small clusters of holes in large sheets of paper of very, very long distances with things that go BANG was my key stress reliever. The focus and concentration required to make such things happen repeatedly forces you to clear your mind and make everything else in the entire world other than you, your target, and what you are holding in your hands completely disappear as you wait for that perfect moment between heartbeats.

At the moment I am recovering from a two level lumbar interbody fusion surgery, so contact with things that go bang is off the table for quite some time to come. Walking several times each day is a required part of the recovery process, but I wanted something more and my surgeon agreed to allow me to walk in water for greater resistance. I am fortunate that the pool in my health club is 4' deep it's entire length, and I have found that walking laps against the water and allowing myself to really focus on the resistance against my body and feel every muscle and fiber pushing forward allows me the same opportunity to clear my mind, put myself in a much better place, and stay there for quite some time after I finish.

So find whatever it is that allows you to place yourself outside your conscious mind and find harmony with body and spirit, and all my best wishes that you find peace.

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RE: Stress relief - 10/22/2011 5:35:16 PM

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I'm a writer so that's what I turn to often but when that fails I keep myself as busy as possible with things I enjoy. I also fit music to my mood. I'm not the type who listens to happy music when I'm angry..no, I listen to angry music when I'm angry and it helps because its another way of getting the frustration out that I'm feeling. I'll do the same with movies because honestly, if I watch a happy movie when I'm upset it just pisses me off.

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RE: Stress relief - 10/24/2011 12:54:07 PM

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Yoga for Emotional Flow has no actual yoga postures. Disc 1 is yoga philosophy and disc 2 is guided meditation based on disc 1. I find it tremendously useful for dealing with difficult emotions.

It's also nice for falling asleep or at the acupuncturist's. (Damn woman wouldn't let me have my phone but had no objection to guided meditation :)

I need to be in a good frame of mind to start my personal hatha yoga flow - if I need to de-stress first I'll go for a walk or workout.

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Yoga helps me out when I am feeling stressed. Believe it or not, it can actually be quite strenuous, so it counts as legit exercise

Ya, if it's time to kick your yoga workout up a notch, try Ashtanga, Power Yoga or P90X Yoga, guaranteed to kick your butt.
http://www.amazon.com/Power-Yoga-Total-Body-Workout/dp/B0000A2ZQE/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1319485469&sr=8-4
http://livefitnessnow.com/hate-p90x-yoga-x-replace-it-with-fountain-of-youth/

If you are new to yoga, easing back into exercising, or want to focus on gentle stretching, try Gentle, Restorative, or Beginner's yoga.

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RE: Stress relief - 10/24/2011 2:53:21 PM

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I didn't think of it until now but a great stress reducer that helps me is my local Oxygen Bar. I'll take my music in with me, choose the most soothing scent in that moment, get hooked up to the oxygen and lay in the hammock and just drift. I don't let myself think, I just listen to the music and relax. My all time favorite is Eucalyptus..it clears the mind and senses and I feel great after.

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