Arpig
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Joined: 1/3/2006 From: Increasingly further from reality Status: offline
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Stop worrying about being a "true" slave, there is no such thing, as each Master will have a different view of what a true sub or slave is (lord knows I expect a damn sight more backtalk and fight from mine than most masters would even consider). Be the slave you are, and express your limits and explain why they are limits....if he is worth your trust then he will know which limits are pushable, and how hard to push them (with your continued input, either through direct negotiation-style talk, or through revealing your current fantasies, etc. I am a great believer in pushing limits, but my pet has a limit with fire play, a very firm limit, and I do not push that at all...she also has a limit regarding doing anything with her feet (many medical problems with her feet growing up), but that limit we have already expanded to the point that she enjoys mild play involving her feet. She also had an issue with needle play...we tried it, and she went along as far as she could, we found her limit, and we respect it...however she knows I would like to go further, and will tell me when she is ready to try again. Communication is the key to pushing limits, not just understanding what the limit is, but also understanding why it is a limit...your needle-phobia is the sort of limit I wouldn't push, as it is based on a deep underlying issue you have with needles in general, much like my pet's issue with fireplay. Armed with that understanding, your master and you can understand which limits are pushable and which are better left alone for the time being.
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