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Switched31 -> Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 6:37:19 AM)
Ok first I'd like to apologize if I make no sense I tend to have trouble getting my thoughts out of my head into written words. Ok anyways I know this guy who is married claims to be dominant a very very strict Dom if you will he patrols the Internet looking for woman (by the way I do not know him in real life) and his routine is he finds a girl doesn't really talk to them to get to know them he will say hi how are you where are you from blah blah blah then he will ask a question like "do you like movies." if she says yes he will ask if she likes porn. Automatically from there he goes in for the kill and goes into a string of dirty questions and asks of they are submissive. Now if they say yes he tells them to call him Master. No asking just BAM! I'm your Master! Then his favorite cyber sex scenerio he tells the girl he is pinning her down and raping her ass. Now I m fairly new to the bdsm lifestyle but he has actually lost potential subs to me and I hear the same thing from all of them he scares the shit out of them. Now if someone he is talking to doesn't want to play he tries to punish them and even has tried to get me to punish them for not playing with him. Example I had a sub who actually he introduced me to he wanted me to punish because she was scared of him and didn't want to be his sub so he kept telling me to burn her vagina. Which I wouldn't do. But the part that has me baffled is he's a complete bitch in real life. As I said before he is married and his whole demeanor changes when she is around. I mean the man has a curfew and cannot use his own phone when he wants.

searching4mysir -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 6:49:40 AM)
The guy sounds like a complete boneheaded idiot. He isn't anyone's "Master" until that person agrees that he is and has no authority to prescribe any punishment for a submissive that isn't his. There is a reason why the phrase "I may be a submissive, but I'm not YOUR submissive" is said.

DarkSteven -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 6:56:51 AM)
LOL. He's a big bad Dom online and a complete pussy in RL. He's just using the Internet to make up for his life. Note that he would never meet a woman in RL - how would he explain to his wife? So he makes sure they will never want to meet him.

GreedyTop -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 6:57:39 AM)
wait.. to be clear... is this all cyber?

Switched31 -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 7:09:46 AM)
Oddly enough plenty of women have fell for it and thought he was a great Dom and I'm not talking about young 18 year old girls straight out of high school either. I've talked to women older than me with great careers and college education who claimed to love him so much. But he is known very well to every sub on the Internet because he has the same M.O. Always wants to rape some one always wants to F someone over someone's face and if you reject his advances he still feels he owns you and will stalk you. I've met subs online who aren't even in the U.S. who if you speak about this they know exactly who you are talking about. My former sub was actually on the brink of calling cops because after she told him she was not his sub he still emailed her trying to Dom her he would make up other profiles and tell her to punish herself and she would respectfully tell him she has no interest in serving him but he would keep coming back she even made a profile on collar me and he found her told her she is going to pay dearly and she is not a good sub and is not serving me well because she is not serving him. But I made sure I told her she is my best sub. I met him during my newly sub stages trying to find advice and believe me I have learned alot about what makes a good Dom/domme and a bad one. Thank god I have found a Master who is not like this and is a good combo of strict and caring and I always feel safe with him.

Switched31 -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 7:11:57 AM)
Lol yes he is a cyber Dom.

Kana -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 7:20:54 AM)
Wanders away wondering why folk care so damn much about what others do?

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 7:27:45 AM)
this title seemed like it would be so much more interesting. =p do any Dominant folk care to discuss the title more generally? haha OP, if he is harming or harassing people, please call the police. otherwise, there's not much you can do about him. a lot of people wank around online, who cares? but if it moves into the realm of abuse and harassment, you have avenues you can go down in those cases.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 7:29:15 AM)
What does your subject line have to do with this desktop "dom?" Nothing from where I sit. If the purpose of this thread was to out him as an asshole, well done. He's an asshole. So are the "subs" who cyber with him or engage in a cyber relationship with him. There are many, many people for whom BDSM is a cyber fantasy that never intend to get off their cozy asses and meet someone, even if it's for zero-strings-attached coffee. These people tend to pair up so they can be cyber assholes lost in fantasy land together. There is nothing new in this. As for "subs" being terrified of this guy, that would be just too funny, except that it's so sad and pathetic. Frankly, the whole thing is sad and pathetic. Get off the net and get a real life.

peppermint -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 7:30:38 AM)
Online drama is so just fantasy.

DarkSteven -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 7:44:12 AM)
If someone I knew had experienced this, I would report him to his Domme. His wife.

kalikshama -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 7:46:08 AM)
This all sounds very bizarre. How do you know so much about him if you don't know him IRL? I don't feel sorry for said subs - they should be smart enough to block assholes. I don't know why you allow this creep to be in your cyber life. This feels a bit like, "Doctor, I have this friend..."

Switched31 -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 7:48:53 AM)
No no the purpose wasn't to out him as an asshole I think he's doing a good job of that on his own. I guess I'm just wondering if someone thinks they are a real Dom just because they bark out orders and also can you claim to be Dominant 100% when it's clear that this guy is only Dominant online.

kalikshama -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 7:59:05 AM)
Obviously, there is more to being dominant than barking out orders. You know he's a bad role model - why are you even giving this any consideration? I suggest you checkout the BDSM booklist. Try The Loving Dominant: http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 8:04:33 AM)
The net is filled with desktop doms who are only dominant online. Again, this is nothing new, I've been seeing it for about 15 years now. Do I or should anyone consider him a dominant? Of course not, it's online fantasy bull shit. That people (including you, OP) take these relationships seriously tells me they need to get off the net and get a real life. The whole thing is incredibly silly for those of us who don't have online relationships; we're too busy having real one.

Switched31 -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 8:09:52 AM)
Well I met him online because I was looking to talk and get advice because I was new. Yes I admit to being dumb to keep talking to him which didn't last long by the way and I know so much because he does the same with everyone and at first I didn't know he was married he didn't come out and say I suspected but never asked all I know is everyday he would be quick to rush offline at 5pm and he would say he can't talk after that but he did tell me when I asked if we can talk after 5 but I noticed he wouldn't leave like a normal person and say bye he would just sign out immediately and delete me from his list.Yes he has tried to Dom me but shockingly he didn't treat me like the other subs he met online. Idk I've actually dated men who hit their exes on a daily basis but never not once raised a finger to me. I'm guessing they can see see I won't take no shit and have no problem kicking a mans ass. So being that he didn't treat me like he did with anyone else and actually treated me like a human being I think that's why I didn't drop him from day one. Also I know so much about him because he has actually shared things about his life with me and yeh I was able to see what truth and what was a lie. But being an asshole or not talking to him helped me know definitely what I want and don't want.

kalikshama -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 8:25:06 AM)
quote: I've actually dated men who hit their exes on a daily basis but never not once raised a finger to me. Hopefully as you mature you will realize that it is better to be alone than to be with scum.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 8:32:33 AM)
I agree that online can help you figure out who you are BDSM wise and want you may want out of a relationship. We are online now, aren't we? I admit I do have issues is with online only relationships that people treat as if they are real. They just aren't. I know some will disagree with me, but we shall have to agree to disagree. If you never intend to meet in real life, you are living a fantasy. People can and do pretend to be whatever they want online, it doesn't make it real, and it doesn't mean you or anyone else should buy into it and treat it seriously. Many people meet online these days initially, those who are serious tend to want to meet in real life within a few weeks or months (depending in distance to travel). I note from your profile that you have a Master who is looking for more fem subs. Is the "dom" you've been talking about this "Master?" (I so hope not). Have you ever met your Master in real time? (I so hope so).

crazyml -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 8:38:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven LOL. He's a big bad Dom online and a complete pussy in RL. He's just using the Internet to make up for his life. Note that he would never meet a woman in RL - how would he explain to his wife? So he makes sure they will never want to meet him. This about nails it

Contentment -> RE: Are you dominant 100% or 50% or just a perv (10/13/2011 8:40:13 AM)
To each, her own. I think that his style is probably the opposite of mine. He's looking for someone that responds well to mistreatment/harassment. He doesn't mind filtering out others by being rude to all he encounters. He's also only looking for online encounters. Dunno, if it works for him and for some others that he encounters, then I guess that's just his way. Obviously, if you keep encountering men like this, you may want to place a disclaimer that you don't respond well to perverted comments/harassment. Some men are dense and you need to spell it out for them. Don't have to be rude, just more matter of fact about it.

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