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Sensitive Breasts and Play - 5/24/2006 12:49:00 PM

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I have a problem and am hoping to hear from others with a similar problem who may be able to give advice. My breasts are very very sensitive and always have been. That said, I love having them clamped, or clothespins used at times. My problem is that unless my breasts and nipples are slowly, gently and carefully worked on it's a mood killer for me. If someone grabs them abruptly and squeezes or sucks or pinches the nipple hard without carefully working up to it, I lose the mood, it's like a blast of cold water and any desire is gone. If there's not a work up before clamps or clothespins are used then it's the same. If work up is done then as it gets rougher it feels good but only to a certain point. I can only take it so rough and my tolerance there is not very high. So what I'm wondering is if anyone has had this problem were you able to overcome it? Is there a way or ways to toughen up the breasts? Make them less sore and sensitive to withstand and enjoy more without losing most or all sensitivity? Thanks in advance for any feedback and/or advice.

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RE: Sensitive Breasts and Play - 5/24/2006 5:18:43 PM

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Depending on your age, the breasts will become less tender for some females at certain times of our lives. If you've had children, have lumpy [fibrocystic] breasts, get very tender around your cycle, then possibly you just have to see how your breasts become. Caffiene intake can make some breast types more tender. There is no true way to 'toughen up' the breasts.

Onward to the other part of you question: You should state to anyone that you play with how your breasts and yourself reacts to breast play. You might even guide them in playing with your breasts a couple of times so they will know just how much is too much. We aren't mind readers, although after a time of playing with one person we can pretty well judge how they are doing

If the person likes/loves you, wants to keep playing with you, respects your limits, then they will listen to you. What fun is it to ruin or break a toy or have someone go home with their toys? You and your breasts should get use to regular lite play then possibly more can be added to the playlist i.e. duration, instruments.

I had a friend who could barely take one clothespin on her nipples, now I don't know how many pins she takes to her entire breast area!! Go slow, tell your limits, have your limits respected, and relax. Once you feel more comfortable with the person who is playing with you..and you know they respect your limits...then in time you might be able to do more.

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I have a problem and am hoping to hear from others with a similar problem who may be able to give advice. My breasts are very very sensitive and always have been. That said, I love having them clamped, or clothespins used at times. My problem is that unless my breasts and nipples are slowly, gently and carefully worked on it's a mood killer for me. If someone grabs them abruptly and squeezes or sucks or pinches the nipple hard without carefully working up to it, I lose the mood, it's like a blast of cold water and any desire is gone. If there's not a work up before clamps or clothespins are used then it's the same. If work up is done then as it gets rougher it feels good but only to a certain point. I can only take it so rough and my tolerance there is not very high. So what I'm wondering is if anyone has had this problem were you able to overcome it? Is there a way or ways to toughen up the breasts? Make them less sore and sensitive to withstand and enjoy more without losing most or all sensitivity? Thanks in advance for any feedback and/or advice.

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RE: Sensitive Breasts and Play - 5/24/2006 5:22:29 PM

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Just a suggestion, but it's one I learned that worked for me just by paying attention to little differences. Possibly it's just your nipples that are extremely sensitive. I cant even handle a seat belt that rubs across mine, but if the pressue is distributed over more area the desired result is a guarentee..........

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RE: Sensitive Breasts and Play - 5/24/2006 5:32:16 PM

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If it is the nipples, if you breast fed your children like I did, you would've been advised to sit next to a window, barebreasted. Air and sunlight were recommended. It helped me tolerate a hungry mouth suckling what seemed all the time.

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RE: Sensitive Breasts and Play - 5/24/2006 6:57:38 PM

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First I want to thank everyone for your response and advice. It was brought up that it may just be the nipples, but it seems to be both nipples and breast itself for me, although I would have to say the nipples are more oversensitive than the rest of the breast is.

The one I'm involved with and I discussed the sensitivity issue in conversation and it was stated that he prefers to start slow and gentle and work towards discovering the point where it's too much.

Another thing is that I can better manipulate my breasts and use more pressure than I can tolerate from others, but again, I know them better than anyone else and know how I most enjoy them touched. There are times though when even my touch or brushing against something is uncomfortable to me.

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RE: Sensitive Breasts and Play - 5/25/2006 6:50:29 AM

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There might be.

But really- your body is what it is. It reacts how it reacts. Our bodies are designed to NOT like what it conceives of as attacks upon it to damage it, it's SUPPOSED to signal you to try and get away and not like it.

You can train your body/mind to a large extent to overcome nearly any reaction, through lots of time and focus and more time and focus.

But if a partner isn't willing to spend even some time building you up in a scene context to be able to enjoy what you know you can, then they probably aren't anywhere near able to train your body to like other things.

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RE: Sensitive Breasts and Play - 5/25/2006 2:02:26 PM

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no advice on this one because i am that same girl with that very same problem

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RE: Sensitive Breasts and Play - 5/25/2006 2:16:04 PM

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Hey...at least we're not alone in it though *grin*

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RE: Sensitive Breasts and Play - 5/25/2006 2:23:50 PM

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But really- your body is what it is. It reacts how it reacts. Our bodies are designed to NOT like what it conceives of as attacks upon it to damage it, it's SUPPOSED to signal you to try and get away and not like it.

But if a partner isn't willing to spend even some time building you up in a scene context to be able to enjoy what you know you can, then they probably aren't anywhere near able to train your body to like other things.

I know my body's designed to not like perceived attacks, etc. It's just head shaking that I so enjoy s/m play in some areas and yet in others even a grab or tweak flips such an off switch.

Past partners haven't been memorable in the good sense for me for the most part. Future partner(s) I hope to have chosen well and find the one(s) who will take that time in that and in other areas so we both enjoy.

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RE: Sensitive Breasts and Play - 5/25/2006 3:23:41 PM

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I have sensitive nips, too. Although the sensitivity was worse when I was on the pill. For me, I notice that the time of the month as well as my mental state can influence my reactions. If my husband just walks up and grabs a nipple, it's more ticklish or annoying than erotic. If I were restrained and subjected to similar attentions coupled with something like throat biting, I'd probably react MUCH more favorably.

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