ProlificNeeds -> RE: How should a Dom address a Switch> (10/20/2011 4:44:47 AM)
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Being dominant and being defensive are different. When you feel insecure or protective, you're being assertively defensive, willful even. Little to do with dominance. As for how anyone addresses me, I have a name, they should use it, any adopted titles or names after that are things I agree to first, or I refuse to answer to them. Usually the only times I'm given any sort of titles is during actual play, and those are dictated by whatever role I'm in, for bottom it could be anything from 'pet' to 'little cum guzzling whore'. On the top side I usually like to beat my partner senseless until he tells me what a beautiful queen I am, (not fond of 'mistress'). Outside the bedroom, generics I accept are ma'am, madam, cutie, or from affectionate friends and partners silly names like tim-tam, pumpkin, muffin, or other such food items are also acceptable. If someone can't respect you as an equal first, you shouldn't bother entering into a power exchange with them. They'll take that exchange for granted and assume they actually ARE your superior not because you knelt before them, but because god put them there (or aliens, w/e).
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