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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 11/18/2004 1:11:07 AM

GoddessDustyGold

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LOL, subtara...thank you so much. Rather than confusing things for Me, you have absolutely further clarified some things for Me. Everything you say makes a lot of sense. And yes, I do mean the physical fight which some Dominas like, and some subs also like. To be physically brought down. Not what I enjoy, hence, as I was taught that definition of Amazon style domination, I don't consider Myself an Amazon.
Thank you for bringing up the delicate mental and emotional balance a switch must have. I think that is a very important point to respect and keep in the forefront of the mind as a Dominant.
So I am back to either a Pro session with a switch if it is so desired, and I hope I have a better idea of some questions to probe a bit and determine if someone applying as a live-in slave is correctly identifying as a switch and, of course, would be unhappy with Me. The early years...that seems quite logical. I just never thought about it.
I haven't found a switch yet who would be happy with Me, but they keep writing to Me!

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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 12/1/2004 1:53:04 PM

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Hello , reguarding switches , the pro's and Con's .
Here are some thoughts on the matter .
Since I have bottomed , I understand the feeling one gets from intense play , I know the feel of a cain and can communicate that to a new bottom , I know the adreniline rush of needle play . and the wonderful felling of being tied in a way you CAN'T get out verses staying put out of respect .
Since I have topped I now understand that my Mistress isn't there for me 7 24 and now I understand how much work goes into topping I think it makes me a more appreciative bottom . I usually do not switch with the same partner , the submissive girls in my life want a strong top and I am that , the dominant girls I want in my life would not have to worry about me trying to switch with them , unless they wanted requested demanded it . Even then I usually like to keep it seperate . Now in reguards to my physical partner , I will usually top her if we are including S&M into the evenings festivities but sometimes we will play backgammon and the winner choses due to his or her mood . Basically it is al fun and all good and seeing both sides of the coin gave me a better appreciation of everything .
I would be happy to discuss this further drop me a line .
Bear
Hey why does it say vanilla next to my post ? Grrrrrrr

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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 3/13/2005 9:13:35 PM

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I fully agree with Wes on this topic. I recently lost a friendship because a wanna be domme offered me the opportunity to be trained to a switch by her, which would have meant traveling far away from where I am located to do so. I mean, hello? How can anyone call himself/herself a dom/domme and ask a sub/slave to teach them when they need to be the ones doing the teaching? Sounds counterproductive to me, but then, this solely my own opinion. Oh, well.

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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 3/14/2005 4:39:11 PM

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I think the switches enjoy the pschological, physical and expereincial qiualities of both. If a switch is honest, they can communicate things to you on how they feel. Sometimes my greatest moments in a scene is feeling and empathising (sp) to be and share what the other person is doing and going through as a top or as a bottom. If you are 100% domiannt, then they should know this. I would never go beyond what my dommehas requested of me. They may or not be content with that, but that is why we talk to each other. I think the key to your question is that people want to meet others, if I met the right person, I could be a sub, or another person I could be the top. If I was really lonely, I might want to do anything to have the experience. Bondage and submission is slightly to highly addictive, sometimes people will do and be anyhting just to experience it. The key is, like in all human relationships, it's about your honesty and communitcation with the other person and yourself. Of course, either way it's a fun way to set up an interrogation scene. The dom's I have been a sub to love the fact that it makes me a lot more playful and fun. The subs I have been with like the fact I have been where they are, and can play with them well. Speaking for myself, the whole thing is a relationship that really needs a lot of work conversation and study. You need to check it out on the web and do your research first. See where it takes you. If you don't you're not being resposible to yourself and to your relationship.

Searcheer

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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 3/14/2005 5:16:01 PM

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First, the disclaimer: I can only answer for myself. So, take this at face value.

Second, some observations: Most switches (IME) don't do 24/7 power exchanges. That is generally something that doms and slaves do, I don't really know many submissives that do the TPE. But I could also be wrong on this one.

Plus, just like there are "grades" of dominants and "grades" of submissives, there are "grades" of switches. I'm a switch that enjoys the bottom role more often than not. My wife is a switch who enjoys the top role more. Even though that's the dynamic, I can still dom her, and she can still be a sub to me or another.

1. Who decides who is "dominant for a day"??

It's the partnership dynamic for us. I'll most often compromise and let her have her way, take care of her, help her but there is also times when I'm making the decisions.

2. What if both are feeling submissive?

A pre-agreement, only one "off line" at a time, meaning if one is feeling small, little, submissive or in the grips of extreme emotion, the other is not allowed to give into that same feeling until they are ready to be the strong one.

3. What if both are feeling Dominant?

Then you have the dynamic that any home has when you have two strong willed people, debate, argument or just discussion.

4. Should I allow a switch into My household as a sub/slave?

That's up to you. But make it clear what the boundaries are and make sure they have time to indulge in their dom side, possibly by letting them have a night out at a scene, or something simmilar. Or you may wish to look at doing you are the Top Dom, the switch is submissive to you, but not to the sub. The sub is sub to both of you, but the switch cannot override your orders. That is what we are looking at honestly, getting a very sub lady to join us to be a bottom to both of us.

5. Is it correct for Me to be concerned that this switch will eventually need to exercise his Dominant side?

If you care about them at all. If you are only playing or if they are a toy, then there is no need for that concern. But as long as you care for the switch, then yes, you need to keep that in mind. Either by allowing them to top a sub that is not in your home, or by allowing them to be themselves away from the home.

6. If so, I am not going to allow play with another sub here and there; after all they are in My household , under contract, as a slave...right?

I'm not sure what you mean here. It is your space, and any switch should understand that. If you allow them to dom your sub, or another sub, then that is your choice. If not, then they have to dind another outlet for that.

7. I'm not an Amazon. I don't like the fight. Is it reasonable for Me to project that this fight for Dominance is bound to occur at some point?

It's possible, but it also depends on the Switch themselves. Most are reasonable and will work with you, but it depends on the person. *I* wouldn't have a problem working with you on this.

8. I am now worrying about the Switch's needs, and making exceptions to My normal household rules?

Up to you. Really. You are the Alpha, you have to decide how much licence the Beta has, and if they are allowed to "abuse" the Omega.

9. Why are they applying to Me in the first place?

Absolutely no clue. Intrigued maybe?

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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 3/14/2005 5:21:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: karmaslave

Oh, and the most important thing of all...

We like tea parties.

Never forget that when dealing with switches!

I do? How come no one told me..? I didn't even get a freaking memo! Damnit, heads will roll for this one.

< now I have to get my tea liking pills... >

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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 3/22/2005 5:14:50 AM

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I have been in the lifestyle for over 25 years always as a submissive. I had a very restricted and controlling 24/7 relationship for about 20 years.
I was isolated and controlled in all areas of my life.

For the past five years I have been with my now Master, He has guided me and brought me out from the mental wreck I had ended up in, because of my previous relationship.

I now live a very happy life as His submissive. but I am submissive to him and him alone. To all others I feel Domanant.

I have no desire to submit to anyone else, that side of me is loved, cherished and controled. I do however have a desire to dominate others. Thankfully my Master is happy and supportive for me to persure this side of my personality.

For the past two years I have beeing Topping at clubs and private events and I now feel ready to take the next step. I am now activly looking for my own submissive.

Every person is an individual. Each relationship brings its own diynamics.

Beez

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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 3/29/2005 1:47:28 PM

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Hi there. I've been speaking with someone who identifies as a switch for quite a while. I wondered about many of the issues you've brought up. I can't offer you words that will mesh with every situation but I can offer you my thoughts and experience regarding Domina/switch relationships.

I've told the switch in question ("X") that I don't bottom nor do I sub. I've told him that I never intend to. He seems to understand this perfectly. In all of our talks he seems to become more and more submissive (though I always keep in mind there is another half to him). X and I have become more and more familiar with one another. Rather than using my name he has taken to using titles. Likewise I've taken to calling him things such as my sweet, my pet, my dear... along with a few other choice endearments. X says that each of them causes happy tingly feelings in him. We're falling into place gradually.

But we've had conversations before we reached this point that centered around his other side. He hasn't experienced much on one side of the fence and he has experienced nothing on the other side. He's interested in trying both. Should he discover that he's content with being submissive predominantly but does have the occasional urge to feed his dominant side we've discussed the possibility of him doing it under my supervision - perhaps having a submissive of his own or perhaps dominating a submissive of mine that I've chosen for him.

My normal household rules can change whenever I wish and however I wish. They are my rules after all. I can bend them, break them or tickle them with a feather in whatever manner I wish. And if I wish to include this particular switch in my home then it is my choice to do so.

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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 4/11/2005 2:53:58 PM

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I think switch is as unique as there are people. everyone thinks of it diffrent. For me I am a switch. BUT i do not change roles with the same person. Either he is my dom or a submissive. Its all on the personality and behavior that defines how i will act towards them. That does not mean if a person is a dom I will automatically become a submissive. That is where I think a lot of confusion comes from. Many doms have contacted me and treated me as a submissive only to piss me off.

Im not submissive to just anyone. And I think I speak for a lot of others out there on that topic. If the person is dom and we meet and I feel domme towards them we'll I just made a friend if I feel submissive then I may have found a play partner.

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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 6/5/2005 6:21:56 AM

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1. Who decides who is "dominant for a day"??
Anser: That would be up to you or the one in the Dominant rolse. It is all about role playing in my opinion.[/color]2. What if both are feeling submissive? They can spank each other.
3. What if both are feeling Dominant? There will probably be a more stronger Dominant personality. In my case as being a Mistress with a tendency to switch, I am looking for the ultimate one who can make my toes tingle.
4. Should I allow a switch into My household as a sub/slave? That again is up to you. There is no science to the life. You have to set rules, and usually a switch would have higher standards for themselves verses a submissive.
5. Is it correct for Me to be concerned that this switch will eventually need to exercise his Dominant side? As long as he don't do anything you do not want him to do to you. Be sure it is all outlined in the contract.
6. If so, I am not going to allow play with another sub here and there; after all they are in My household , under contract, as a slave...right? Of course.
7. I'm not an Amazon. I don't like the fight. Is it reasonable for Me to project that this fight for Dominance is bound to occur at some point? No. It is not a fight about you and the switch. It is the fight within the switch to find the balance they need in order to live.
8. I am now worrying about the Switch's needs, and making exceptions to My normal household rules? Don't worry about his needs. You are the Dominant.
9. Why are they applying to Me in the first place?

They are seeking a person who can fullfill both needs. If it works out, they will be a good switch for you.

Respectfully,

Mistress_Jan

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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 6/5/2005 9:21:14 AM

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My lady and I switch, when we started the relationship I was nearly always the one in control but as time has gone on we are more and more fluid in our roles..LOL last weekend we ended up flipping a coin (2 out of 3) to choose who was on top..( And it turned out to be one of the hottest play sessions we've ever had). In our day to day life we're pretty much equal parnters..

IMNSHO swtiches can submit to the right person, however they still have that other side that needs to get out and play. Before I found my partner I had several Dominant women that I was exploring the possiblity of submtting to. They all knew I was a switch and accepted that I would need to exercise that part of me from time to time. So it was made quite clear from the start that A. My submission was exclusive to them with they having 1st priority on my time. B. They had veto power over my choice of bottoms, C. That never would my Topping enter into the primary relationship. and D. That my topping would not involve sexual contact.

It can work, if the communication is open and honest.

Good luck

Kuma

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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 6/21/2005 6:00:46 PM

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1. Who decides who is "dominant for a day"??

Easy! You do. You're the permanent Dom. Terms for switching should be drafted, (probably, but not necessarily), by you and agreed to by both. I have very successfully used session plans with a pro-dom that give clarity thru print and thereby avoid misunderstanding. These include such things as 'safeword' use and thressholds; also guidelines for activities, costume preferences, boundaries, goals, and the duration of play.

2. What if both are feeling submissive?

Whatever madam regards as the most appropriate role to play at any given moment remains your guide on this one.

3. What if both are feeling Dominant?

See '2'.

4. Should I allow a switch into My household as a sub/slave?

Only if there is accord on expectations.

5. Is it correct for Me to be concerned that this switch will eventually need to exercise his Dominant side?

Sure, it probably could be taken as a given, lest they would not identify as such.

6. If so, I am not going to allow play with another sub here and there; after all they are in My household , under contract, as a slave...right?

Again, depends on how you feel about it. If it feels good, do it! Yes?

7. I'm not an Amazon. I don't like the fight. Is it reasonable for Me to project that this fight for Dominance is bound to occur at some point?

My pro-dom always maintains the upper hand, even when playing the sub. In fact for me, the knowledge of her ultimate power can in itself be arousing. After all, our encounters always involve a solid sexual foundation. We work on her raw sexual power, often defined by my animal lust for her. When overtly dominant, she makes full use of her allure to control me. Great for teasing, while we do some denial, she always makes me cum somehow.

8. I am now worrying about the Switch's needs, and making exceptions to My normal household rules?

Again, with a session plan acting as a contract, you needn't worry about losing control. With everything of concern addressed, you can yourself relax into the 'other side' and enjoy yourself.

9. Why are they applying to Me in the first place?

Because they assume that a dom you might also be still on a learning curve and open to suggestion, at least that you would treat the penchants of others with the same respect that you would wish for yourself.

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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 6/21/2005 11:03:51 PM

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Maybe a bit late in the day to come into this discussion, but I have been reading the posts with great interest.
I have always been Dominant, but a few years ago,by default found I enjoyed some very sub traits.
This lay dormant until fairly recently, when having met my present Dom partner, I now find myself in the rather comfortable place of being completely submissive to Him, and Him only, but still totally Dominant to others.
Because of what everyone else has written there is no need to be more explanatory, other than to say I feel very easy with it all, and it leaves no confusion as to which hat I should be wearing.

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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 6/25/2005 3:23:39 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Plertyl

1. Who decides who is "dominant for a day"??

Easy! You do. You're the permanent Dom. Terms for switching should be drafted, (probably, but not necessarily), by you and agreed to by both. I have very successfully used session plans with a pro-dom that give clarity thru print and thereby avoid misunderstanding. These include such things as 'safeword' use and thressholds; also guidelines for activities, costume preferences, boundaries, goals, and the duration of play.

2. What if both are feeling submissive?

Whatever madam regards as the most appropriate role to play at any given moment remains your guide on this one.

3. What if both are feeling Dominant?

See '2'.

4. Should I allow a switch into My household as a sub/slave?

Only if there is accord on expectations.

5. Is it correct for Me to be concerned that this switch will eventually need to exercise his Dominant side?

Sure, it probably could be taken as a given, lest they would not identify as such.

6. If so, I am not going to allow play with another sub here and there; after all they are in My household , under contract, as a slave...right?

Again, depends on how you feel about it. If it feels good, do it! Yes?

7. I'm not an Amazon. I don't like the fight. Is it reasonable for Me to project that this fight for Dominance is bound to occur at some point?

My pro-dom always maintains the upper hand, even when playing the sub. In fact for me, the knowledge of her ultimate power can in itself be arousing. After all, our encounters always involve a solid sexual foundation. We work on her raw sexual power, often defined by my animal lust for her. When overtly dominant, she makes full use of her allure to control me. Great for teasing, while we do some denial, she always makes me cum somehow.

8. I am now worrying about the Switch's needs, and making exceptions to My normal household rules?

Again, with a session plan acting as a contract, you needn't worry about losing control. With everything of concern addressed, you can yourself relax into the 'other side' and enjoy yourself.

9. Why are they applying to Me in the first place?

Because they assume that a dom you might also be still on a learning curve and open to suggestion, at least that you would treat the penchants of others with the same respect that you would wish for yourself.

I did not mean to ever give the impression that I am ever submissive, because I am not. I was posing general questions to try to understand better, for Myself, the mentality of the switch. I do continue to get many applications for a live-in position from boys who identify as switches.
I appreciate all of the answers on this thread, and certainly welcome as many more as would like to share.
I have determined, for My own purposes, that I would not do well with a switch in the house. I would not personally be able to put up with the dominant needs of a boy, and My tendency would be to make sure his needs were being met outside of O/our relationship. Honestly, it would just end up pissing Me off, in the long run.
So on a personal level, I will always maintain friendships with switches, but I cannot have a more intimate relationship with one.

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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 6/26/2005 4:27:00 AM

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ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold

I came to this area to try to figure out more about switches.
I am absolutely Dominant. The thrust of My profile is seeking 24/7 live-in slaves so that would definitely require a submissive role. Yet I have switches contact Me quite often applying for this position. I will add here that I had a slave who had previously attempted a relationship with a Switch. She did mention to him, on occasion, she really wished he could dominate her once in a while. Of course he couldn't, so the relationship went south. I have a basic understanding of what a Switch is. I admit I do not relate to the mentality of it. The easiest answer for Me has always been "find another switch." Maybe I am wrong. And I admit I have never bothered to check this out very thoroughly. That is wrong of Me. So here are a few questions:

1. Who decides who is "dominant for a day"??
2. What if both are feeling submissive?
3. What if both are feeling Dominant?
4. Should I allow a switch into My household as a sub/slave?
5. Is it correct for Me to be concerned that this switch will eventually need to exercise his Dominant side?
6. If so, I am not going to allow play with another sub here and there; after all they are in My household , under contract, as a slave...right?
7. I'm not an Amazon. I don't like the fight. Is it reasonable for Me to project that this fight for Dominance is bound to occur at some point?
8. I am now worrying about the Switch's needs, and making exceptions to My normal household rules?
9. Why are they applying to Me in the first place?

I am dead serious here. Hopefully this will bring some good response. I respect all of you, and and your choices. I can see switching roles (not Me, per se) at a play party, but I wonder how 24/7 is handled. I get the impression that some of you have it. And I guess that should have been question #10.
I want to learn.
Teach Me!!!!

I tend to think of being a switch the same way I view bisexuality. I don't need to be with a man and a woman at all times. But I can have a long term relationship as either a Domme or a submissive. They both are fulfilling to me. I happen to be engaged with another switch and I won't speak for anyone else but it's perfect for us. I tend to know by his actions if he wishes me to submit. Or we might discuss it beforehand. It's actually a lot easier than it seems from the outside.

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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 7/2/2005 4:59:19 PM

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A switch is someone who is comfortable being either Domme or sub.

I kind of think of being a switch as being like a chameleon. If I'm with a Dominant partner, I take on the submissive role. If I'm with a submissive partner, I'll take on the Dominant role. If I'm with another switch, I get to play both roles depending on my lover's mood.

Some may be confusing "switch" with "versatile." Versatile means you are both a top and a bottom. They want to play both the passive and aggressive roles in bed. If I'm a submissive bottom, all I want to do is submit and be passive in bed. If I'm submissive and versatile, I enjoy submitting, but every now and then I want to play the aggressive role in bed. Make sense?

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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 7/5/2005 5:33:10 PM

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It took few years, an almost repeatedly broken heart, and alot of arguing with many, many Doms to finally accept that *I* ~gulp~ was a Switch!

Initially, I did have various levels of Dominant & submissive, like 80% Dominant/20% submissive. Over the past two years and growth with my Alpha Male, things have changed.

My Dominant side and submissive side exist almost independent of one another. We have not progressed into a more formal method of training as there have been other matters to take care of, including the continued difficulty of my Dominant side trying to figure out how to communicate with One who knows Everything!

However, there is one rule I live by above all else:

1. Don't Dom your Dom.

Now, with my Dominant side, I have earned the respect to talk and plan with Him as almost an equal. I am not expected to submit to Him or serve Him. However, when the collar comes on, well, then it's my submissive side's turn and it's all about Him. My voice changes. My tone changes. My body language changes. It is obvious that I have switched, and the second rule for these situations:

2. Once sub, stay sub until it is obvious or stated that the sub is no longer needed.

I tend to be of the belief that a Switch really does Switch and that most who call themselves Switches but see themselves being totally submissive to One or Dominant to another are really looking for a more solid role in D/s than the few descriptions give. But maybe that's just my arrogant Dominant side.

Anyway, in summation:

The Dom and the Dominant nature of the Switch should decide the role of the submissive. If the Switch is totally sub to the Dom, then it is most likely the Switch will be happy subbing to the Dom. However, the Switch may one day want a charge/project/sub of their own as a means for releasing Dominant tendencies.

As far as allowing a Switch into your household, my only comment would be that maybe allowing them for definite contractual periods. I've learned from personal experience being sub too long can be mentally destabilizing for a Switch.

The Switch may need to exercise his Dominant side. This can usually be alleviated by allowing him to be Dom over something, anything, anyone, at your choosing. I currently "Dom" my submissive nature.... and let me tell you, boy is that an interesting digression...

Under a defined contract a Switch may be able to forgo his Dominant nature, depending on the person depends on how long they can do this for... for me personally, I'd say no more than three months straight... it's kind of a fine line between abstinence (which is possible) and confinement (which can cause permanent muscle damage).

I, as a Switch, do not fight for Dominance. Often I merely choose to exert it. If the two Doms around me don't appreciate it, they let me know. However, in terms of your household I would consider it completely appropriate to punish the Switch for Switching under contract. Think of it more as adding a rule rather than changing your existing ones or making exceptions.

Switch's are one of the least understood and least recognized aspects of D/s. Most Doms I've run across think I'm silly for calling myself a Switch until they truly see me in action. Switches are either considered to be confused or too difficult to deal with. So, most people don't want them around. However, we want D/s experience too and many of them may be looking to more fully understand and appreciate submission. It is hard to fully embrace D/s without experiencing it.

I hope this helped...

LadyMindParadox

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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 7/6/2005 5:02:28 PM

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LadyMindParadox,

This helped a lot! Thank you for taking the time to express yourself so beautifully, and thank you for being so willing to share.
Welcome to the boards. I hope you will be able to find the time to share more of your personal insights.

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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 7/6/2005 9:08:18 PM

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Goddess DustyGold,

Thank you for the warm welcome. I look forward to many more posts. :-)

Glad I could be of help.

LadyMindParadox

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RE: Calling All Switches! Teach a Mistress - 7/18/2005 1:11:30 PM

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Goddess,
First off let me say that I give you alot of credit for asking these questions and seeking help..many wouldn't..

I am not into the lifestyle,but have many experiences and i am a switch,myself. My opinion would be that you wouldn't take in a switch to be your slave 24/7. It really can only lead to disaster,no matter how great the intentions from the beginning. a switch would at sometime feel and need the urge to let their dominant side free. With you not being submissive at all,ultimately this would lead to hard feelings and and also degrading the relationship that the two of you would build and invest in. There are no winners here.
I wish you the best of luck and I'm sure my opinion is just one of many that you'll be receiving or infact already have received.
Jim in MA

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