TheLioness
Posts: 9
Joined: 2/18/2005 Status: offline
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I hate to throw a monkey wrench in here .. well, okay, I don't hate to. I am a selective switch after all and since we apparently confuse many... but I digress. First, methinks the lady doth protest too much. Domination should flow without worry of anyone perceiving that one might have some tiny inkling of submission. Anyway, I get the feeling that folks are forgetting that D/s roles v SM play are two very different things, though the "norm" these days is to find them very blended in varying degrees, still they are quite different for many switches. Many are the Tops/Sadists who have absolutely no interest in psychological domination, they like hurting people for sexual fun, period. And god knows I know my own share of Bottoms/Masochists who would sooner rip out their own fingernail than call anyone Sir or Ma'am, god forbid kneel in respect. Equally, plenty of submissives run screaming from the thought of any real physical pain, and many are the Dominants who would rather cuddle a little playtoy after a severe talking to than EVER apply punishment physically. There are switches who are pure masochists with completely dominant personalities. I figure if a switch who's being honest wants to enter a household as a slave badly enough to apply for it, the last thing on his or her mind is challenging the Dominant's position, it's a complete anathema to someone looking for that position in life ... however, we're a fairly experienced and very savvy lot since all of us have ridden this pony both fully astride and side-saddle, so if you are not secure in your own domination, if you really find yourself worried about having your authority challenged, then chances are you're harboring some insecurities about staying in control, and I don't know about the rest of y'all who are really dominant switches like me, but the minute someone calling themselves a "pure dom" smells like insecurity and fear to me, POOF .. all my feelings of submission towards them pretty much go the way of the dodo, even if I don't want them to, nothing I can do to stop it. She's right to be worried if that is, in fact, her worry. Let me clarify, she shouldn't necessarily worry that her authority will be challenged, more that the slave will be unable to submit once he/she detects insecurity and/or fear of challenge. And for pete's sake, I'm NOT saying that's the case with this fine lady, just pointing out a real problem if it is. Domina Katrina polyamorous bisexual selective switch greedy pig always dead honest occassional pot stirrer.
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