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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 10:52:20 AM

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In fact a lot of traits that are usually seen as less than desireable are drawn to BDSM. In the case of fat people, it seems that many believe something along the lines of "it's really hard for me to get any action in the vanilla world.... maybe if I'm willing to degrade myself, or reduce myself simply to a willing set of holes, or agree to do whatever nasty things somebody else wants, I'll get my needs met". Many are willing to experience things they might not otherwise want for themselves, in order to get affection, love, sex, and so on.

pffft - BDSM makes my pussy wet, vanilla sex bores me. It's just how I'm wired.

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 10:52:23 AM

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No offense to anyone or those who like those type of women
Oh really? You could have fooled me by what you say below.

Just kinda wonder if there's something psychological there.
You assume that plus-sized women have psychological issues. You know what people say about that word ASSUME, don't you, making an ASS out of U and ME? I'm sure you do.

A lot of women here have those force/rape fantasies. In everyday life in general a woman around 200 pounds isn't going to draw much attention from anyone who would actually force someone. is that part of it?
That's a pretty asshat assumption. Are you saying you know how rapists' minds operate? I openly admit I am over 200 pounds and, yes, I have been raped, viciously, more than once. It sure as hell didn't keep me from being raped. Just for the record, no rape fantasy here. It's more like a nightmare complete with PTSD triggers.

Is it more of a fantasy to submit because its unlikely it would ever happen in real life.
Again, another asshat assumption. Whether you believe it or not, it DOES happen in real life, quite a bit actually. You in your judgmentalism just don't notice it.

Look at streakers in sports across the world. If its fairly attractive woman there's cheers and such. If they were overweight I'm sure many would say oh my cover them up.
How can you be so sure? Are you assuming(that word again) that everyone thinks like you?

Again not attacking but just rather curious why this and other sites seem to be widely populated by those types of women
"Those types of women??" Making assumptions based on size is ignorant.

MY question to YOU is this: Why are some men drawn to posting threads with thinly-veiled insults and assumptions that just make them look ignorant?

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 10:52:43 AM

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Oh good, it was about time for another fat thread. What's it been, like a week.

Ja, I am in here to see if I can snag a couple blowjobs off the fatgirls.

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 10:53:05 AM

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Oh good, it was about time for another fat thread. What's it been, like a week.

Ja, I am in here to see if I can snag a couple blowjobs off the fatgirls.

I'll send them your way when I'm finished.

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 10:53:54 AM

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Wow defensive group you guys are. I meant no offense to anyone. I was just curious that is all. Maybe I'm wrong. I can admit not some scholar of the subject. I'm sure there are plus size women on here that find what they are searching for. Most people are programmed by tv. If u were to ask 10 men who would the choose between Kim kardashian or Kathy bates if they had a choice. Well isn't rocket science to figure that one out. what woman say that is 5-6 125 or so wakes up and says oh I really wish I was 185 or more. And yes I a fully capable of editing search settings. I was referring to the site as a whole

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 10:56:14 AM

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Its just that fat people are so vile that perversion is the only thing we have left!!!!!!!!!
laughable but its confuses little minds:)

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 10:58:41 AM

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Wow defensive group you guys are. I meant no offense to anyone. I was just curious that is all. Maybe I'm wrong. I can admit not some scholar of the subject. I'm sure there are plus size women on here that find what they are searching for. Most people are programmed by tv. If u were to ask 10 men who would the choose between Kim kardashian or Kathy bates if they had a choice. Well isn't rocket science to figure that one out. what woman say that is 5-6 125 or so wakes up and says oh I really wish I was 185 or more. And yes I a fully capable of editing search settings. I was referring to the site as a whole

I'm sorry that you allow tv or anything else program you. I'm sorry that within your shallowness you see everyone as defensive rather than calling you on your faulty information and issues that you have projected here, making clear your stance on things. I'm sorry that you relate rocket science to tv programing and how your rocket science isn't quite working for you. I am sorry your online romance isn't turning out so well for you. I'm sorry your head is stuffed with tv programing cotton and as sorry as I am... I am also sorry it isn't filling your mouth before you use your keyboard to open it.

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 10:59:03 AM

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Why do people that are involved with bdsm, consider it almost a last resort for some people? As if bdsm is a bad thing or that it is a last resort for those undesirables in other categories. Do we question those that are considered highly desirable in any category?

Because they are largely ignorant. I have met people of all ages, all shapes, sizes, sexual preferences, genders, you name it. I haven't seen everything yet either. If you think that BDSM is restricted to damaged or fat folks, you are mistaken. Case in point, Hatchhouse has 4 thin nubile young female lesbians in it, and I believe two of them are bisexual. So...yah wieght has jack shit to do with BDSM.

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 11:00:33 AM

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Well, since we are all asking questions and seek, nay; demand no umbrage; do you notice that a lot of less than articulate people with atrocious spelling and grammar come here and ask stupid questions?

And, as a follow up, do you think this phenomenont more prevalent on BDSM sites, or on places like matchup and so on?

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 11:00:44 AM

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A lot of women here have those force/rape fantasies. In everyday life in general a woman around 200 pounds isn't going to draw much attention from anyone who would actually force someone.

Rape isn't about being sexually attracted to someone. Rape is about control issues and massive anger. So, your suggestion that only thin, young, attractive women get raped is massively off target.

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 11:03:35 AM

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Actually my housemate is a size 6, 110 pounds an shes desperate to put on weight, her clothes look awful on her, she looks gaunt and sick and she's physically trying to force feed herself more calories... so yes there are those women out there too. Guess theres nowt as queer as folk eh?

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 11:05:30 AM

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A lot of women here have those force/rape fantasies. In everyday life in general a woman around 200 pounds isn't going to draw much attention from anyone who would actually force someone. is that part of it? Is it more of a fantasy to submit because its unlikely it would ever happen in real life.

Myth: Rape only happens to young attractive women.

Fact: Rape can and does strike anyone at anytime. Age, social class, ethnic group and has no bearing on the person a rapist chooses to attack. Research data clearly proves that a way a woman dresses and / or acts does not influence the rapists choice of victims. His decision to rape is based on how easily he perceives his target can be intimidated. Rapists are looking for available and vulnerable targets.

Statistics were obtained from various sources including the study Rape in America, 1992, National Victim Center, The Federal Bureau of Investigations and the National Crime Survey.

More rape myths: http://www.d.umn.edu/cla/faculty/jhamlin/3925/myths.html

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 11:05:31 AM

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Have her rub loo paper all over herself. Look what its done for her ass.

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 11:07:18 AM

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Wow defensive group you guys are. I meant no offense to anyone.
It would appear that way to YOU, but coming here stating all those ASSumptions about fat people, rape, attractiveness, etc, DOES appear that way to US. You might have gotten a better reception without all the assuming you're doing.

I'm sure there are plus size women on here that find what they are searching for.
Yes, there are.

Most people are programmed by tv. If u were to ask 10 men who would the choose between Kim kardashian or Kathy bates if they had a choice. Well isn't rocket science to figure that one out.
Actually, I just asked Daddy who he would pick. He said "Kathy Bates actually. Kim Kardashian seems like a snotty, skinny little bitch to me." So there you go. You'd better brush up on your rocket science, you're slacking.

what woman say that is 5-6 125 or so wakes up and says oh I really wish I was 185 or more.
She doesn't use those particular parameters, but my ex-sister-in-law says every day that she would like to gain about 50 pounds on her 5'5", 89 pound frame. She is anorexic and does, in fact, have psychological issues.

And yes I a fully capable of editing search settings.
Maybe you should then, and leave the rest of us out of your search. We wouldn't want to be found by you anyway.

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 11:07:37 AM

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Wow defensive group you guys are. I meant no offense to anyone. I was just curious that is all. Maybe I'm wrong. I can admit not some scholar of the subject.

You are confusing defensive with offended or mocking and should learn to think before you speak (or post.)

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 11:14:33 AM

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How is it that this OP has managed to miss all the hundred-pound lesbians?

heather picked them all up.

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 11:16:21 AM

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I am not actually offended, but I do feel the need to mock the wilfully ignorant.

Oh, wait, is that intolerant of me?

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 11:16:34 AM

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If u were to ask 10 men who would the choose between Kim kardashian or Kathy bates if they had a choice. Well isn't rocket science to figure that one out.

When I think of Kathy Bates, I think of her role in Misery.

When I think of Kim K, I think of her big juicy ass, nom nom nom:

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 11:17:23 AM

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How is it that this OP has managed to miss all the hundred-pound lesbians?

heather picked them all up.

DAMN that chica is some fast!! Didnt she leave me one redhead?

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RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? - 10/21/2011 11:17:57 AM

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If u were to ask 10 men who would the choose between Kim kardashian or Kathy bates if they had a choice. Well isn't rocket science to figure that one out.

When I think of Kathy Bates, I think of her role in Misery.

When I think of Kim K, I think of her big juicy ass, nom nom nom:

If you could just get her to shut the fuck UP.

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