Proprietrix
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Joined: 7/15/2005 From: Ohio/West Virginia Status: offline
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Hmm…. You know, as a Dominant, I really just don’t have any urge to push limits. I kinda of think "Wtf is the point?" Name me any reason to push a limit, and I will rebut it with a comment about adulthood and maturity of two people engaging in consensual acts. I might be highly curious about the reason why the limit is there, and ask about it. I might even relate it to other types of play to not engage in. (i.e. if a sub has a limit against face-slapping because Dad hit him in the face, I’m probably also going to avoid any other type of impact play near the face.) People often see the words "limits are there for a reason", but dismiss the statement as kind of cliché. They really are though. Most subs don’t randomly go down a checklist and mark every 16th entry as a hard limit. They choose certain activities that trigger a certain response in them. It’s not my place as another human being to undermine a submissive’s reasoning based on their own emotions. I wouldn’t do it to my child. I wouldn’t do it to my family or friends. Why would I do it to my subs? Going back to…. wtf is the point? I just can’t think of any good logical reason to push limits. None.
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IMO, IMHO, YMMV, AFAIK, to me, I see it as, from my perspective, it's been my experience, I only speak for myself, (and all other disclaimers here).
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