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ORIGINAL: ModTwentyOne

The topic of this thread is whether or not people that dislike overweight people are less tolerant in other areas as well. It is not about who can or cannot lose weight or gain weight, how to lose weight or gain weight, or an opportunity to use perjorative terms like "fatties".

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ORIGINAL: tiggerspoohbear

I've had to think about it.  Ima fat chick too.   I find that a lot more people are intolerant and like to disguise it a lot of the time as "concern".  But then I know they're also intolerant of a lot of other things too.  So I try to keep them out of my life.   I know I'm overweight, no one telling me is making some great pronoucement like I wasn't aware of it.  Heck, I carry every day, don'tcha think I know already?

I was in emerg at the hospital yesterday, an elderly patient's wife asked me if I was in labour.  Now I know that without a bra, those over the shoulder boulders kinda sag, and I have a buddah belly no doubt about that either, to her it never crossed her mind that I might just be fat.  I find people just don't have a brain filter anymore and say whatever they want before they can stop and think before they regret it.  Society today doesn't stop and think before being rude and obnoxious to people who are overweight.  If you don't like what I look like, then it's easy, turn away, I'm not making you look at me.  I am who I am and that's the end of it.

I don't need unsolicited advice, or helpful comments, or plain ole rudeness to lose weight.  I don't eat take-out more than once a month, it's a treat for me.  I hate to go grocery shopping because I feel like I'm being judged on what I'm buying.  The same thing as going into Dairy Queen and ordering a cone on a really hot day, I feel like everyone is looking at me thinking "wow, she really needs to be eating that now doesn't she?".

Until you've walked a mile in an overweight person's shoes, then don't judge us, don't belittle us, don't make snide comments and if you're thinking it, then there's no need to say it in a carrying undertone you know will be heard.  I'm often hurt by the very people I hold closest to me by their insensitive remarks.  They just don't think before they speak.  I keep my mouth shut or I might lose it and I don't want to do that.  I know at least they have my best interests at heart.  But FFS, I'm an adult, I can look after myself and I don't need anyone to "help" me unless I ask for it.

'Nuff said.

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ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker

Most overweight people in my personal experience have attitude problems, low self-esteem, and an endless supply of excuses. 

I'm sure it's a "thyroid" problem you have when you're munching down that McDonald's on a semi-regular basis and lounging around.

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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

Ima fat chick.  It is what it is.  I could do more to lose weight, but I haven't found the necessary discipline within me yet to do that.  I may or may not find it in the future, who knows.

I hate to agree with NS, but, I also find that many fat folks have bad attitudes towards others.  It is like, you can't hate me because I am fat, but I can call you a skinny bitch and make fun of you and your gorgeous friends.  Horseshit.  It can't be both ways.

I know some folks can not lose weight for various reasons.  Genetics, disease, lack of knowledge, mental illness, and the list goes on and on and on.

My main problem is the way that everyone goes on and on about how lazy and undisciplined we fat folks are.  I wish that bad eating habits and lack of exercise showed up with a wart on the nose or something, because I know just as many thin folks who have horrid habits, just like me, but they are not fat, simply because their genetics are different.

So, don't dig fat chicks.  I couldn't care less.  I have my own preferences about what I find attractive. 

But, gimme a break if you think that only fat folks have bad eating habits and don't exercise enough.  There are just as many thinner folks dropping dead from clogged arteries as their are fat folks.

Life is what it is.  Just live it.

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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie

Except the 19 year old's.....we were all skinny once.

I like bigger women because the younger (thinner ones) don't have the mental capacity to keep up with me.

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ORIGINAL: TheFireWithinMe

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ORIGINAL: tiggerspoohbear
I've had to think about it.  Ima fat chick too.   I find that a lot more people are intolerant and like to disguise it a lot of the time as "concern".  But then I know they're also intolerant of a lot of other things too.  So I try to keep them out of my life.   I know I'm overweight, no one telling me is making some great pronoucement like I wasn't aware of it.  Heck, I carry every day, don'tcha think I know already?

I was in emerg at the hospital yesterday, an elderly patient's wife asked me if I was in labour.  Now I know that without a bra, those over the shoulder boulders kinda sag, and I have a buddah belly no doubt about that either, to her it never crossed her mind that I might just be fat.  I find people just don't have a brain filter anymore and say whatever they want before they can stop and think before they regret it.  Society today doesn't stop and think before being rude and obnoxious to people who are overweight.  If you don't like what I look like, then it's easy, turn away, I'm not making you look at me.  I am who I am and that's the end of it.

I don't need unsolicited advice, or helpful comments, or plain ole rudeness to lose weight.  I don't eat take-out more than once a month, it's a treat for me.  I hate to go grocery shopping because I feel like I'm being judged on what I'm buying.  The same thing as going into Dairy Queen and ordering a cone on a really hot day, I feel like everyone is looking at me thinking "wow, she really needs to be eating that now doesn't she?".

Until you've walked a mile in an overweight person's shoes, then don't judge us, don't belittle us, don't make snide comments and if you're thinking it, then there's no need to say it in a carrying undertone you know will be heard.  I'm often hurt by the very people I hold closest to me by their insensitive remarks.  They just don't think before they speak.  I keep my mouth shut or I might lose it and I don't want to do that.  I know at least they have my best interests at heart.  But FFS, I'm an adult, I can look after myself and I don't need anyone to "help" me unless I ask for it.

'Nuff said.

Sweetie, I love ya but that's YOU being self-conscious and imaging what people are thinking. Chances are they really don't care what you're doing.

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I know how self-conscious I am, it's a big problem with me, has been for years.  I try not to think about it, but it ain't always easy when you do hear people makes comments about it.  I just let them slide, and get the damned ice cream cone anyways, but then I manage to guilt myself out.  My mom had 40 yrs of French Catholic small town ideas to get me to the point where I feel guilty about everything.  She could be worse than a Jewish mother, including Gene Simmon's mom. 

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

uumm...you were in an emergency room.

She saw you and thought maybe you were having a baby and that's why you were there. People in emergency rooms like to talk to each other about whatever they are there for because it helps to take the stress out of the reason they are there. She probably felt she could talk to  you. I don't see how that was rude or talking without thinking.

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As for Fire, you slap me Woman, Imma slap you right back.  And we've had a lot of fun texting, but also quite a few serious convos and you are truly a Dear Heart.

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ORIGINAL: tiggerspoohbear

Can we chase people down in my car while we're getting lost if they're shouting insults at us?  (J/K folks, for those who need to be told that)[8D]