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ORIGINAL: werebeastie

Aynne,

Thank you for the kind words.  Certainly you may ask and I will here try to answer, well, I will answer do not know if you will find it satisfactory.

First I should like to clarify one point, I did not say I did not want a relationship by definition the arrangement a Master and sub or slave enter into is a relationship.  In fact a want a remarkable relationship and I do not want to put limitations on how that relationship might grow or what course it might follow.  It is because I want a successful remarkable relationship that I exclude the vanilla notions of girlfriends and wives.  I think that those words carry with them concepts and connotations that can cause cognitive dissonance when they are carried into the BDSM world. 

I cannot speak for other people that call themselves Master/Mistress or Dom/Domme I can only speak for myself and I have found that often I am not in step even with my perceived peers ... I don't get my nose bent out of shape if someone forgets to capitalize some word or speaks to me first or what ever else the self proclaimed ubers get all spastic about ... I said it somewhere before ... its not that I march to the beat of a different drummer; I dance to my own music.  I am me and do not need some title or ritual display to validate me I am comfortable with who and what I am.  A mostly playful Apex Mammalian Social Predator.  Perhaps that comfort is what allows me to so outgoing. 

I am guessing that the answer to your second question must in truth always be yes, everything I am today is based on my past relationships, experiences and the genetic make up that responds to those environmental stimuli.

Nosy curious ... its all in the perception

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ORIGINAL: werebeastie

So Pete,

Am I digging myself a grave here? 

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ORIGINAL: werebeastie

So Pete,

Am I digging myself a grave here? 

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ORIGINAL: Ninebelowzero

Don't think so, it's a case of the more open you are the more chance you will get what you are looking for. But that's just an opinion.

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ORIGINAL: werebeastie

So Pete,

Am I digging myself a grave here? 

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ORIGINAL: werebeastie

Understood; if you believe the two to be mutually exclusive, I do not.  Herein lies the problem with some of our chosen words ... for instance slave ... there is no real or at least no legal slavery and the people on here are drawn together by mutual interest and desires and when two come together it is because the submissive has chosen to be with the dominant, not because the dominant raided their village and carried them off.  The word zealot would be more appropriate but it carries other connotations all its own.  Still when one chooses to be a slave versus sub then one must by default accept the chattel aspect of the title.  I have no idea what line of logic would lead one to say a slave cannot be loved, cherished even treasured.  The greatest love of my life was my slave, had she not been stolen from me by a drunken driver we would have been married ... not to make her my "wife" we didn't need that title or anyone's blessing for what we shared and it was a very deep love, our reason was more pragmatic concerning property rights and such.  Still I do not find a woman or her position in my heart to be diminished simply by her choice to give herself utterly unto me, to have the depth of love, trust and respect necessary to make such a commitment; on the contrary I hold the greatest respect for a couple that can make such an intimate and holistic commitment to one another.  My slave, my beloved chattel holds a place of higher esteem with me than any other woman.

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Understood; if you believe the two to be mutually exclusive, I do not.

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My slave, my beloved chattel holds a place of higher esteem with me than any other woman.

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Still when one chooses to be a slave versus sub then one must by default accept the chattel aspect of the title.

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ORIGINAL: werebeastie

You have a different logic string than I Aynne you seem to feel that if a woman is a slave or chattel by another name that she will not be loved ... and I suppose that is true in some cases but its true in some relationships regardless of how they are titled.  As I said before i cannot speak for anyone but myself but I see no mutual exclusivity I believe that a slave can be loved just as much or as little as a woman bearing any other relationship title.