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Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 7:23:33 AM

sleazybutterfly

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When was the first time you entered "subspace"? To me.. it's kind of like having sex for the first time.. or even better yet.. your first orgasm.. i will always remember.

mine was when i was cuffed at the wrists.. with them tied above me.. legs spread..and i was flogged. Sir, that was with me at the time was worried.. because i had become sort of quiet..but my wrists were pulling against the restraints..He even stopped to check on me..and when He came around..He expected to see me upset or crying..instead.. i was so high.. my head was spinning.. and i had a huge grin across my face...though i could barely talk...it was mostly breathing..and moaning...i asked "what this was, is something wrong?" and He said with a smile.. "you have just entered subspace"... to be honest.. i didn't care what it was.. i just didn't want it to end.. i just grabbed the moment..and rode it out..mmmmm...that was a nice memory to bring back.

Diamonds used to be my best friend, now.. it's the flogger.... Please, Sir.. may i have another..and another..etc.... ;)

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RE: Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 7:30:12 AM

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Mine was the other night and yahoooo... Back for a few hours and having spin of threads of my posts :D

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RE: Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 7:39:00 AM

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my first journeys into subspace are not so memorable to me because i was with a vanilla and trying to make him Dominant at the time. Neither was my first orgasm as i didn't know what it was when i had it. However i will always remember the first time i had vaginal sex. i do remember that my previous vanilla partner was able to send me spinning by just looking into my eyes, he just had no clue what he was doing and didn't know what to do once i got there.

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RE: Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 7:49:05 AM

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Still trying and wishing I would get there. I just don't know if I can now.

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RE: Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 8:04:14 AM

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Hmm I honestly don't remember. Sure it was fun though.

I remember the first time I went into a subspace and it turned BAD. Was a great intense connection, we'd been together on a vacation break for a week (and when you're in a LDR, all your energy gets shoved into those vacation periods and it gets very intense), he'd been biting my neck very hard and I was pretty gone.

And then suddenly this blackness came over me, just a sweeping dark ickiness. I was still in subspace, but it wasn't a good place to be in at all. Since I'd never felt it before, I didn't know how to handle it and just let it come over me, and resulted in pulling away, crying a lot, and feeling pretty icky for quite awhile afterwards.

Energy can change quickly.

And for those who haven't gotten into subspace- please don't get upset or worried or feel left out. It's a cool thing, but it's not the be all and end all of life, even for a submissive.

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RE: Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 8:33:55 AM

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my first (and only) time came after an extended period of cropping, followed immediately by Her use of Her strap-on with me. She is never gentle with Her strap-on and it is generally very painful...suddenly, the pain became something else entirely and i lost most of my motorskills, able to just lay there, i dont know how long. Mistress brought me out of it when She had done by cuddling and talking to me.

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RE: Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 11:54:31 AM

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quote:

And for those who haven't gotten into subspace- please don't get upset or worried or feel left out. It's a cool thing, but it's not the be all and end all of life, even for a submissive.

i totally agree..this is all just for fun. It was an interesting place to go.. but i won't fall apart if it never happens again.. still a lot of pleasure to be had regardless.

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RE: Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 2:02:52 PM

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i remember the first time i spaced.......tied up & bent over recieving an intense caning........
i didnt really realize what happened at the time......but did when i came down....just like crashing from some drugs....
& thats the way it usually is for me at least......it seems like the subconcious takes over & i just sort of zone.....dont always really know whats going on....kind of like being locked inside your own head...but still looking in.....strange...
.but i can always tell how it was by how hard i crash.....& by my lovely battle wounds....

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RE: Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 2:10:59 PM

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The first time I hit subspace I was bent over the bed with my arms above my head..I had been spanked with a crop and I was being flogged and it felt good. I just drifted off to subspace.. I couldn't speak and I couldn't moan, But I could hear, see, and feel everything going on around me. I love subspace I always feel like I am coming down from a high

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RE: Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 2:17:54 PM

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I cannot remember when, evidently I have been going there since I was in my teens, just now I have a 'name' for it. I have always tried to surround myself with 'aggessive' and 'dominate' men it seems. I stay in sub-sace for an hour or more, so it's been a while; but it was always a blast.

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RE: Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 5:02:36 PM

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My first was the second day with my Master. I didnt realise anything was different till he unstrapped me from the kneeling bench and I couldnt move to get off of it. The most intense one I ever had was when he first whipped me. I was standing and he just told me to turn around and without warning I felt the bite of the bullwhip. I took 3 before I felt the rush of endorphines and my legs buckled.

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RE: Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 6:15:54 PM

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I am not sure I have entered "subspace' as others define it, but the first time I felt that buzzy pleasant feeling was during needle play. It was a very physiological reaction because the mental connection was minimal and it was not an emotional scene. Almost clinical actually.

It reminds me of the feeling associated with half a tablet of X.

Really the only time I have gotten that buzz is with breath play or needles/cutting. There are lots of ways I enjoy play though.

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RE: Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 6:45:42 PM

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I have experienced subspace, but what I wonder about is the space a dominant experiences. I cannot imagine it being like what I experience, because when I am 'there' sometimes I cannot even function enough to say my own name, much less the thought of performing the act that got me there to begin with as well as maintaining enough control to be concerned about another person or not to loose myself in the moment and really hurt someone.....I don't know, I really have not thought much about it until just now. I will be sure to ask Sir, but in the meanwhile, would any dominants care to shout out on this?

Epiphany:
Looking back now, it is a scary thought for me to realize how many times I have put myself in positions, bottoming to someone I certainly did not know well, taking for granted that they had enough control over themselves not to get lost in the moment, 'space', or whatever it is that a dominant experiences.

Maybe this question would have been better suited for a new thread, or if it has already been explored I would be interested in reading it.

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RE: Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 7:09:59 PM

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I have never entered subspace. Id really like to know what everyone is talking about when I hear this. Some say that the endorphins from pain causes it. All I know is that pain just hurts for me. I just dont get it.

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RE: Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 7:25:59 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
Energy can change quickly.

LA, i couldn't agree with you more.

I am an energy junkie...i thrive on it. The first time i hit subspace (23 years ago) i knew i had found the missing link that tied my natural abilities to my submissive nature. Talk about having a full circle moment.

Littlepita, everyone has the ability to hit subspace. You may have been there and not even realized it. If not, tuck it away in the back of your mind. Don't think about it. As i recently posted in my profile journal, "between thoughts is where things happen".

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RE: Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 7:40:10 PM

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The first time that I recall where I 'knew' it was subspace was during a needle demo at APEX. I had a breast cropping the day before and was pretty bruised from a delrin cane, and the Top put me into breast bondage with some flat rope she had with her.. great bondage now that I think back on it, too .. I think it was for around two hours and had three or four dozen clothespins on me.. strategically placed so that weren't on the parts of me which were already bruised. Then she did the piercing, thong'd the needles and she was pulling on them as we were dancing around on the stage to conga drums.. great atmosphere too.. she whispered to me to do what I wanted and bam.. I was gone.. flying. It was so intense because the energy in the room was incredible. I think there were about 150 - 200 people watching and I felt all their energy just flooding the stage and it enable me to go away.. afterwards both me and the Top were completely giddy and energized.. we were literally giggling and this is from a dominant who just doesn't giggle. ::laughs:: Once I went there that time.. it was fairly easy to get there again if the pain levels are high enough.

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RE: Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 7:59:01 PM

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My first time entering subspace was during my return trip from Vega IV, the planet with the green chicks that pleasure little sarbonns. After exiting hyperspace, we found ourselves momentarily in subspace, in which the whole crew was suddenly wanting to do things for all of the dominant women on board. But because there were none on board (stupid male sub duty roster!), we left subspace and then entered normal space.

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RE: Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 8:12:32 PM

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~shrug~
I don't do the 'subspace' thing that I'm aware of. I -do- get really nice endorphin highs, but I think that's something else entirely.

One thing that I -have- been able to do lately, that's kinda related, is put myself in a place where I can just ACT without being embarassed or agonizing over it. That is, when we're in public and he tells me to do something that makes me uncomfortable, I've finally found the place that lets me just do it, and be damned what else is going on.

We were at a party for the munch we attend two weeks ago, in front of a lot of people, he finished hitting me, told me to take off my clothes and crawl over to someone else. This isthe kind of thing that, in public, gives me a...a nervousness...but I was ableto go into that mental place and just act.

So, not subspace, but definatly a mindset. Which I gotta say was probably nicer, and more rewarding (for me) than any altered state I could acheive.

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RE: Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 8:37:43 PM

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First time I hit subspace I was playing with Master at Club Dominion in Muncie, IN. I was blindfolded and bound, standing in a metal frame, and He was using paddles and other "deep impact" implements on me. Quite suddenly, I went from feeling like I simply could not take any more, to a rather odd, heady sensation. I could feel the blows, and I knew it hurt, but I no longer cared that it hurt. He tells me when I'm in subspace I act like I'm really drunk, and I have no memory of activities that have taken place once I'm in that space.

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RE: Your first time?? - 5/26/2006 8:54:15 PM

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Nevermind...located the threads already....and it is now more clearer to me after reading the posts.

quote:

ORIGINAL: OhBeMyMind

I have experienced subspace, but what I wonder about is the space a dominant experiences.

Maybe this question would have been better suited for a new thread, or if it has already been explored I would be interested in reading it.

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