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New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/10/2011 10:32:20 PM

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I'm a new Dom here on CM. I joined mostly because I had my submissive "loriellen" join CM so that she could learn more about D/s relationships and more about herself. I'm 47yo and new to being a 'relationship' Dom, but not new to the BDSM lifestyle. I consider that I know exactly what I want and exactly how I want it. However, after being on CM for a month or so, new experiences have me wondering about Myself in ways I simply did not expect. I do not consider Myself sadistic, but My first punishment scene with My submissive left Me more excited than I thought would ever be possible. I'm also having thoughts about reconsidering My relationship with my sub, and whether I really want to pursue this relationship or let it go for one that would be more fulfilling for Me. My current submissive I first met 20 years ago, but she is not an admitted submissive (I'm training her to be), nor is she proving to be reliable in a relationship (which I am interested in), and I am looking at other submissive profiles and finding myself a little more than casually interested - none of which I expected, either.

So, I suspect I'll be participating more in the CM community than I thought I would be; and by this statement alone, I can see that I am leaning away from my current relationship with a submissive who is non-committal and towards a relationship with a submissive who would be more interested in a committed relationship.

Now I'm going to have to deal with my submissive reading this - which should help the relationship to no end.

- Richard

RE: New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/10/2011 10:34:44 PM

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I hope you're trolling, wow.

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RE: New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/10/2011 11:12:42 PM

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Define trolling, please - and I'll let you know.

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RE: New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/11/2011 5:25:50 AM

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RE: New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/11/2011 5:32:55 AM

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Define trolling, please - and I'll let you know.

Trolling
Trolling is trying to get a rise out of someone. Forcing them to respond to you, either through wise-crackery, posting incorrect information, asking blatantly stupid questions, or other foolishness. However, trolling statements are never true or are ever meant to be construed as such. Nearly all trolled statements are meant to be funny to some people, so it does have some social/entertainment value.

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So, I suspect I'll be participating more in the CM community than I thought I would be; and by this statement alone, I can see that I am leaning away from my current relationship with a submissive who is non-committal and towards a relationship with a submissive who would be more interested in a committed relationship.

Now I'm going to have to deal with my submissive reading this - which should help the relationship to no end.

This is passive-aggressive crap done by immature, weak children, not the actions of a mature, intelligent dominant.

If you want to be the relationship dom you claim, sit your current sub down before she sees this and TELL her how you feel. Relationships are about communication, first and foremost.

Any sub with half a brain will look up your forum posts before deciding to respond to your emails (or initiating contact). Do you really think she will be stupid enough to submit to a man who plays communication games like this?

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RE: New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/11/2011 5:46:39 AM

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Welcome to the discussion side of CM.

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RE: New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/11/2011 5:53:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: RichardAS

My current submissive I first met 20 years ago, but she is not an admitted submissive (I'm training her to be), nor is she proving to be reliable in a relationship (which I am interested in), and I am looking at other submissive profiles and finding myself a little more than casually interested - none of which I expected, either.

So, I suspect I'll be participating more in the CM community than I thought I would be; and by this statement alone, I can see that I am leaning away from my current relationship with a submissive who is non-committal and towards a relationship with a submissive who would be more interested in a committed relationship.

Now I'm going to have to deal with my submissive reading this - which should help the relationship to no end.

- Richard

Lemme translate:

I'm in a relationship with someone I've known 20 years. I look at the profiles and the pics of submissive women here, and think I could do a lot better than the woman I'm with. She's not good enough for me. Boy, is she gonna be pissed when she reads this.

Welcome to collarme, Richard.

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RE: New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/11/2011 5:57:47 AM

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if she's not reliable in a relationship, to the degree that you want, be honest and have a talk with her. seriously, being passive aggressive and hoping she'll dump you after she reads this, that's not a very "take-charge" quality, at least not to me... if you can't own your feelings and your decisions, then... how can you be a good leader?

ANYWAY, welcome to the CM forums.

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RE: New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/11/2011 7:17:45 AM

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I read your profile/journal entry & it sounds like "loriellen" has you on a short leash....she wants BDSM punishment she gets it despite it giving you a "headache".
She squeezes out a few tears & you immediately stop to kiss her face. Who's in charge is what I'd like to know.

The posts are very detailed & lengthy so it looks like you have some history so what you posted here about taking on another submissive knowing that "loriellen" would read this screams CHILDISH behavior. You 2 deserve each other but the roles should be reversed.

**Eta, this is your closing sentence which proves my point above.....
"I would ask of anyone who might interact with loriellen that she be treated with dignity and care"**.

If she's that fragile why did you post this less than dignified & caring intro??

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RE: New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/11/2011 7:45:57 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RichardAS
So, I suspect I'll be participating more in the CM community than I thought I would be; and
by this statement alone, I can see that I am leaning away from my current relationship with a
submissive who is non-committal and towards a relationship with a submissive who would be more interested in a committed relationship.

Now I'm going to have to deal with my submissive reading this - which should help the relationship
to no end.

- Richard

Welcome to the message board, Richard.
Another neat little feature that CM has that you in your newness may not have noticed is that all
those submissive women whose profiles have stirred an interest in you can now read anything you
have posted here in the forum (just like your current submissive can) and I fail to see how this post
would endear them to you. I would find it very hard to commit myself to a relationship where there
was no direct communication.

Edited to add - You aren't being honest with loriellen, therefore this post is false advertising.

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RE: New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/11/2011 8:24:49 AM

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Thanks to you for your welcome - and to those of you who present your 'welcomes'.

I don't enjoy being on the defensive automatically, but that is how things have played out. This is for those who have replied, as well as for my submissive:

I understand what those of you are saying. However, my post is an honest assessment of where I'm at, and it is also specifically intended for my submissive to read. The relationship I have with my submissive has complications and her situation and self have complications. But she needs to make a decision - which will not be an easy decision for her to make. That we have a history means that I understand the decision she needs to make, and she needs to know that I am 47yo and will not wait around for years for her as I have done in the past. This is the third time around, and she needs to make a decision about the rest of her life at this point, seeing as she is now middle-aged - which I need to remind her of. Left to herself, she will keep the relationship dangling on a string for as long as she can. The decision she faces is whether she wishes to live in a static and ultimately destructive relationship with her family or whether she has the courage to make the next step she needs to make; and I know which decision she wants to make but is afraid to make. I have provided her with all the positive incentives imaginable; she well knows how I feel and what I want. Now, after joining CM, there have arisen other factors - which I am now making clear and being honest about. I didn't envision this happening, but it has.

Since no-one here knows the dynamics of our particular relationship, I don't think there is warrant for any judgements on anyone else's part. I am not being cruel or hurtful or passive-aggressive; she needs to fully understand that I will not wait for her for untold years as she plays it safe for herself. I need a decision from her; and that is end of story in our particular relationship. If her decision is true and real, I will be there for her fully. I did not expect to present her with 'negative' motivations, but such has happened. But, what else can be expected when one party will draw out a relationship for as long as they can? Eventually, there will be other motivations and enticements.

Is she good enough for me?
Yes ... and no; not yet.
But I can make sure she is good enough for me - and that is a 10-year commitment which I am willing to undertake; and the reasons for this 10 years are too private for this venue. She needs to know that I know that I am willing to place myself in a 10-year commitment - at the end of which I will be 57 years old; and I consider that most significant a commitment. She should understand the levity of this commitment I am willing to undertake. I have made her aware of why there is such a 10-year commitment on my part and the reasons for it, which reasons are private and personal. I need her to know that I understand there is much she needs to deal with, but that I will be with her every step of the way. But I also need her to know that she cannot get away with keeping me waiting forever, as is 'safest' for her and as she has done in the past.

I want a relationship. I am 47 years old and do not consider myself having surplus years for her to waste. I will wait until my lease is up in June, and no longer; in the meantime, I will show her what it is to be with me. I know that she wishes to be with me, and I hope she is able to make that decision; I wish I could make the decision for her, but unfortunately I cannot. I think that one year is a sufficient period of time for her to make that decision; I believe that one year of my life is sufficient - this third time around.

I've been on CM before - years ago - and I know there are a lot of smart and savvy people here. This is a high-quality site with many high-quality people, and nobody is going to get away with any bull here; bluffs will be seen through and called. This level of quality is why I had my submissive join CM; if you were to read our profiles and journals you would understand better my intentions. Suffice that I had my submissive join CM so that she could witness and experience the very most open and honest of peoples, that she could learn from this exposure. Unexpectedly, I found myself having to learn new things about myself as well.

So, that is all for my defensive stance. I appreciate your many 'school-of-hard-knocks' welcomes - and your smirky humors (which do not go unappreciated) - but hope that we can transgress that initiation (rite? privilege? probation?) for those of you with 25,000 posts to my 2.

edit: yes, I do have a sense of humor.

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RE: New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/11/2011 10:03:03 AM

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ORIGINAL: VirginPotty
I read your profile/journal entry & it sounds like "loriellen" has you on a short leash....she wants BDSM punishment she gets it despite it giving you a "headache".
She squeezes out a few tears & you immediately stop to kiss her face. Who's in charge is what I'd like to know.

I see a lot of perception in the posts on CM. Your reply in particular hit me somehow and I found myself in some self-reflection.
loriellen did more than squeeze out a few tears; her body was sobbing. However, it was her first punishment and I would stop at her first tear, regardless. I knew that going into the punishment.

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ORIGINAL: VirginPotty
The posts are very detailed & lengthy so it looks like you have some history so what you posted here about taking on another submissive knowing that "loriellen" would read this screams CHILDISH behavior. You 2 deserve each other but the roles should be reversed.

In my reflection, I found my own frustration - which became very conscious. I can see my frustrations in my writings. The issues at hand have been the same since I was - essentially - living with loriellen 20 years ago. This is the third time around and the issues are still there. I am absolutely frustrated and find myself having to control my frustrations. I can't say that being frustrated is a positive state of mind, but I'm deeply so.

As far as communication goes, I'm trying to get loriellen to be more open with me. There are personal issues interfering with communication, and I don't think my frustrations are helping her either. But part of the problem is her lack of communication, which lack has been there since day one. This isn't really a D/s thing, but a general relationship thing. I'm not someone who throws in the towel easily, but my frustrations seem to be getting the better of me.
To me, everything seems very simple; we move in together and live happily ever after. I am left wondering where she's getting stuck on this. The fact that she is stuck is telling me that she doesn't want the relationship; but I can't get her to communicate with me either way. The fact that she doesn't want to communicate with me is telling me she doesn't want the relationship. On the other hand, she's spoken of getting married and so forth, so I'm getting all sorts of mixed signals. Hence I am frustrated and starting to wonder about a relationship with someone else.

It is possible that she doesn't want a D/s relationship; I don't know because she simply doesn't communicate. I'm unwilling to have a vanilla relationship, after all the vanilla relationships I've had. The D/s aspect is new to her and might well be a problem.

I do know she's keeping the relationship in a stasis, but I don't know exactly why. However, I think that this post and recent, ongoing conversations will bring that to the surface. Since I know there are personal, mitigating circumstances and forces involved, I'm not going to say quits unless I hear it from her; I'm there for her even if there are some big problems around. I just need to know what they are. It took 3 months for her to say something to me I needed her to tell me 3 months ago. I have no problems with going slowly; I just need to know if slowly is even something to consider.

So, I find myself having to control my frustrations, and I find myself not wanting to continue with it. Hence I push the issue into the forefront. If loriellen remains unable to have dialog with me, then there is nothing I can further do for her.

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ORIGINAL: VirginPotty
**Eta, this is your closing sentence which proves my point above.....
"I would ask of anyone who might interact with loriellen that she be treated with dignity and care"**.
If she's that fragile why did you post this less than dignified & caring intro??

Actually, she's not fragile at all; she's a soldier and can handle her own most adeptly. Her tongue is either soft or razor-sharp. I put that there for my own aesthetic reasons, since I really can't stand wankers, having had a life-full of them. I should write "If you cannot spell a word correctly, do not bother to try."

But, your post gave me pause to reflect; and so I am now more aware of my own frustration. Now I need to decide what I'm gong to do with it.

Thanks,
- Richard

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RE: New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/11/2011 11:25:51 AM

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Welcome back.

Honestly the two of you deserve each other and seem to be a good fit. This is way more drama than I could ever stomach, I like things open, honest, and low key, with good communication. Any woman reading your post here is going to have second thoughts about what you have to offer and what your intentions are here.

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RE: New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/11/2011 11:52:59 AM

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Is Loriellen married?

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RE: New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/11/2011 12:09:40 PM

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Posed by Kaliko: Is Loriellen married?

I was wondering that myself, Kaliko...or even if they have been spouses at some point. I seems there are a whole lot of circumstances not posted here as well.

On the OTHER HAND, I respect people's right to privacy... as well as their not wishing to be shredded into little pieces and thrown to the "lions in the judgement den" in the forums on this site!

Fare thee well, RichardAS...fare thee well.

Respectfully,
Clickofheels

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RE: New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/11/2011 12:15:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: Clickofheels

Posed by Kaliko: Is Loriellen married?

I was wondering that myself, Kaliko...or even if they have been spouses at some point. I seems there are a whole lot of circumstances not posted here as well.

On the OTHER HAND, I respect people's right to privacy... as well as their not wishing to be shredded into little pieces and thrown to the "lions in the judgement den" in the forums on this site!

Fare thee well, RichardAS...fare thee well.

Respectfully,
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It's not a judgment. It's a question.

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RE: New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/11/2011 6:49:21 PM

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Hi Richard...

"Levity" means "light-heartedness".

I'm just wondering why you are going around for a third try. Both of you are getting older and still have the same issues.

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RE: New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/12/2011 9:56:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: Clickofheels
Posed by Kaliko: Is Loriellen married?
I was wondering that myself, Kaliko...or even if they have been spouses at some point. I seems there are a whole lot of circumstances not posted here as well.
On the OTHER HAND, I respect people's right to privacy... as well as their not wishing to be shredded into little pieces and thrown to the "lions in the judgement den" in the forums on this site!
Fare thee well, RichardAS...fare thee well.
Respectfully,
Clickofheels

No, loriellen is not married, nor has she ever been. I've been married, though.
Yes, there are a whole lot of private circumstances not posted here. These are private to loriellen and I am not going to go into them in a public forum.

Also, I am not too happy about being thrown in the "lion's den of judgement." No person here knows enough to make those judgements because there is a whole lot more not posted here. To me that seems obvious, but I guess not to everyone. It feels like people are examining the very worst of possibilities.

I will say that my introduction was a combination of an introduction and something like a journal post. It just sort of happened that way as I started to reflect on things, but I stand by what I have written, write, and will write, because it is, after all, all true.

Somehow, people should be able to find enough trust that I am not a bad person conniving secretly to do stupid or harmful things things to anyone.

Thank-you Clickofheels for being willing to look a little more deeply - and that there are things a little more deeply going on.

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ORIGINAL: lizi
Welcome back.
Honestly the two of you deserve each other and seem to be a good fit. This is way more drama than I could ever stomach, I like things open, honest, and low key, with good communication. Any woman reading your post here is going to have second thoughts about what you have to offer and what your intentions are here.

No; honestly, the only question is whether loriellen deserves me.
Whether she deserves the patience and care I give her. Yes, she has problems of various types; but does that mean she doesn't deserve my love and care? Is there any relationship that does not need some amount of nurturing? I would certainly like things to be that easy as you say, but I expect to have to do work in any relationship I might get involved in.
The only other question is; how much work is too much work? ... and only I can answer that question for myself. If I'm willing to work harder than you, is this some derogatory statement against me?
I think not.

If I am undertaking something that is difficult, I can only think that makes a positive statement about me. What if no-one wanted anything to do with any of your problems through-out your life? What if nobody ever cared enough?

Perhaps you might be so fortunate to have a man who does not want to give up. If you think that very quality makes a bad statement about me to others, I think the opposite.

The only thing that matters is that I believe and feel she deserves my love and care, and that, if there is a way, I will find it. There may end up being no way; but until I know that for certain, I will not give up on her. I will need to hear that from her. Not from you or anyone else.

Yes, it's far more drama than I would want to ask for. What I've said here isn't all of it; there's more than I'm going to say and if your stomach is already turning - well, mine's worse.
The drama is not a good fit; I don't like it, enjoy it, or want it in my life. It's taking a toll on me. It can be draining. Obviously I would like the most easy and open relationship possible; I'm trying to create that relationship.
Communication is not a problem I'm having; she's having that problem.
But I feel strongly that there is an imminent breakthrough coming. The main question with this is whether that breakthrough will have a lasting effect or whether she will revert back.

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko
It's not a judgment. It's a question.

The post by kizi above yours is the "lion's den of judgementality," Kaliko.
Your simple question of marital status is just that - a simple question.
No, loriellen is not nor has been married.

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ORIGINAL: RichardAS
To me, everything seems very simple; we move in together and live happily ever after.

That's really as basic as I see it; completely that easy and effortless.
But loriellen requires more patience and understanding, and I am simply willing to give that to her. Her personal difficulties and fears I am not going to go into, but they are there and if I am serious about her then I will stay with her to work through those fears. That is what I consider committment. I consider that a relationship with anyone will bring along a certain amount of emotional difficulties, and I consider that par for the course of having a committed relationship.

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ORIGINAL: outhere69
Hi Richard...
"Levity" means "light-heartedness".
I'm just wondering why you are going around for a third try. Both of you are getting older and still have the same issues.

Hi outhere69
I'm not sure why you're defining "levity" to me; but I'll assume you mean well. Perhaps you can let me know.
I can understand your question.
We do not have the same issues; if that were so I would have run from this. I can say that I have grown and evolved a bit in the ensuing 20 years, and so has loriellen. There are some important issues loriellen still has to deal with, but I think she is in a place where she is now much more able to deal with them. I hope that she will be able to. I know what they are and I can guide her through them if she can manage her own fears.

I met loriellen 20 years ago and I fell in love with her. That love doesn't simply evaporate or disappear. Not with me, at least. What evoked that love is still true. The problems that existed back then no longer exist - and that is very hopeful.
I'm going to give it my best.

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RE: New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/12/2011 10:10:10 PM

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Now I'm going to get to you. I'm not going to write a private message. It's ugly ... but you deserve every letter of it; intimately from me to you.

Lazy and antagonistic posts perpetrated by you or anyone else against me will get exactly what they deserve from me.

(NOTICE: For those of you who are more delicate, or do no wish to read substance with a negative flavor, you can pass on this completely.)

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
Lemme translate:

No; let me translate.
OMG, I actually have to deal with you and put you in your little corner?
I really need you to translate for me what I have already explicitly said.
Good thing you're around to help me so kindly like this.
I guess I'll deal with you now and get that out of the way, since you just seem to want to endear yourself to rubbing me the wrong way.
We enjoy what we're good at - and I am so very good at this. Intimately good.

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I'm in a relationship with someone I've known 20 years.

Strike one. Now, have I known her for 20 consecutive years? Have I known her off-and-on? What is the longest period of time we spent together? How many times have we met up in life? Have we lived together? What exactly is our relationship, and what does that 20 years really mean? Or do these things not seem to matter to you and your generous translation??

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
I look at the profiles and the pics of submissive women here,

Incorrect, strike two; you have your causality completely reversed, inversed, and perversed ... and you're speaking way ahead of yourself about something you really know nothing about - for your wizened 17,796 posts, Mr. DarkSteven. Hey, you chose that name. Maybe I should call myself "EvenDarkerRichard." How about "DarkestRichard!!!" DarkSteven, omg, lol. You really paint yourself that? ... and then you have the audacity at poking at me - with that name you actually chose for yourself?

Let me tell you something that I do not believe you will ever understand:

There is a universe of utmost disparate difference that defines who I am versus who you are. I only need a few clues. The name you chose for yourself is the only clue I actually need in order to make every possible judgement about you a person could ever need to make. You will never understand that as you bumble your way through your carefully poised pomposities masquerading as humility or humor. Sloppy. That's what you are. Some people never look up because they think they're already there. That's you and your particular fate - which fate you shall never escape. Mr. DarkSteven, my very own personal translator.

Seems like you're out for blood.
OK; you'll get it.
I guess we can't all just get along.
Here, let me spell it out; read carefully: I have looked only at the profiles of those who have looked at loriellen's or my profiles. I have not perused submissive profiles, nor do I view their "pics" like the slimey voyeur you are so courteously trying to make me out as. As it happens, loriellen is very beautiful and I don't need to look at pics at this time at all. I have no urge to do so; I am in a relationship.
But I looked at yours:
My sense of aesthetics is not something you would ever understand, judging by your sloppy beard, your sloppy dress, your sloppy posture, your sloppy poise, and the lack of taste and style clearly displayed in your bathroom (like I really want to see your tiny little bathroom - with the toilet seat up, no less, and the single item of decor ... a tissue box. Mr. DarkSteven, you have impressed me; unfortunately, distastefully. I bet you're even wearing slippers).

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
and think I could do a lot better than the woman I'm with. She's not good enough for me. Boy, is she gonna be pissed when she reads this.

Sorry again; three strikes. Her lack of committment is what I have a problem with. You know nothing about this issue, so don't try to think you know. My attraction is in submissive women who want to commit. You have no idea what is good enough for me or not. You have no idea whether loriellen is good enough for me or not, nor why or why not. Here, I'll explain; my only consideration is the committment. I am attracted to committment. If she cannot commit, then she is not good enough for me. Nor will loriellen be pissed, and I was joking at the end; she will see a wake-up call, and that is what I want her to see. She already knows that I am attracted to a committment. You didn't know that until I just here told you.

Thanks for your strike-out.

Good thing you have two master's degrees; you are desperately needed to re-translate out of you biased, bloated mind what statements I definitively make. I should consult you before writing anything or speaking anything.

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
Welcome to collarme, Richard.

Welcome to me, Mr. DarkSteven.
Perhaps you'd like to "translate" more of my posts. Perhaps my profile. Perhaps my journal. You could make a career of it. Perhaps you can translate the book I'm writing, too. Maybe even notes I write.

I don't have infinite patience; but for someone like you I have zero.

Goodbye, Mr. DarkSteven.

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RE: New honest and intelligent Dom saying "Hi." - 11/12/2011 10:27:24 PM

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Hi Richard.

Let me start out by saying that Steven is perhaps one of the most perceptive men on these boards. He isnt always right, but he is rarely wrong.

Im not being snarky, nor am I giving you a "put down". We can only go by what you tell us. It seems to me that you took this woman, according to your profile, as your submissive. Now you are saying you want to give her up to look for someone else... or thats how I took what you posted. I think many others did as well.

As someone on the kneeling side of the slash, I would have to really think more than twice before considering a relationship with a dominant after what you just posted. You strike me as intelligent, thoughtful and caring... yet.. at the same time, you come across as if you care more for your own needs than the obligation you took on with the submissive in your life.

You state you want a commitment. What about the commitment you made to her? Just seems to be a contradiction in what you are saying.

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