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hausboy -> RE: The Transgender Thread (11/13/2011 4:28:46 PM)
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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep
I dunno, I think it's easier to be seen as a feminine-faced man with a beard, than it is to be seen as a masculine faced woman. Standards of femininity are so much more rigid. Emphasis is put on the things that men look at, like what's happening here. If a man can say "you're okay," then you are, even if women say "hmmm........"
As a (mostly) heterosexual woman, I wouldn't say that FtM transsexuals are more likely to be "successful." I'd say it's about even.
Hi Lilly
Actually, that's not really the case. You are absolutely correct that due to the emphasis/pressures our society places on women in terms of beauty, women who are large, heavy, big-boned or have masculine facial features (regardless of birth gender or not) will face prejudices. Men, on the other hand, don't have the same scrutiny. Short men are seen as..... short men. For an overwhelming majority of FTMs (and I've met hundreds if not thousands at this point) we transition extremely well, and a majority "pass" to use that term, 100% of the time, all the time, typically after a year on hormonal treatment. MTFs don't always have that luxury. I have met a few MTFs who were small and petite--if they hadn't told me, I would have no idea that they were born biologically male.
Truth is, most people have interacted with transgender folks, but had no idea. I just found out recently that the waiter at my favorite restaurant was an FTM. An old friend from high school recently transitioned MTF, and when I saw her, I couldn't believe it--in a million years I would not have recognized her. (and she's also lucky--she's just 5'4", 120, and has gorgeous long curly hair.)
edited to add: FTMs lose much of their "feminine" facial characteristics. The shape of our faces and jawline changes quite dramatically, along with hairline and any facial hair growth. My before and after photos only have one thing in common--the eyes, which never change.
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