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ORIGINAL: JanahX
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ORIGINAL: Unshriven
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ORIGINAL: JanahX
What bothers me is that if I didnt come to the forums .. which most people on the other side DONT ... Is not knowing who you really are and what you had posted beforehand.
That was the real you and how you veiw things and what your priorities are or were before you noticed that wasnt attracting any pussy.
Scary to think that someone might think you have a clue, when in reality ... you dont.
About the anger issue ... no one has to worry about that one there .. it will come out in your personality sooner than later when someone gets to speaking with you.
Maybe you will attract someone with an anger issue as well and you can be angry together. I love it when it all evens out in the end.
hmmm and I'm called judgmental. I'll avoid a knee jerk response and just say you're off the mark. I think most would say that what I've posted here is incongruent with what I've written in my profile. I believe I've said I don't write well for a non-technical audience. I never have. I think it would be fair to say that if I didn't "have a clue" I wouldn't be here asking. Lastly, I'm not here to "attract pussy". Getting laid is not an issue for me. (no I am not bragging) I'm here for something different not just a piece of ass. Regardless, I'd like to thank you for taking the time to write such a kind and thoughtful response, it was very helpful.
MariaB:
Yes I can see many of your points and I wanted to address a few of them. Yes I have been in the life that long (on and off) going back to the Black Rose Society's BBS. Connecting with a submissive online is a relatively new thing for me. I'd always met people through munches, the club and the like. The dynamic there is much different. I speak better than I write and am more personable in a one on one situation. Of course I realize she's interviewing me.
I was married to my sub for many years. It stopped being a D/s relationship a few years in due to my schedule (gotta love IT), having a child in the house and various other factors. What I didn't mention before was that I divorced this year. I believe a lot of the angst coming out was probably bi-blow from an ugly, nasty divorce. It's the kind of thing you don't realize at the time. Going back over my journal, I can see what you all are saying and can see the hand prints of my divorce all over it. I also don't suffer fools well. It's a bad combination. 
Someone was kind enough to take my info and re-write my profile for me. I'm going to go over it and re-write it. It was a very gracious act. I'll try and add more personal info. I think I really narrow down the type of sub/slave I'm looking for. I don't think the 'nice guy' is compatible with the slave who wants an intense, objectified, 24/7, caged type situation. On the other side, I'm not going to get the intense emotional connection/Daddy Dom type of relationship if I want to shave her head and make her eat from a dog bowl, at least not initially. I'll have to chew on this a while.
I thank everyone for their input. I've taken all you've said, both good and bad, to heart.
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I stand by my words.
YUP-----> Im judgemental as fuck. Thats how I get by in life ... If I didnt judge people every fucking single day, I guess it would be allright to hang out and shoot the shit with every peice of shit that passed by. You may do that .. but not I. Never have, never will. And Ill judge people alllll dayyy lonngg as long as there is a breath inside me.
And now to read that you've had someone re-write your profile. Thats awesome. Now whoever is responding to your profile isnt even responding to your words or probably anything that you would ever proclaim or think in a million years.
Who the hell is looking for someone while they are going for a divorce? You must of wanted to give someone the VERY BEST of you that there is. Funny how I doubt that the person who wrote those journal entries isnt too far under the "who you are now" surface. Manipulating and I feel sorry for the person who has to find out that you are not even close to the newly (written by someone else) profile. But that all comes out in the end anyways.
I bet thats gonna be a real bummer for you.
Not so much. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black. The tone of your post basically renders everything you've said inconsequential. I'm not even going to read what you write. As I've seen written here, I'm not the only person who has a problem with you. Enough said.
Duskypearls, I appreciate you going out of you way to be kind. No I'm not offended, I did want honesty. Obviously, yes I would like to know what you think. If you do figure it out what bothered you, let me know. I did ask.
Yes, looking for someone while going through a divorce was not the best idea. I've admitted that. At the time, I couldn't see it. When you're in that situation, you lose perspective. Obviously, it that was "who I was" I wouldn't be here now asking advice would I?
Yes my profile is a verbal snapshot of who I am 'at that time'. It's was a temporary situation. It's not who I am now.
angelikaJ, I really appreciate your advice, your tone and way you presented it. Someone willing to help and offer their time as you have is always appreciated. (hope that didn't sound to rage filled LOL )
Lastly, as I said, the last few months were an odd time for me. I found a lot of things annoying and I had a tendency to be verbal about it. Rage/anger filled? really? Yes I was grumpy but I think the who rage posit was a bit of a stretch and I think the whole idea has taken on a life of it's own. I think a few on here are feeding on each other and have driven the whole topic into the ridiculous.
DesFIP said to pull my journal entries then Fornica suggests you all have colluded to hide a serial killer? Really?
I came to ask advice, I took a lot of it. (i.e. listened to what was told to me by people who seems honestly interested)
It was suggested that I pull my journal entries, so what did I do? I pulled them.
Someone read my post (whom I've never talked to) and did a re-write and messaged me with it. That was helpful. I didn't hide anything. It's very close to what I had before in a better format with more clarity.
And the funny thing that no one has noticed or commented on is the fact that I came here for help and from some of the people here have given me a real beating. If I were as rage filled as some of you suggest, would I have come asking help? Would I have listened? Have I been "rage filled" in my responses? I think I've been temperate. JanahX wrote "If I didnt judge people every fucking single day, I guess it would be allright to hang out and shoot the shit with every peice of shit that passed by. You may do that .. but not I. Never have, never will. And Ill judge people alllll dayyy lonngg as long as there is a breath inside me" and no one batted an eye. That's rage filled. I never wrote anything half as bad but it seems most of you are ok with that. Oh and janah, I didn't "have someone" write my new profile. What I got was unsolicited.
For those of you who actually offered some advice, I appreciate it. I came here in honesty and I thank you for taking the time to help. To the others, I hope you have the good grace to have some shame.
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RE: ok, so I'm asking...about profiles - 
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yeah. At first I thought it was just a temper but there's just...something...that sets off my internal alarm. Can't put a name to it though.
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