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Daddysgudgirl -> Warning for sub's (12/19/2011 8:21:21 PM)
[sm=alarm.gif]To Submissive Ladies (or Gents), please be little detectives for yourselfs. If a man tells you he helped start a kink event or tells you he teaches this or says he is a pro or Master of ANYTHING. Do the homework, with what men tell you they do, have or whatever. You have a right to be informed. Ask the right questions, Its not snooping, its not sneaky, its covering you're ass and being smart. Email the website or person in charge and ASK! Ask for a reference of character. There are alot of fakes, and dangerous men out there with no training in anything but abuse. Please seperate the fakes from the real ones. Because they both do exist and are hard to spot online. The ones hiding behind computer screens and never active in the actual BDSM community are becoming wiser with this, they have been outted... trying new tactics... "I'm very active womp womp womp" Don't believe it till you see it. They are up to new tricks!!![sm=iwin.gif] They can act like asshats online because their are no consiquences ... They just make a new name. You can only move or have plastic surgery once you're active in the scene to start a new reputation. They know this, know they don't fit in and know no one is going to put up with their crap for long. This is why they stay online only and never become active. Please understand me ladies and do yourself a favor and don't trust anyone untill what they have said has been proven in actions. Thank you. [sm=adminwatch.gif]

Kaliko -> RE: Warning for sub's (12/19/2011 8:30:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Daddysgudgirl To Submissive Ladies (or Gents), please be little detectives for yourselfs. If a man tells you he helped start a kink event or tells you he teaches this or says he is a pro or Master of ANYTHING. Uh oh, I think I know him.

KyttynTheMynx -> RE: Warning for sub's (12/19/2011 8:32:51 PM)
Thanks for holding my hand! I sure wouldnt have known to watch out for myself without this thread!

DarkSteven -> RE: Warning for sub's (12/19/2011 8:33:00 PM)
I agree. I have seen several sub women set up their first meet at a munch or kink event. If the guy refuses to meet there, there's a reason.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Warning for sub's (12/19/2011 8:35:58 PM)
Pondering the whole getting plastic surgery for a new start thing. Laughing in an unseemly manner. The interwebs bring the lulz again!

Daddysgudgirl -> RE: Warning for sub's (12/19/2011 8:41:09 PM)
I'm sure there is someone around here who would re-arrange you're face for free... There is always a point in safety.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Warning for sub's (12/19/2011 8:43:56 PM)
Was that like, a threat? Awesome!

Kana -> RE: Warning for sub's (12/19/2011 8:49:10 PM)
Dude, you should come round my neighborhood-I've seen some real wingnuts at munches...and that includes the "experienced" ones.

littlewonder -> RE: Warning for sub's (12/19/2011 8:50:39 PM)
oohhh....thank you! I would never have figured out how to look out for myself being the adult that I am...the world is a skeeerryy place! I bow to your wisdom [8\|]

searching4mysir -> RE: Warning for sub's (12/19/2011 8:58:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Daddysgudgirl I'm sure there is someone around here who would re-arrange you're face for free... There is always a point in safety. Cupcake, here's 5 bucks...go buy yourself a clue. Threatening people on the boards is no way to make friends.

lizi -> RE: Warning for sub's (12/19/2011 9:02:00 PM)
You're right, BDSM shouldn't give women a reason to set aside their common sense. Your warning here does however seem a little obvious and a little paranoid, although it is not without merit. Most women have run into a married man at some point, and others who misrepresent themselves. As long as women realize that BDSM doesn't give men special licenses that enable them to throw away their usual caution and reservation, then everything should be ok.

BurntKitty -> RE: Warning for sub's (12/19/2011 9:04:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana Dude, you should come round my neighborhood-I've seen some real wingnuts at munches...and that includes the "experienced" ones. Bingo. I met one real doozy who professed to be a "mentor". Yeah, right...a mentor who claimed "hands on" teaching was the best way. (and I stressed I was involved with someone at the time.) But, yes, anyone I cared to meet in person, I preferred it was at a munch.

littlewonder -> RE: Warning for sub's (12/19/2011 10:42:42 PM)
Personally I would never meet someone at a munch or a play party. I always preferred the old fashioned way...one on one for dinner or coffee or a walk in the park. To me meeting someone at a munch or a play party is just creepy and I would get the feeling that there was some kind of hint of play or posturing for others.

Termyn8or -> RE: Warning for sub's (12/19/2011 11:05:56 PM)
FR quote: ORIGINAL: Daddysgudgirl [sm=alarm.gif]To Submissive Ladies (or Gents), please be little detectives for yourselfs. If a man tells you he helped start a kink event or tells you he teaches this or says he is a pro or Master of ANYTHING. Do the homework, with what men tell you they do, have or whatever. You have a right to be informed. Ask the right questions, Its not snooping, its not sneaky, its covering you're ass and being smart. Email the website or person in charge and ASK! Ask for a reference of character. There are alot of fakes, and dangerous men out there with no training in anything but abuse. Please seperate the fakes from the real ones. Because they both do exist and are hard to spot online. The ones hiding behind computer screens and never active in the actual BDSM community are becoming wiser with this, they have been outted... trying new tactics... "I'm very active womp womp womp" Don't believe it till you see it. They are up to new tricks!!![sm=iwin.gif] They can act like asshats online because their are no consiquences ... They just make a new name. You can only move or have plastic surgery once you're active in the scene to start a new reputation. They know this, know they don't fit in and know no one is going to put up with their crap for long. This is why they stay online only and never become active. Please understand me ladies and do yourself a favor and don't trust anyone untill what they have said has been proven in actions. Thank you. [sm=adminwatch.gif] NO NEWBIE STYLES THEIR SECOND POST (EVER) THIS WAY. You are looking at a sockpuppett. Period. T^T ETA the FR

JanahX -> RE: Warning for sub's (12/19/2011 11:12:35 PM)
You sound like a first grader preaching to a group of college graduates. You should probably do YOUR homework and check into who, what, where, when and how the hell you are first. All acting the fool.

myotherself -> RE: Warning for sub's (12/19/2011 11:36:40 PM)
I'm with Littlewonder - I would rather meet someone one-to-one at a coffee bar to chat and get to know each other before spending time at a munch or club with them. There are many reasons that some guys don't go to fet events, not all of them are signs of evil [:D] As for the OP's warning rather naive and patronising warning...I'm saying nowt!

TheFireWithinMe -> RE: Warning for sub's (12/20/2011 3:10:16 AM)
FR Yeah it seems obvious BUT there are still idiots out there who wouldn't think twice. If it saves one from doing it, well it's worth a post on a message board.

sheisreeds -> RE: Warning for sub's (12/20/2011 4:48:43 AM)
This just has me imagining the uber Dominant Master of Everything chatting with a 24/7 no limits slave, and neither of them realizing their both 50 something overweight balding dudes with no actual experience in BDSM. Yeah I would never meet someone at a munch, unless the sole purpose of meeting was to help them into the community. New people are no good in a place where I know everyone and am easily distracted. Coffee or a drink was always my preferred way to meet up. Coffee's always good because it keeps me from falling asleep at the table, I have met some boooorrrinng people in my time.

Azonier -> RE: Warning for sub's (12/20/2011 5:10:02 AM)
She's just mad 'cause I told her my spaceship wouldn't fit in her backyard. If she had more money, maybe she'd have a bigger back yard and none of this would have happened. On a bright note...I got her nose!

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Warning for sub's (12/20/2011 6:55:32 AM)
I will third for another person who prefers quiet 1 on 1 meetings, and not at a munch. I don't even go to most munches. And not that I wouldn't pop out for one, if I was single and looking, but because I prefer to go somewhere a bit quieter to meet someone and not try to have our get to know you around other peoples conversations and such. quote: ORIGINAL: myotherself I'm with Littlewonder - I would rather meet someone one-to-one at a coffee bar to chat and get to know each other before spending time at a munch or club with them. There are many reasons that some guys don't go to fet events, not all of them are signs of evil [:D] As for the OP's warning rather naive and patronising warning...I'm saying nowt! quote: ewonder - I would rather meet someone one-to-one at a coffee bar to chat and get to know each other before spending time at a munch or clu

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