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ORIGINAL: Aswad

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ORIGINAL: Notsweet

@ JstAnotherSub--Hard way to lose your Mom, isn't it? Holidays are never the same anyway. Much love to you.

Is there an easy way?

Holidays are indeed changed. Mom was the centerpoint of Christmas. She got leukemia, went into deep remission. Then an unfortunate incident. A week of treating septicaemia. Then her body decided to take it on itself. Not a good idea when the cells are cancerious. Went from remission to bone marrow in her circulation in a couple of hours. Still septic and with multiple organ failure, she woke up long enough to confirm the decision to forego heroic measures and end life support. Held her hand the half hour or so it took. Doc called it at 14:40, 29th Sep 2008.

Christmas still isn't up to snuff, three years later.

She quit smoking, though. During chemo.

And she'd prolly be the first to say Constanze has every right to set her own priorities. There are some things that hold a special significance to anyone with a life, things that we value more than that life itself. It can be kids, a cause, whatever. And there are things that can take away the ability to lead a meaningful or fulfilling life. Depression can be one of those. If her past weight issues make persistent weight gain a sufficient problem to outweigh the prospect of lung cancer or the like, then there is no reason for anyone to get huffy about that. We don't share the background to gauge what she might be facing if those issues resurface. It may well be every bit as bad as cancer. And I hope it's clear I don't say that lightly.

In any case, it's already been pointed out the weight issue passes in a few months.

As such, there's every reason to assume she'll stay nicotine-free.

Health,
al-Aswad.

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ORIGINAL: barelynangel

Tazzy, i don't know where you got your information but one of the best ways to speed up a slow metabolism is to build mucle.  grins, its also great for lazy people as mucles burn more calories while at rest than fat does.   I don't know what you mean that a slow metabolism isn't conducive to muscle building.  Muscles tend to help burn fat, which in turn speeds up your metabolism and helps it stablize.  A low metabolism does hinder fat burning but not mucles gaining.  All you really need for that is to break down the muscle and allow it to reheal itself which builds it up.

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Also remember that gaining weight doesn't mean that you're gaining fat! you might be just gaining muscle which is then a good thing!

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

I remember reading a long time ago (don't remember where or even if it's accurate or not) that a woman's metabolism changes every ten years or so.
That seems to be the general rule with me. In my 20's I could eat anything and everything and not ever gain an ounce.
Once my 30's hit...I gained just looking at food.
My 40's suck because I don't even need to look at food, just think about it and I gain.
I need to lose about ten pounds and it has proven to be one of the hardest things to do. It just doesn't want to come off.
Add in the return to normal of your metabolism ( based on Tazzy's link) caused by quitting smoking and lit seems that in order to lose you have to work even harder.
I think our bodies are designed to hold onto weight as we age.

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ORIGINAL: Notsweet

You're right. My mother was fairly thin when she died of lung cancer this past May.

And aren't you a charming little thing. Sorry I offered help. Go lose a lung.

edited for typos, but really...why fucking bother?

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Wow, just wow.

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tabbing up

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ORIGINAL: Ninebelowzero

Slender ye gods woman I'm 17 stone! Hitting 20 stone aint fun.