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sheisreeds -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 10:09:36 AM)

My boyfriend and I slap each other all the time out of the blue, and especially when one of us wants to be slapped. But we have a negotiated 24/7 agreement, it is a known and consented upon term of our relationship.

What you did OP is assault.



Lucylastic -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 10:11:31 AM)

THIS^^^^^^^



Winterapple -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 10:16:31 AM)

Not something you want to improvise, not something you want to manipulate.
Slapping is something both people need to
be educated about and both want.
I think it's lousy that you slapped him.
You're fortunate that neither of you was
damaged. Physically damaged, who knows
what other harm might have happened.
How do you think he feels about himself now?
Find a consensual partner. One whose head
you don't have to fuck with.



xXLithiumXx -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 10:27:17 AM)

When I read this, I almost fell over laughing.

This has to be some kind of joke. Seriously. He said no he wouldn't slap you?

Did you ask him if he would bash you in the face with a ball bat? I wonder if he would have taken you up on that one.

Here's a series of stupid questions for you:

Are your parents related?

Were you raised by monkeys?

Did you eat paste as a small child?

Do you inhale spray paint?

What color paint chip is your favorite flavor?

Is it possible that you have maintained a fever of 105 for a long period of time and thereby significantly fucked your brain?


For starters, you don't ever need to "trick" anyone into doing anything. Second, this lifestyle is not some hot and heavy love scene you see on Blow, or whatever other Johnny Depp movie you currently have on repeat on your fucking iPhone. People who do what we do take time, patience and practice to control themselves and their more primal urges. We take special and intricate measures to make sure that no one dies and that no one is fatally injured. Playing stupid mind fuck games like this get people like you-people that have no fucking clue what they are playing with-killed.

Not only that, but it is a personal insult to people like us who have been doing this for years. And when one of you vanilla kink idiots fuck around and kill each other, every decent bondage group and community in the world wonders when we are going to start getting persecuted (as if we aren't fucked with enough as it is!).

Do yourself, and your partner a favor. Get help. Because this, random attacking for the sake of sexual pleasure, is NOT what we do, it is NOT how we do it, and it is NOT okay.

And honey, you are for 1005% for sure NOT a Domme.



kalikshama -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 10:35:28 AM)

quote:

My boyfriend and I slap each other all the time out of the blue, and especially when one of us wants to be slapped. But we have a negotiated 24/7 agreement, it is a known and consented upon term of our relationship.

What you did OP is assault.


OP - when I tickle M he knows it's because I want to be punched, and he obliges. But if he said "don't tickle me," I wouldn't. Your guy did not consent.



searching4mysir -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 10:56:00 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: lalleee

I asked him to slap me and he flat out refused. So I stunned him by slapping him hard.
He didn't dare hitting me back at first but after a series of hard slaps, he was activated.
And he totally got it too. Couldn't get enough of it. Made me wince once.
Is this a good way to lure a guy into slapping? or is it dangerous? I'd be poking a sleeping lion?
Do you think I have a domme streak for slapping a guy like this and initiating things?
Subs wouldn't do this sorta thing?
How would you gentlemen feel if this happened to you?
And ladies, how do you talk someone into slapping you?




Sounds like you should be in prison for assault to me.

You don't sound like a domme. You sound like a stupid ass.

If he isn't going to give you what you want in a relationship, free him to find someone who wants the same things he does. You don't want him forcing you to be vanilla so don't try to force him to be kinky. That isn't safe, it isn't sane, and it sure as fuck isn't consensual.

God I hate fucked up gashes like you.




OsideGirl -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 11:26:32 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MissAsylum

#1- don't try to manipulate others who are not into the same thing. You wouldn't like it...would you?



This. What you did was dishonest.



Delilya -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 11:31:01 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: xXLithiumXx

People who do what we do take time, patience and practice to control themselves and their more primal urges. We take special and intricate measures to make sure that no one dies and that no one is fatally injured. Playing stupid mind fuck games like this get people like you-people that have no fucking clue what they are playing with-killed.

Not only that, but it is a personal insult to people like us who have been doing this for years. And when one of you vanilla kink idiots fuck around and kill each other, every decent bondage group and community in the world wonders when we are going to start getting persecuted (as if we aren't fucked with enough as it is!).

Do yourself, and your partner a favor. Get help. Because this, random attacking for the sake of sexual pleasure, is NOT what we do, it is NOT how we do it, and it is NOT okay.

And honey, you are for 1005% for sure NOT a Domme.


What she said



Lucylastic -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 11:32:56 AM)

I see the OP hasnt come back
wot a surprise
!



Delilya -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 12:11:07 PM)

maybe she is getting her slap on.



xXLithiumXx -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 12:14:09 PM)

Maybe her bf left her in the trunk of a car down by the river.




Delilya -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 3:55:04 PM)

Came slamming in and tiptoed out?



lizi -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 5:13:50 PM)

So there's not a lot of support for your idea here of luring people into doing things they said no to. Sometimes if enough people have offered a consensus on a subject I will leave it alone, sometimes it makes sense to add that one more voice to the pile in the hopes that someone out there will learn something from the overwhelming landslide.

No...it's not ok to lure someone into doing something that they didn't want to do, and it's not ok to do certain things without training or at least some information. When you assaulted your man by slapping him you didn't do any damage that you know of, but it's a risky activity and you very easily could have because you didn't know what the hell you were doing. We're talking eyes, brain, sense organs, and the brain stem which regulates your breathing....I'd pass on fucking with that stuff. As well as the facial bones. One thing about facial damage is that everyone will see it for the rest of your life- how cool. When he hit you back out of anger he could have done damage to you as well. You both could have been arrested as well - making sure things are consensual mitigates that somewhat. However, it wasn't consensual when you slapped him.

I wanted my partner to slap me because I thought it was hot. He decided to oblige me, he had some background information on it and did it one night when we were in bed. I sobbed like hell and wouldn't stop, not the reaction we were hoping for. It stopped the night of fun in it's tracks and we've never done it since. Our attempt was consensual and it was done with the awareness of basic safety such as it is, and it wasn't a raging success. Some people love it. However it works out, both should agree to try it and not be 'tricked' into it. What the hell would you have done if he'd called the cops and then dumped your ass for being an abuser? Tricking someone into something says you dont' respect them enough to respect their limits, and all I can say is that will backfire on you big time later on down the line when he doesn't have much trust in you, or believe in you, or think you have his back. He wont' have yours either.



lalleee -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 6:01:15 PM)

Jeez lighten up people. Don't take your frustration in life out at me.
Neither of us were violent. It was just light slappings. I stunned him at first but he ended up greatly enjoying it. Don't get your panties up in a bunch there was no pain or broken bones or bruises.
I sometimes put myself into precarious situations (according to you guys), but have always come out safe and sound. Perhaps i have good sense to meet and date nice ones. My boys know how much force to use slapping me so I would like him more but never to take out their agressiveness and vengeance out in full gear. it's called common sense and self control. the ones I've dated all had this.
Feel free to talk yourself out before anything but i like spontaniety and surprises. It bores me to death to talk things out and explain everything and do something predictable and pre planned. Tried once and wasn't my thing. Don't you worry about getting beaten up or being raped. I only dabble in light slappings. I know what I want and know my guy and push a little to get it. You hate being slapped by women and would kick my ass for doing it? Good then that we don't know each other and never will.
Whatever, i'm done explaining. Lord, i see on slaught coming on. Have fun guys.
I get seriously hurt from skateboading and surfing, like i broke my left ankle and tore ligament a few weeks ago falling from a skateboard. I get injured numerous times doing this sorta sports but never from my so called crazy antics with men.
Punch yourself in the face you angry woman, i only enjoy slapping not punching.
And feel free to call cops on me for slapping in a bedroom a happy victim.
Get a life people. I seriously don't get this level of rage and anger on someone else's silly story.



Fornica -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 6:02:33 PM)

Totally went over your head.



lalleee -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 6:06:12 PM)

And don't fucking curse, you low lives.



coookie -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 6:13:42 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: lalleee

I asked him to slap me and he flat out refused. So I stunned him by slapping him hard.
He didn't dare hitting me back at first but after a series of hard slaps, he was activated.
And he totally got it too. Couldn't get enough of it. Made me wince once.
Is this a good way to lure a guy into slapping? or is it dangerous? I'd be poking a sleeping lion?
Do you think I have a domme streak for slapping a guy like this and initiating things?
Subs wouldn't do this sorta thing?
How would you gentlemen feel if this happened to you?
And ladies, how do you talk someone into slapping you?



i would expect most men would walk out and call you a crazy bitch. Now you are saying they are light slaps? Make up your mind we can only go on what you write.



lalleee -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 6:16:52 PM)

For me hard, for him light. I'm a small girl and I hit hard for the sound and spectacle but not for pain or impact.
He was stunned because he was slapped by a woman so suddenly not because it was painful.



Fornica -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 6:19:05 PM)

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stef -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 6:21:51 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: lalleee

For me hard, for him light. I'm a small girl and I hit hard for the sound and spectacle but not for pain or impact.
He was stunned because he was slapped by a woman so suddenly not because it was painful.

Are you an idiot or a troll?  It's hard to tell sometime.



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