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RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping - 12/30/2011 8:05:20 PM

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I asked him to slap me and he flat out refused. So I stunned him by slapping him hard.
He didn't dare hitting me back at first but after a series of hard slaps, he was activated.
And he totally got it too. Couldn't get enough of it. Made me wince once.
Is this a good way to lure a guy into slapping? or is it dangerous? I'd be poking a sleeping lion?
Do you think I have a domme streak for slapping a guy like this and initiating things?
Subs wouldn't do this sorta thing?
How would you gentlemen feel if this happened to you?
And ladies, how do you talk someone into slapping you?

This is exactly how I was introduced into this lifestyle...It was, and is.....the way things have always been, I just never understood the game. Now I really enjoy it and am eagerly learning! Great post/topic!

edit: I re read alot more of these post and just to clarify..I was not slapped hard, but shown how she wanted it...I played along anf the the game started. She did not out right smack the shit outta me.! LOL

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RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping - 12/31/2011 4:20:00 AM

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What yo are saying is, that you are the guy Lalleee smacked. Yes?

If so, then please, take a couple pages to tell us what the heck happened.

There ain't to many folks here that think much of what we have heard about it. If we are misinformed, well then, you have the floor. Speak, expound, preach even. In any case, spill!

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RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping - 12/31/2011 4:31:57 AM

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Damn....I for one would not call the police if I was simply slapped. Even more for circumstances like this where there was no angry out of control violence involved. A slap in itself is a form of controlled violence, being struck in a manner as to not cause any true harm.

She made it pretty clear to him what she was trying to get him to do. Unless this guy is dumb as a box full of rocks. He knew without question she was luring into it with her slaps.

If she was some crazy out of control bitch, which was flying off the handle out, where the physical actions were escalating. To the point where it was a True or Real issue to personal safety or property.. Yeah... I'd seriously Entertain the thought of calling the Police.

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RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping - 12/31/2011 6:22:35 AM

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Some of the comments from the ice cream cone gallery are a little concerning.

Look, I get where the OP is coming from. As a fairly aggressive woman with a large S&M streak I've been known to be provocative with people I was involved with who hadn't said yay or nay to BDSM. I was young and dumb, I realized it was a problem when I seriously freaked a guy out, and to me it was completely mutually tussling (not an unprovoked slap).

Fortunately by nature most of the time I'd get a little rough it turned out the other party was equally into kink. We'd have a talk, discuss our interests and limits and then let things come as they may.

My current relationship the first time things got physical it became clear we were both testing the waters. A little bite with a kiss, a little grab, a little shove, and then I got a lovely bite mark through my jeans and we stopped and had the talk. I also quickly got him involved in the community.

Still, very different from slapping someone out of the blue, and when the discussion had been had prior it wasn't an interest.

My old ways were not fair, and they were actually dangerous. I'm not happy about the shit I used to do. Especially when there are ways to do all this crazy shit and it's consensual.

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RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping - 12/31/2011 10:21:15 AM

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Suddenly I feel like testing all your theories out and running around the mall randomly slapping strangers.

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RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping - 12/31/2011 9:57:57 PM

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Mrmm, slapping, rough sex, throwing her around a bit, and taking what I want, when I want.. Yummy. My cup of tea, so to speak.

But what the OP originally posted? That's just plain stupid shit, IMO. I'm not even going to comment on the potential to cause harm to herself or her partner, that should be as obvious as the fact that she gets off on the thrill of that risk; Her defensive second post "explaining" things made that much even more clear. A waste of time trying to get her to see the danger of her ways--She sees and wants that danger.

The biggest dangers I see are the violation of the SSC and the potential consequences of such. To me, her slapping the guy to get him all worked up enough to engage in rough sex with her is the same as rape. He said no, she coerced and forced him in to it. Now he found he likes it. So now what, are they both going to go around assaulting and raping others, because they think "once they've had it, they'll realize they really wanted it after all!"?

Think about what you really want, lalleee. There are plenty of men out there who not only want the same things that you want, but I'm sure there are many who've fantasized finding a woman just like you who wants and begs to be abused. Why do you feel the need to force an unwilling partner in to something you want? That isn't a "kink," that is fucked up mentality and in desperate need of psychiatric help, IMO.

There needs to be some level of control, safety, and responsibility. Not only to yourself and your partner, but to others around you both as well. Trying to excuse yourself or justify yourself is refusing to take ownership of your actions, and shows the world just how irresponsible you are, how little respect you have for yourself or others, and completely lacking of integrity and honor. Is that really how you want the world to see you? Is that how you want to see yourself? If so, you're doing great. If not, listen to what others here have said, and learn from it. There's nothing wrong with liking the rougher side of sex (or non-sexual encounters; it doesn't have to be all about sex), nor in enjoying what really gets you off. But there can be something inherently wrong with _how_ you go about getting what you want, especially when it involves others.

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RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping - 1/1/2012 6:58:17 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lalleee

I asked him to slap me and he flat out refused. So I stunned him by slapping him hard.
He didn't dare hitting me back at first but after a series of hard slaps, he was activated.
And he totally got it too. Couldn't get enough of it. Made me wince once.
Is this a good way to lure a guy into slapping? or is it dangerous? I'd be poking a sleeping lion?
Do you think I have a domme streak for slapping a guy like this and initiating things?
Subs wouldn't do this sorta thing?
How would you gentlemen feel if this happened to you?
And ladies, how do you talk someone into slapping you?

I suppose I might slap you back from reflex, but it wouldn't be in a good way and I probibly wouldn't have anything to do with you after that. But I am glad to hear no one pressed charges or got hurt so good luck with that.

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RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping - 1/1/2012 7:06:19 AM

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Jeez lighten up people. Don't take your frustration in life out at me.
Neither of us were violent. It was just light slappings. I stunned him at first but he ended up greatly enjoying it. Don't get your panties up in a bunch there was no pain or broken bones or bruises.
I sometimes put myself into precarious situations (according to you guys), but have always come out safe and sound. Perhaps i have good sense to meet and date nice ones. My boys know how much force to use slapping me so I would like him more but never to take out their agressiveness and vengeance out in full gear. it's called common sense and self control. the ones I've dated all had this.
Feel free to talk yourself out before anything but i like spontaniety and surprises. It bores me to death to talk things out and explain everything and do something predictable and pre planned. Tried once and wasn't my thing. Don't you worry about getting beaten up or being raped. I only dabble in light slappings. I know what I want and know my guy and push a little to get it. You hate being slapped by women and would kick my ass for doing it? Good then that we don't know each other and never will.
Whatever, i'm done explaining. Lord, i see on slaught coming on. Have fun guys.
I get seriously hurt from skateboading and surfing, like i broke my left ankle and tore ligament a few weeks ago falling from a skateboard. I get injured numerous times doing this sorta sports but never from my so called crazy antics with men.
Punch yourself in the face you angry woman, i only enjoy slapping not punching.
And feel free to call cops on me for slapping in a bedroom a happy victim.
Get a life people. I seriously don't get this level of rage and anger on someone else's silly story.

It was a silly little story wasn't it. And when you didn't like the answers you came and changed it. How typical. But I stand by my answer. If my sub asked me to slap her and I didn't and her response was to slap me in order to make me slap her, she would be out the door on her ass.

Oh and just a side note...assault is when you threaten to hurt someone. The op would have been charged with battery for the actual slap if her boy had the balls.

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RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping - 1/1/2012 7:14:32 AM

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DLRJR

What yo are saying is, that you are the guy Lalleee smacked. Yes?

If so, then please, take a couple pages to tell us what the heck happened.

There ain't to many folks here that think much of what we have heard about it. If we are misinformed, well then, you have the floor. Speak, expound, preach even. In any case, spill!

First he will have to tell us which one of them moved. She is in Korea and he is in the US. Maybe she has a really long arm?

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RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping - 1/1/2012 8:02:30 AM

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I asked him to slap me and he flat out refused. So I stunned him by slapping him hard.

This sounds Hot as hell in a passionate crazy way. That is if there is any level of major attraction/chemistry between you two. At least you verbally communicated what you were into before slapping him. Mind you, there was the thrill of the Risks involved. (I'm assuming you know how to slap reasonably correctly). You probally should have wrote a little more besides 2 sentences here. Mind you, I understand trying to keep things short and simple.

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He didn't dare hitting me back at first but after a series of hard slaps, he was activated.
And he totally got it too. Couldn't get enough of it. Made me wince once.

Sounds like you managed to PUSH him limit, and that it was not a Hard limit. My advice, is to fish for how hard of a limit things are before taking the Risk of pushing it. Again, back to the fact you gave an Extremely Condensed version on this opening post. I hope you are good at reading people, and getting a grasp of thier personality. This is an important skill set to have when doing crazy shit like this.

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Is this a good way to lure a guy into slapping? or is it dangerous? I'd be poking a sleeping lion?

Depends upon how well you are at sizing up the risks involved. How well you know him. What's been verbally communicated ahead of time. State of current body language, and the personality of the other person. This could turn Dangerous and yeah... there's a Risk involved. I think the Risks have been well beaten to death on this thread already.

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Do you think I have a domme streak for slapping a guy like this and initiating things?

Hard to tell, by what little you have posted. It's up to you to figure this out for yourself.

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Subs wouldn't do this sorta thing?

Depends upon the nature of the relationships. Everybody does things a little differently...according to thier own style and tastes.

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How would you gentlemen feel if this happened to you?

This is extremely situational for me. It would depend upon the moment, who it was, chemistry and mood. I will say this, you'd get away with one slap and very unlikely to get another one in. Made it clear that I was tuned into WTF you were trying to do. However, me playing along or not. Clearly at my own choice. LOL You might ended up with my hand slapping your ass inside of your face. Perhaps, spanking you senseless while having you beg to get slapped across the face. Then again, I have a thing for Begging anyways. What I'm expressing is my kinks are different compared to other guys.

Reflecting back to my more vanilla days, Ummmm... I think I would have stunned like a well Tazored little monkey. You might have been able to get a couple more slaps off before I reacted. It would have resulted in me either Slapping you back, or fucking grabbing you, pinning you and verbally putting your ass back into place. In the process, there probally would have been a good chance I'd end up with a fucking Hard On. So who, knows... it seriously would have given me something to think about for awhile.

I did have a similar experience, when I was younger. However, it was with somebody crazy bitch handcuffing me and walking away for awhile. I was pissed off to no end after that. Then again, she lured me in under a "false" pretense and I fell for it. If she had stuck to the original game plan that would have been a different story. Needless to say, I never had anything to do with her after that "She was dead to me". Being left alone for 30 minutes in hand cuffs along side the swimming pool was not was agreed upon. Trust me, I was seriously thinking thoughts about throwing her ass into the pool and holding her head under the water. However, I simply wanted to get the fuck away from there and put as much distance as I could between her and I.

So yeah... Luring somebody into this madness can backfire. Which is why honest communication is important and stressed so much.

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RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping - 1/1/2012 3:33:51 PM

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First he will have to tell us which one of them moved. She is in Korea and he is in the US. Maybe she has a really long arm?

Should have perved the profile. Even if I didn't want to. Got it.

Thanks, Thishereboi.

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