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lalleee -> Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 8:19:36 AM)
I asked him to slap me and he flat out refused. So I stunned him by slapping him hard. He didn't dare hitting me back at first but after a series of hard slaps, he was activated. And he totally got it too. Couldn't get enough of it. Made me wince once. Is this a good way to lure a guy into slapping? or is it dangerous? I'd be poking a sleeping lion? Do you think I have a domme streak for slapping a guy like this and initiating things? Subs wouldn't do this sorta thing? How would you gentlemen feel if this happened to you? And ladies, how do you talk someone into slapping you?

DarkSteven -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 8:25:23 AM)
Um. There are a lot of fragile, breakable bones in the face. The idea of pissing someone off, who has no training in this, enough to slap you back, is NOT SSC. If someone slapped me like this, I'd either spank her hard as punishment or else break things off. No way would I reward her for this kind of behavior by giving her what she asked for.

Fornica -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 8:26:02 AM)
Um. That's called "assault". Not really sane, safe, and consensual. I don't "talk" anyone into slapping me. 17 shades of fucked up, dude.

MissKittyDeVine -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 8:35:02 AM)
Just plain wrong, in my book, what you´re describing. No, you´re not a domme in any way, shape or form. He said NO but you pushed him into doing what you want. That may be seen as ´topping from the bottom´ but in this case I see it as assault, and totally unacceptable. It seems from what you are saying that you identify as a sub who enjoys being slapped. Well, that´s your choice. But to try to provoke someone who is not in the scene into physical violence is NOT on. The guy´s a vanilla, FFS. So he apparently enjoyed it once you´d coerced him into your scene. Are you so sure about that? Or had he just been pushed too far? And you slapping him ... not acceptable. Just to get what you wanted. Let´s hope he is smart enough and decent enough to realise that hitting someone is not right. Can´t believe what I read, tbh.

MissAsylum -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 8:37:07 AM)
[sm=Groaner.gif] You're lucky that you didn't get punched or choked, or even had a face full of shattered bones. #1- don't try to manipulate others who are not into the same thing. You wouldn't like it...would you? #2- deal with people who know what they would be doing. #3- do yourself a favor and find yourself some common sense. That is NOT safe, and its downright stupid. For. Future reference, think to yourself, "If you have to ask....". quote: ORIGINAL: lalleee I asked him to slap me and he flat out refused. So I stunned him by slapping him hard. He didn't dare hitting me back at first but after a series of hard slaps, he was activated. And he totally got it too. Couldn't get enough of it. Made me wince once. Is this a good way to lure a guy into slapping? or is it dangerous? I'd be poking a sleeping lion? Do you think I have a domme streak for slapping a guy like this and initiating things? Subs wouldn't do this sorta thing? How would you gentlemen feel if this happened to you? And ladies, how do you talk someone into slapping you?

DesFIP -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 8:54:49 AM)
You're lucky he didn't walk right out telling everyone that you're a crazy and violent bitch. Subs aren't the only ones who are allowed limits. You refused to accept his, refused to give him time and info on how to do this as safely as possible. Refused to allow him to decide for himself what he does and doesn't want to do.

bighappygoth39 -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 8:56:59 AM)
Everything that's been said is exactly right. There are plenty of men who are into this who you could get to know and meet and you wouldn't have to "lure" them into slapping you. I think you need to decide what you're exactly after, whether it's a D/s relationship, or just some play sessions. Thinking you can "talk" someone into slapping you is a very dangerous way to go about things. Sorry. I hope you take people's advice on this, as they have a lot more experience in this than you obviously have. Take some time to decide if you're ready for a D/s relationship, then chat to people on here, at least. Good luck. [:D]

littlewonder -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 9:01:10 AM)
If I have to talk someone into doing anything at all then they aren't the person for me. I want someone to do things willingly with/for me because they want to, not because they feel forced or obligated. Second, what you did is wrong on sooo many different levels. Had that been me I would have walked away from you, changed my locks, changed my phone number and if anyone asked me about you I'd tell them to stay very very far away from the insane bitch. You were extremely lucky he didn't slap you to the point that you had broken bones in your face or call the police.

BoxwineForBrunch -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 9:23:42 AM)
the answer to any statement taking the form "is it a good idea to lure x into y" is usually, "no." hope this helps! yours in christ, thurston peabody boxwine, esquire

Fornica -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 9:25:57 AM)
This is still pissing me off an hour later. It makes me want to punch the OP in the face. Which is sort of the end goal...so success?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 9:26:47 AM)
Stupid people make me laugh.

SilverBoat -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 9:27:08 AM)
Maybe that worked out okay that time, but it had, as outlined by many replies, lots of ways of going wrong enough to wind up in a lifetime of social, legal or medical problems for either or both of you. So, no, it's not a good idea, to bait or bash a 'vanilla' guy until he's angry enough to slap you back. If it can't be negotiated, try talking again, or drop it, or move on or not.

BoxwineForBrunch -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 9:31:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Fornica This is still pissing me off an hour later. It makes me want to punch the OP in the face. Which is sort of the end goal...so success? hmm yes the op is some sort of supragenius chessmistress of passive aggressive manipulation. i'm afraid she has met her match in me though, i am going to run one of those triple reverse cons like in "the sting" and before she knows it she's going to be punching me in the gut and trying to drown me in the toilet. THEN we'll see who has the last laugh.

JstAnotherSub -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 9:33:37 AM)
What they all said, plus, be thankful he didn't kick your ass in fine fashion. I bet if he had, you woulda called the cops huh? Gawd.

BoxwineForBrunch -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 9:34:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Stupid people make me laugh. walpole said "life is tragedy for those who feel, comedy for those who think." had he lived in the era of message boards and youtube comments sections he'd have laughed himself to an early grave.

Lucylastic -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 9:39:25 AM)
OPyou aint no domme. you be an assaulting dumbass who is looking to get her self put into hospital in traction for months. Good luck with that, you arent consensual, you arent sharing you are being a mental midget. I dont want anyone to get beaten to a pulp, but you certainly make me understand WHERE the desire to do so comes from. Asking if you are a domme is an insult to all consensual women and men everywhere

Fornica -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 9:41:22 AM)
No. You have a lack of self control, and inability to judge what's appropriate. quote: ORIGINAL: lalleee Do you think I have a domme streak for slapping a guy like this and initiating things?

DaddySatyr -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 9:43:18 AM)
Honest to God; I'd have called the cops and had your ass locked up. Peace and comfort, Michael

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 9:43:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BoxwineForBrunch quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Stupid people make me laugh. walpole said "life is tragedy for those who feel, comedy for those who think." had he lived in the era of message boards and youtube comments sections he'd have laughed himself to an early grave. when I laugh really hard my tits shake. just thought I'd share. Also YAY for knowing who Walpole is.

DaddySatyr -> RE: Luring a vanilla into slapping (12/27/2011 9:48:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus when I laugh really hard my tits shake. just thought I'd share. Also YAY for knowing who Walpole is. Video or it didn't happen.

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