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Hunting - 12/29/2011 1:07:20 PM

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First off, I'm married. So yes, I'm a terrible person. If that doesn't offend you enough to close this post, but does offend you enough to want to torture my genitals, contact me and do bad things to me. But I'm not the worst person in the world. I've tried and tried -- and tried -- to make it work. She won't. I really should get divorced. But won't. I'm waiting for her to make that move. I think she's waiting for me to make it.

RE: Hunting - 12/29/2011 1:08:20 PM

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Trust me when I say...........it won't be your dick that gets tortured.

Good luck.

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RE: Hunting - 12/29/2011 1:10:28 PM

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RE: Hunting - 12/29/2011 1:16:03 PM

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I'm all for not putting assunder someone else's marriage, but why are you staying when you are getting nothing out of it? You are not even in sync in your faith (from profile)!

To me, a man of integrity would do all he could to make his marriage work. If that's not possible, leave. THEN try to find someone you can commit to that matches what you want and that you match with what she wants. That's what a man of integrity would do.

I hope you find your way here. Welcome to CM.

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RE: Hunting - 12/29/2011 1:18:11 PM

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Oops! Double post!

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RE: Hunting - 12/29/2011 1:18:32 PM

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First of all, welcome.

Now that is out of the way, I don't think you're in the right place. Or at least if you're in the right place, it's not the right time.

Your journals indicate clearly that you have a lot of things to clear up at home before you can consider being with anyone else.

I don't hate you, I pity you. But I also think you need to man up here, and go get the help you need. An alcoholic wife, an unhappy marriage and suicidal thoughts are clear indicators that you are not ready for the stress that another relationship will inevitably bring, no matter how casual it is.

Make the new year your new start. See your doctor. Get a referral to a counsellor or psychiatrist who can help you to work out the best way to untangle the knots in your life.

I wish you luck.

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RE: Hunting - 12/29/2011 1:23:31 PM

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Cheating is not going to make a bad marriage better, it will just be more fuel on the fire.

Get some help, watch some porn, take care of your life.

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RE: Hunting - 12/29/2011 1:29:34 PM

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I can't disagree with any of you. Probably best if I leave here and come back after I've got the marriage behind me. I've talked to my best friend about this, and he basically has no hope my wife will come around. Thanks for the advice all.

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RE: Hunting - 12/29/2011 1:30:26 PM

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Good luck.

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RE: Hunting - 12/29/2011 1:32:41 PM

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Good luck Duncan.

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RE: Hunting - 12/29/2011 1:37:07 PM

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A photographer! That explains the photo......It is good for a self portrait with the camera in shot.

I hadn't read your profile before my witty (if you can call it that) reply. You see we get A LOT of guys wanting to get a little on the side. They seem to think that kinky women are easy women.

After reading your profile and journal I can only echo what others have said. Get your shit straightened out.

Life is too fucking short to spend it miserably in a wrong relationship. Seriously.

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RE: Hunting - 12/29/2011 1:38:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DuncanBlues

I can't disagree with any of you. Probably best if I leave here and come back after I've got the marriage behind me. I've talked to my best friend about this, and he basically has no hope my wife will come around. Thanks for the advice all.

You don't even have to leave! Just put the brakes on looking for someone else for now. There are plenty of people who would wish you well in figuring out what you need to do.

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RE: Hunting - 12/29/2011 1:38:27 PM

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I was there 4 yrs ago it aint pretty.

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RE: Hunting - 12/29/2011 1:41:35 PM

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Welcome

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RE: Hunting - 12/29/2011 1:41:38 PM

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You don't even have to leave! Just put the brakes on looking for someone else for now. There are plenty of people who would wish you well in figuring out what you need to do.

Exactly! I am going to bet that you will need some moral support. One just posted that he'd been in your shoes a few years ago. It can't hurt to make some friends. People you can talk to about the shit you're going through.

There are some really good people here.

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RE: Hunting - 12/29/2011 2:09:18 PM

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Welcome, Duncan.

I can reiterate, put your search on hold for now. If, as your journal implies, you haven't consummated your marriage, you could possibly have it annulled instead of divorcing (if you really want out of your marriage). Regardless, you sound depressed, and self-medicating with alcohol is never the answer. Talk to your minister or a counselor before you make any decisions, and be really honest with them (they've heard it all before so you really aren't going to shock them and they can't help you if you aren't honest). If you do decide to end your marriage, give yourself some time to heal before starting your search.

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RE: Hunting - 12/29/2011 2:14:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: hlen5

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ORIGINAL: DuncanBlues

I can't disagree with any of you. Probably best if I leave here and come back after I've got the marriage behind me. I've talked to my best friend about this, and he basically has no hope my wife will come around. Thanks for the advice all.

You don't even have to leave! Just put the brakes on looking for someone else for now. There are plenty of people who would wish you well in figuring out what you need to do.

This!

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RE: Hunting - 12/29/2011 3:28:52 PM

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No need to leave the forums. Hide your profile and make some friends on this side. I echo what a great group they are.

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RE: Hunting - 12/29/2011 3:31:37 PM

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My sympathies.

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RE: Hunting - 12/29/2011 3:54:41 PM

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No need to leave. Many of us have been in crappy marriages, in that stuck point. I know I have. Make some friends. Forget the looking part for now, until things are sorted.
I hope you find peace.

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ORIGINAL: DuncanBlues

I can't disagree with any of you. Probably best if I leave here and come back after I've got the marriage behind me. I've talked to my best friend about this, and he basically has no hope my wife will come around. Thanks for the advice all.

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