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Hillwilliam -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 10:23:55 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Ninebelowzero

Well?...

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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

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ORIGINAL: Ninebelowzero

Is asking to see their bewbage acceptable?:-)

Depends on whether you're asking a man or woman.



If it's a woman, I want ya to share.
If it's hairy man boobs yer lookin at, you can keep em.



LaTigresse -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 10:32:05 AM)

Now, I am not fond of man boobs but given the choice of having to see hairy woman boobs versus hairy man boobs........I seriously think I would stick with the hairy man boobs. Cuz hairy woman boobs is just...........creeeeeeeeeepppppppyyyyyyyyy.



popeye1250 -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 10:35:45 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

I dunno about the poetry, Pops.


Hickory dickory dock
I made her suck My cock
She gagged and puked
So I fucked her ass
Hickory Dickory Cock.



There once was a man from Dundee
Who was fucking an ape in a tree
The results were horrid, eight balls and no forhead
No nose and a purple gotee



LadyPact -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 11:29:20 AM)

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ORIGINAL: seekerofslut

The Intro descriptor says "Break the ice and introduce yourself here so we can get to know more about the person posting". Seems clear enough.

edit: Shows who pays attention and / or can read.


I'll take "here's a clue for two hundred, Alex".

I have walked into more than a few munch groups and been the new person.  To date, I have never sat at the table and opened  the conversation about what the fuck I do in My spare time.  I've never introduced Myself by telling folks what kind of movies I watch or what kind of music I listened to.  I showed up at the munch because I wanted to connect with people who were interested in kink.  When we got to the round table portion of the evening, I introduced Myself as a poly, Dominant, sadist.  When I've walked in the room, I've given My name and said I beat people for fun.

I honestly don't care about how people have decided for themselves that this is some kind of dating site or how anybody who shows up here has to be interested in a flipping relationship.  The chicken shit bullying that you are trying to pull off doesn't work with Me.  If your comment is only being said in Introductions is only being made because you can push people around, you'd better remember that I'm here, too.  When you try to bully someone into what you *think* has to happen here, I'll be happy to stand up and give you My honest opinion.

Some of you have gotten so far away from what this place is supposed to be for, that I can't even identify with you.  Frankly, some of you suck! 

I'm completely sick of certain people telling other folks that they can't talk about kink here. 

In My opinion, this is, and always will be a kink site.  If you can't handle that, you and I shall be having some debates.

See, I'm not scared.  All that needs to happen to take the power away from a bully is to stand up to them.  Please feel free to write Me hate mail.  I can deal with it.





LaTigresse -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 11:29:46 AM)

I second that.



MissKittyDeVine -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 11:53:02 AM)

But surely it goes both ways. If people behave like assholes when they start an introduction thread, then they should expect to be called out on it. They are adults, and should be able to take it. One intro included a link to their clips4sale which was peddling fetish-themed porn clips - is that what the Introduction forum is for? And that post and link are still standing.

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ORIGINAL: ModTwentyOne
This. If you cannot be welcoming, please stay out of that section. Thank you.



TheFireWithinMe -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 11:57:23 AM)

LP, personally I like to know that there's more to a person than their kinks. It shows me a more rounded out human being who is more than the sum of their kinks. I agree that telling someone not to discuss their kinks but if that's all I know about them and all we talk about I'm going to get bored really quickly.

That's why I just pass profiles that are all about the kink and don't say anything about the person behind the kink by. Before we become friends I want to know about the person as a whole. Because CollarMe is about finding likeminded kinksters for friendship and/or a relationship. Why would I do that with someone I have nothing in common with aside from the kink(s)? Hell even on this side of things there are sections to discuss non-kinky stuff so you can't even say that CollarChat is entirely about kink.



kitkat105 -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 12:06:16 PM)

I'm only new here so I might throw in a newbie opinion.

Any website on the interwebz that has any amount of reasonably intelligent people in a large group will have snark. This snark exists, because like others have mentioned, some people, especially new ones, introduce themselves or engage in completely inappropriate conversation, with no adherence to the FAQs or TOS, let alone reading every post or scoping out the tone of a thread.

So yes, they are asking for it. It's not my fault (or the fault of any other regular) that these people have no concept of how a messageboard works. Heck, messageboards have only been around 15 years in some form or another!

Edited to add:  Oh and by the way, just because I'm kinky doesn't mean I'm going to tell everyone on here what I get up to in my spare time. Just because it's a kink website, doesn't mean we need to shit fairydust anytime someone posts that they like to put potato crisps up their ass or are a cumslut.



NuevaVida -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 12:12:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: kitkat105

So yes, they are asking for it. It's not my fault (or the fault of any other regular) that these people have no concept of how a messageboard works. Heck, messageboards have only been around 15 years in some form or another!



Here's my take on it.  Sure, people may put "stupid" posts out there, which opens themselves up to snider comments.  I get that.  But my way of looking at the world (which will obviously vastly differ from others), is this:

I am of the belief that thoughts, words and actions carry energy.  It's related to The Law of Attraction concept, which I believe and live by.  I have a choice - I can put good energy out there, or bad.  I choose good.  Obviously others choose differently, and believe differently.  But this is why I am not a fan or supporter of responding to people - smart, dumb, or anything in between - with snark.  It just puts bad ju ju out there.



TheFireWithinMe -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 12:14:16 PM)

Yeah message boards have been around for quite a while but 1) not everyone spends a whole lot of time online, 2) not everyone enjoys posting on message boards and finally 3) everyone has to start somewhere and this might well be (and for some is) their first.



VideoAdminGamma -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 12:14:21 PM)

The report button at the bottom of each post is for user to report any post they believe to be in violation of TOS and/or Guidelines. If a new user post needs reported please do so.

Thanks,
VideoAdminGamma



GreedyTop -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 12:16:11 PM)

I fail to see how asking someone to talk about themSELF rather than their kink is putting out negative energy, if the request is phrased along the lines of "so tell us about yourself! what kind of ice cream do you like? what kind of books do you read?"



NuevaVida -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 12:21:27 PM)

That's not what I was talking about, GT.  I was talking about responding rudely and snarkily.  Kindly asking someone about him/herself is not rude or snarky.

(edited to change "his" to "him")



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 12:21:50 PM)


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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

I fail to see how asking someone to talk about themSELF rather than their kink is putting out negative energy, if the request is phrased along the lines of "so tell us about yourself! what kind of ice cream do you like? what kind of books do you read?"




Even the person who shoved the crisps bags Up There generated some entertainments!

But it's all good if we are headed back to the area of Be Nice To Everyone, I can limit my posting here. Not a problem at all. It would help if there would be a SCRIPT and some guidelines, so we would know what to say.

^^^not snark, serious commentary. This place has gotten seriously dull, and I really don't think troll-baiting is the reason why.




LaTigresse -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 12:22:27 PM)

As usual............I agree with LadyHib



Iamsemisweet -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 12:23:54 PM)

While I generally agree with you, LP, that we could act like better people to new comers, another thought does occur to me.  This is a moderated site, with pretty specific TOS.  The moderators are likely trained in the TOS, have committed to spending some time checking over things, including the intro section, and have devised a way that offending posts can be easily reported.  For a user to announce that they are going to be taking it upon themselves to basically police the intro threads is a little, well . . . the word "officious" comes to mind.  Are you a moderator now, LP?  Or is winter in Alaska just making you go all "mama grizzly"?  If you are a moderator, why not just address the situation in that role, instead of making a big announcement?



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 12:25:50 PM)


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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

I don't understand why a woman would put pictures of her CAT or DOG in their profile. This is a KINK site for B&D and S&M. Don't they have sites for,........"pets?" I don't want to see Bowser I want to see you.
Why would anyone want to see some stranger's pet on a kink site?
Oh,...and "poetry." Who T.F. wants to read poetry on a kink site? They have plenty of sites for that! "Hickory dickory dock......."
I don't go into the "intros" section very often but when I do I just say "welcome aboard" or something like that.



I am in the yellow pages. I have had kinky clients in the past but really, I don't want my picture on here, AND on marketing materials. So I have a whole array of other pictures that tell you a lot about me, and what I like. People write and start conversations with me, based on them. And if they want to see a picture of my face, I have no trouble emailing them one.

Yes, this is a KINK site. But isn't the commonest femdom complaint that we are treated as fetish delivery systems. Is that the new standard, that we should just be looking for kink matchups and fuck who we are elsewhere?



NuevaVida -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 12:26:05 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
It would help if there would be a SCRIPT and some guidelines, so we would know what to say.


That was serious?

Hey I figure everyone has their own style, and their own reasons for being here.  Some people like to be snarky, some don't.  I think CM provides equal opportunity to discuss posting preferences.  I'm an anti-snark kinda girl.  I've read countless posts by people who enjoy troll baiting and train wrecks and putting people in their places.  That's their choice.  I choose not to. Others who choose not to are posting that they don't enjoy it.

Just different sides of the fence.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 12:35:15 PM)


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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
It would help if there would be a SCRIPT and some guidelines, so we would know what to say.


That was serious?

Hey I figure everyone has their own style, and their own reasons for being here.  Some people like to be snarky, some don't.  I think CM provides equal opportunity to discuss posting preferences.  I'm an anti-snark kinda girl.  I've read countless posts by people who enjoy troll baiting and train wrecks and putting people in their places.  That's their choice.  I choose not to. Others who choose not to are posting that they don't enjoy it.

Just different sides of the fence.



Yes, that was serious, NuevaVida. You're one of the longtime posters, you have seen how the moderation styles have been all over the map. The moderators are just folks that offer their time and get tossed into the fray, they're not reading every damn post. What each of them DOES bring to the party is their own styles AND THEIR OWN AGENDAS. That can be good and bad.

Are we meeeeen? Yeah, sometimes we really really are. Personally, I have a zero tolerance for stupidity, and a zero tolerance for adulterers. The stupid and the cheating will get short shrift from me. The decent and the genuine, new or otherwise, get the friendlies.

If there is some new moderation goal of Pollyanna Posting, yes, I want to know so I can STFU and just stop posting in any area that I am not likely to fit. I stay away from Politics and Religion 99% of the time, avoiding intros shouldn't be any harder.



Fornica -> RE: Welcome to Collar Me (1/13/2012 12:37:07 PM)

I always thought the posts bitching about selective moderation were probably exaggerated. Note the past tense.



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