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NibbyJibby -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/25/2012 12:29:01 PM)

In that your comment was linked as a response to my post, yes i originally viewed it as personal. Confusing as i did not see how any of it applied to me, except for the scrutinizing part. Obviously i was looking at at from the wrong perspective. Your apology is absolute accepted and i also make apology for not being more perceptive at my end. LOL... chuckling at the 'blush' part :-)

Cool that a minor misunderstanding has been cleared in respectful fashion. Too many times online people get defensive, call names, trash talk, use clever sarcasms, etc. May make one feel better in venting, but typically resolves little else. I like your style and you absolute have my respect.



XFootSlave4U -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/26/2012 8:21:38 PM)

I definitely lean on the side that absolutely despises financial domination.

I wish the finsubs would man up for a second or two and just respond in absolute masses. I wish I could say… “Damn, I’m in the minority when it comes to giving up money” …but this is simply not the case.

Anyways, before you all get upset, I’ll have you know I thoroughly enjoy SPOILING WOMEN. There’s a few on twitter that could definitely vouch for me. These women are genuine, but I’ll leave it at that because that is an entire post on its own. It’s this notion of “paying for interaction” that really hits home and gets me all flabbergasted.

This is how I see it:

1) If you truly are intrinsically dominant, your passion to dominate should be as great as the submissives passion to worship. Simply but, it is an insatiable drive.

And the biggest comeback is ...”Well ya, I LOVE domination, it’s a part of who I am! It’s in my blood! But I still got to pay the bills somehow! The mechanic loves fixing cars but he needs the money!”

2) Again, in my opinion, BDSM and money shouldn’t even be pooled together in the first place.

BDSM is simply a twisted form of the vanilla dating world in my eyes. Yes, the guy should always pay for the movie and dinner (worshipping your queen)…

But before all of the spoils, before all of the materialistic mumbo jumbo…a connection had to be made between the two individuals. A spark if you will. Just two people talking, getting to know each other, hanging out with each other… etc. A spark that starts with a simple “hello, how are you?” Two people assessing each other to see if they match based on intrinsic values. To see if they share the SAME PASSION for things. A relationship built on love rather than money. A relationship built on the desires (desire to worship/desire to dominate) rather than the cash.

How can finsubs (all 10 of them) live their lives knowing that as soon as they stop giving up money, the entire “relationship” falls apart?

Money is unfortunately a mandatory component for these “Dommes.” Money should never triumph over an insatiable drive that some claim to have (the willingness to dominate).

I think I made sense. Perhaps slightly convoluted. I hope that, if you did bother to give this a read, that you see where I am coming from. [:D]

I love these threads.






Justyourpet -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/27/2012 12:15:34 AM)

I only skimmed through some pages, but I'd just like to add my 2 cents. First I absolutely love that NJ posted(even though that photo keeps making me cringe!), because it is nice to know there are finsubs out there. What I wonder is how many clients? relationships? out there are finsubs/findoms instead of desperate men. I don't mind the finsub/findom relationships at all. I feel bad for the desperate guys for being so desperate/(Dumb?) maybe just desperate to engage in this kind of stuff. either way I don't find the dommes to be at fault, but just the guys being dumb.. With that being said I still dislike any findoms that use desperate guys.idk just doesn't feel right to me.



xxblushesxx -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/27/2012 12:19:55 AM)

Desperate guys don't go to findoms. It's anathema to them just as it is to the guy above you. Only guys with a finsub/findom fetish go to findoms.



Justyourpet -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/27/2012 12:29:21 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Desperate guys don't go to findoms. It's anathema to them just as it is to the guy above you. Only guys with a finsub/findom fetish go to findoms.


Idk I find that really hard to believe, but I don't know that much about all the finstuff lol.(probably shouldn't have posted, but if I find out you're right at least I learned something eh?) :)

Btw if people keep posting 2c we can all share a soda



xxblushesxx -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/27/2012 12:32:53 AM)

I just popped open a Tahitian Treat! (it's kinda like Hawaiin Punch with 7-up mixed in)




Justyourpet -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/27/2012 12:44:22 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

I just popped open a Tahitian Treat! (it's kinda like Hawaiin Punch with 7-up mixed in)




That sounds amazing! I never have heard of it though :c I needs to get one.
To the guy above you I had to read it 3 times, because I'm tired and its late/early depending on how you look at it, but it did help me see more into why guys would like it.

But on a different note...after thinking why I took my stand seems to be more of a psychologic thing of my own dis-understanding(English is my first language lol). I still don't get it and I still feel like there are a decent bit of desperate guys, but either way I still don't side with the ones whom are desperate. I'm thinking me not understanding plus the mail I get from desperate guys makes me believe that at least some are. Not saying all my mail is desperate guys maybe 2/10ths and not that I get tons? but with my clit hanging as low as it does I assumed regular girls would get even more desperate guys.

I have no doubt there is a flaw in that logic at all^ and no I'm not being sarcastic lol

Edit: Oh god i.i My english is actually worst than normal I shouldn't be typing this late



xxblushesxx -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/27/2012 12:52:20 AM)

The guy above me doesn't believe in fin-dom at all.
There are lots of guys who you may go out with once or twice, and even though there is no spark, they just keep doing stuff for you and buying things for you. That isn't findom/finsub. That's just...desperation.

The guys who are into it, are into it because the idea of it at least (if not the act) gets them excited.
There are guys who are just into the idea of it, who like to talk about it because it gets their cock hard. As soon as he gets off, he is done, and is no longer interested.
Then there are guys who really are finsubs. Their cocks get hard too, but it's about more than that with them. It's about service, and pleasing, and making their lady happy. It is a give and take relationship, but looks from the outside like only one is giving and only one is taking.




Justyourpet -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/27/2012 1:11:06 AM)

I was going to say but there are guys who would just pay for attention, because they are so desperate.

But to be honest I don't know if that is true? It seems like it might be something that happens, but I can't really say that because I have no proof. Even with those people they are getting attention which is what they paid for, but I still have a hard time feeling okay about it.

By the way to the finsub and findom thing I can understand that relationship and now that I think about it even the desperate guys...if thats what that have to do to get what they want I can't complain. I'm really glad this thread was around, because it did help me understand alot and the more I think about it the more my dislike of findoms go away. Actually I don't mind normal ones.

I guess the only thing I would have a problem with is some desperate guy falls for some findom that gets his money and gives him nothing in return.(Although this is getting into a case by case kind of thing and I now know not all are like that.)

Thx for helping me understand some



xxblushesxx -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/27/2012 1:21:51 AM)

See...the thing is...almost all findoms have some stuff up about how it's all about them, it's not about you at all, it's just about your money yadda yadda. (yeah I said yadda) That's what many (not all) finsubs get off on.
So, a desperate guy would probably be more likely to fall for a stripper or camgirl. Someone who actually does pretend to like you as long as you have money.



Justyourpet -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/27/2012 1:31:58 AM)

But wouldn't they be interested in the kinky dominant side...but saying that I guess coming back to it the guy would in a way be a finsub.

I don't like you, you tricked me -.-

joking lol that was sneaky though...

On second thought when I make the connection finsubs would want to give you money, while desperate guys don't have a choice.(thats where pro-dommes come in and I figure out that I am wrong >.<)

btw I am only coming back one more time cus Nj's picture is seriously bugging me out. lol



xxblushesxx -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/27/2012 1:43:15 AM)

NJ rocks. Period. There are a lot of pictures I have to avoid here (one in particular) but I can generallly just scroll right past them.

As to your comments; I'm not quite sure what you're saying. Can you explain it more clearly? This part?
"But wouldn't they be interested in the kinky dominant side...but saying that I guess coming back to it the guy would in a way be a finsub.
I don't like you, you tricked me -.-
joking lol that was sneaky though...
On second thought when I make the connection finsubs would want to give you money, while desperate guys don't have a choice."

It def. isn't true that only desperate guys go to pro-doms. For many it's just another form of entertainment. Or a way to get what they want without all the relationship headaches.



GreedyTop -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/27/2012 1:52:49 AM)

I love you, Chrissy :)



xxblushesxx -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/27/2012 1:54:10 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

I love you, Chrissy :)


*gropes Greedy*

***smooch***



NocturnalStalker -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/27/2012 1:55:24 AM)

Financial Domination exists as one of the best ways to show what happens when you accept about anything as a "kink." 



xxblushesxx -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/27/2012 1:56:35 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker

Financial Domination exists as one of the best ways to show what happens when you accept about anything as a "kink." 



Hair kink, financial kink, potaaato potahto  [:D]



Justyourpet -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/27/2012 1:57:23 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

NJ rocks. Period. There are a lot of pictures I have to avoid here (one in particular) but I can generallly just scroll right past them.

As to your comments; I'm not quite sure what you're saying. Can you explain it more clearly? This part?
"But wouldn't they be interested in the kinky dominant side...but saying that I guess coming back to it the guy would in a way be a finsub.
I don't like you, you tricked me -.-
joking lol that was sneaky though...
On second thought when I make the connection finsubs would want to give you money, while desperate guys don't have a choice."

It def. isn't true that only desperate guys go to pro-doms. For many it's just another form of entertainment. Or a way to get what they want without all the relationship headaches.


NJ as a person is probably awesome, but that pictures makes me sore lol(I'm sure theres someone who doesn't like mine). It's something I will have to get over. I am definitely not saying that only desperate guys go to pro-dommes, but I am saying(the part I need to explain is) that desperate guys that are into kinks probably go to prodommes instead of findoms.

The middle part I said was just like a huge circle we went in that came back to your original conclusion...so in my head I was like she tricked me i.i

and omg why am I using parenthesis so much its annoying me.



xxblushesxx -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/27/2012 2:00:30 AM)

I like you pet. I'm sure you'll have a wonderful time here and learn many interesting things. I know I have!



Justyourpet -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/27/2012 2:08:48 AM)

awh thank you :) and I sure hope so. I would really like to continue learning more about the bdsm community as a whole before committing myself for the long run. Thank you for showing me some stuff, but I can't talk like this to often makes me feel like I am sucking up or something and I hate sucking up xD.



Justyourpet -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/27/2012 2:44:24 AM)

Some one brought a good point up to me. Although there was alot more said something I got out of it was that alot of people have to sift through the findoms profiles and whatnot(thats not exactly what that meant, but this is what I am going to say for now lol). It seems like it would be a good idea for cm to put a selection like...long term relationship, hook-up, financial in profiles and in searches. Of course this could be abused a little, but it seems like it could work out better for every one with good intentions in the end.



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