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Zonie63 -> RE: Why Financial Domination Bothers Me... (1/27/2012 8:44:52 PM)
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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx
Hmmm...since I've been almost the only fin-dom posting in this thread, I'm assuming at least some of those comments were directed at me. So I'll answer them as if they were. (I'm assuming you want to know the answers since you asked.)
Actually, it wasn't directed at you or any one individual. I was just wondering why people care so much about the complaints about findommes. Many posters seemingly go out of their way to say that others shouldn't care about that which doesn't concern them, yet THEY care enough to post on and on in response on the subject. If someone is just venting about something they don't like, then why should anyone care? That's what I'm asking.
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The reason I respond to threads like this, is because I feel that I can answer the questions asked calmly, politely, and hopefully share some insight with those who are interested.
I'm not just in it solely for the money. My reasons are my own, but I do have connections with certain of my clients, and care for them as people first. (I'm not putting that up on my website or my blog, but since you asked...) Some of what I do (and this encompasses more than just the findom stuff although that can be part of it) is giving some men the healing that acceptence and even encouragement of things they've long been ashamed of can bestow. And no, I don't see myself as some sort of Florence Nightingale of the fetish world; but I hear and see a lot, and it means a lot to finally be accepted (even if they're paying, there is a connection) for who you are.
That's a fair answer. I don't mean any offense, and I'm not trying to be nosy here. Everyone has their own reasons for doing what they do, but I was mainly wondering about the discussions about findommes more than the actual findommes. For those who are running a legitimate business which offers a legitimate service for a set price, that's no problem.
But if I was in a profession where some of my peers were unethical, then I would be far more concerned about the unethical behavior than criticizing those who complain about it.
Lawyers have a bar association to police their own and disbar anyone who behaves unethically. There are state medical boards made up of doctors who police their own profession to weed out the bad apples. If I was a plastic surgeon and found out that one of my peers was operating some kind of scam and harming people, then I would be outraged at the scammer, not those who were harmed by him and complained about it. And I certainly wouldn't be going out of my way to defend it either.
That's what I can't understand about the "business" aspects of this. It seems to have the feel of a back-alley drug deal, and that's probably why it bothers some people. It's not like going to the store and getting bacon and eggs. If the eggs are rotten, then I know the store will give me my money back.
Do pro-dommes or findommes offer a money back guarantee? Is there any recourse for a dissatisfied customer? Can they report a findomme to the Better Business Bureau? Is there some kind of Better Dommes Bureau that one can consult with in order to separate the legitimate professionals from the scam artists? And if not, why not?
Don't the pro-dommes and findommes care about the reputation of their profession, just as doctors and lawyers most certainly would?
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I don't call anyone fake. Except for people who make obvious sock puppets over and over again.
I agree about sock puppets. Sock puppets are in an internet fact of life. It's a message board phenomenon which exists on every board covering every topic under the sun. They seem to be far more prevalent on political boards.
But in the context of this site, I would probably define a "fake" as someone pretending to be something that they're not.
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I hope this gives you some of the answers you sought.
Yes, thanks. The answers I seek may not ever be known, though. I'm still trying to figure out the meaning of life.
I don't know. Just from reading this thread, I see a lot of scorn and contempt directed at sub males who might be wont to express their frustrations at what is an impossible situation. I can sympathize with it. As the old saying goes, "until you've walked in our shoes..."
I see a lot of women make fun of guys who "think with their dick," but if they don't have dicks, they really have no idea what they're talking about. So, that might be something for the ladies to consider, with all due respect. You really have no idea what it's like, so perhaps a bit more understanding and compassion might be in order. Just saying.
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