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Owner59 -> RE: Fitness to Serve for Public Office (1/20/2012 9:49:07 AM)
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FR:
There are so many standards for what fidelity is.
There are real people who allow their SOs to have other relationships but still maintain long term,loving primary relationships.As long as everyone is TRULY ok with these types of arrangements,I see nothing wrong with that at all.It`s usually the acception though.
And one should know that even today,most people would NOT be OK with poly relationships.Though I don`t agree that other`s peoples business is mine,I understand why others wouldn`t be so liberal.For some conservatives,the thought that it would be consensual makes it even more hedonistic and shameful.The "what would they say" meter would red-line.
I`ve also seen a few marriages break up because of poly activities.It`s not for everyone.
The standard though for most men who have outside relationships, is cheating.There is no doubt about that and the narrative from the time we started sharpening sticks w/ rocks is men think with their little heads.So with that backround,people are naturally suspicious and won`t think about poly in positive terms.
But a cheater is a cheater.
Many men and some women will have affairs that kill their marriages.Many couples though survive affairs and don`t break-up.Again,it`s their business what they do and crush anyone`s testicles in a vice for putting down other people for NOT leaving their spouses, after an affair.
There are things more important than ones`s lust,pride or the neighbor's opinion.Like kids or someone with an illness.If they want to stay married,I say support and upleft them.It`s none of your fucking business anyway,get a life and worry about your own relationship(or lack of one)!
Some guys are just going to say anything to have their cake and eat it too.ANYTHING.Promise it won`t happen again,go Herman Cain and deny deny deny,claim it was a one time "thang',whatever it takes.No amount of appeasement will satisfy them.It`s like a kid in a candy store.
Eventually they will lose all respect,even from friends and family.But what are you gonna do?
As far as having affairs and fitness goes,I`d have to say what I said about needing to be a military veteran to be POTUS.It doesn`t matter, either way.
There is no evidence that bush jr. or Richard Nixon had outside relationships but they were probably our 1st and 2nd worst presidents in modern history.And there`s nothing that says guys who did step out,were poor leaders or not successful.
BUT,no one is going to tolerate a clear hypocrite/habitual offender though.The Daily Show clip showing newt pandering to the "family values voters" about the sanctity of marriage and about how he wants to "protect the family",etc. was as nauseating as it was hilarious.
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