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Hippiekinkster -> RE: First time anal (2/6/2012 5:20:09 PM)
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ORIGINAL: shalin
we have done all the prilims adn use astroglide and stimilation and smaller insertions how long before we can actually do penetration?
Whenever you want. A nice hot bath prior helps you and your ass relax. Use some lavender.
You actually have two O-rings to get past. The external sphincter doesn't have that much resistance. The internal sphincter has a large group of muscles controlling it, which make it tighter, and more resistant to penetration. It will open up with gentle pressure.
You can go bareback or use a condom. If you both have been tested negative for STDs, you might consider bareback. If you use a condom, be aware that latex, and possibly polyisoprene (synthetic rubber), is imcompatible with oil-based lubes. I understand polyurethane and AT-10 resin condoms can be used with either aqueous or oil-based lubes.
My personal preference is coconut oil; I think the water-based lubes dry out too quickly, and get sticky. It's a liquid at body temp; a solid at cooler temps, which allows you/your partner to push a small piece or two in so that the rectum has some lubrication (one can use a small syringe (no needle!) and insert liquids inside). As has been said already, don't be shy about lube use. Use plenty.
Now, about cleansing... you can use a bottle (bag), a premade douche, or a douche nozzle, which screws onto your shower massager hose (if it's long enough). A douche bottle is gravity-fed; the premixed are made to squeeze in, and the nozzle uses water pressure (gentle!) and is inserted like the other methods. A disadvantage of the nozzle is one can only use water. In a bottle, you can put in a little Dr. Bronner's soap, or a bit of vinegar, or a little salt. The liquid should be about body temp, or a bit less. I don't think I need to explain how to use a bag. [:D]
It may take more than one rinse before the effluent runs clear. That's fine. After douching is the time to take that warm bath; that allows time for any water remaining inside to be absorbed. Some people like to touch up if there has been some passage of time.
Loosen up however you need to, if you need to. A small toy, a finger, a thin carrot, whatever. If you use your finger, or borrow one, make sure the nail is trimmed and clean. You or your partner might even work up to two or three fingers prior to taking his penis. You'd be surprised how much the ass can be stretched if it has been trained, and the stretching has been gradual. (One of my Favorite Clips)
Disclaimer: I don't have an Assmaster's Degree, nor do I play one on TV. [8D]
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