jennileigh8182
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FR It probably depends some on the sub in question. For me, I'm a more spirited type, and I gravitate toward doms that enjoy an intelligent, impassioned, assertive, and strong submissive. They know that at times i'll push or test, that i like to tease them and be a little irreverent (and yet respectful) at times. There are a lot of doms that don't like that behavior and see me as horrendously disrespectful because i can't just be sweet and demure and "yes, Master" 100% of the time. It's not me. It'd stifle my personality. However....I find that it's worse with those that don't have a clear dominance. For partners able to exert a clear dominance (and not in the harsh breaking sort of way), my pushing is pretty playful and low-key, well within their tolerance and appreciation. For partners that don't have clear dominance.....meh. The best way I can explain it is in a dog scenario. In the dog world, there must be a leader. If the "leader" is not capable, someone else will step up to the plate. That's me. If my partner isn't establishing his dominance or leading well, i naturally start asserting myself and taking over, because i know that i'm capable...i just don't really care for being dominant.
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