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my Master... - 1/27/2012 9:17:47 PM

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So idk if this post goes here or not I guess it would seeing how im asking a slave there op on this i guess?

Well I found my Master on here and we been talking for 2 weeks now and we had plans to meet this Saturday.
Well the last I heard from him was Wednesday. I'm really worried and dont know what to do. And im starting to think maybe it was too good to be true.

so im asking what would you do in this situation? :/

RE: my Master... - 1/27/2012 9:23:09 PM

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Did you have a place and time already established? Do you have his cell #?

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RE: my Master... - 1/27/2012 9:23:32 PM

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First, don't consider a stranger your master.

Second, move on. He did.

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RE: my Master... - 1/27/2012 9:24:51 PM

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Wait and see. Not contact him until and unless he contacts me. Not accept him back if he does skip Saturday without a proper and valid excuse.
And the NUMBER ONE thing I would not do is I would not cam or have phonesex with him or any other self-professed dom, until we were in a relationship where I felt like more than just some fling on the side.
The NUMBER TWO thing I would not do is call someone Master within a two week time frame. (unless he was like, Joe Manganiello or something. *slurp*)

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RE: my Master... - 1/27/2012 9:25:15 PM

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Also, I hate to break it to you, but you were sucked in by a HNG.

Clearly, he retreated after becoming bored and/or scared.

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RE: my Master... - 1/27/2012 9:46:56 PM

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Yes yes i know im an idiot for calling him my Master but oh well

Yes i have his number i been texting him but i have yet to hear anything...
He planned on picking me up around 2 then we were going to poss go to a convention then back to his place

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RE: my Master... - 1/27/2012 9:47:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: Aikoxkitty

So idk if this post goes here or not I guess it would seeing how im asking a slave there op on this i guess?

It's 'their'! Their! There, they're, there.

As for what I would do? Drop him. If he bailed on the whole thing and has no real excuse, two weeks is not enough time to devote yourself to him.

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RE: my Master... - 1/27/2012 9:49:03 PM

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Well maybe he was a NG, or flake, or married.

Or maybe not. I means, its 2 days. People often do get busy.

Wait and see, or call/ email if you can. No sense freaking out this early.

Plenty of time for that later.

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RE: my Master... - 1/27/2012 10:11:00 PM

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ORIGINAL: Aikoxkitty

Yes yes i know im an idiot for calling him my Master but oh well

Yes i have his number i been texting him but i have yet to hear anything...
He planned on picking me up around 2 then we were going to poss go to a convention then back to his place

This was your first meeting and you were going to have him pick you up?

Caution, my dear! Take your own transportation and meet somewhere public, if you do meet.

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RE: my Master... - 1/27/2012 10:16:55 PM

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If it's only been two days, I'd say don't worry about it for now -- it's possible that he got busy. You've sent several texts, so just leave it alone for now. If you don't hear from him in a week or so, just go back to meeting people. How long had you been talking to this person before you accepted him as your Master? Did you just sorta proclaim him that or...?

If you don't yet have a real relationship here, then don't fret about it... perhaps he moved on and didn't know how to tell you, something wacky like that.

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RE: my Master... - 1/27/2012 10:17:16 PM

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Seeing as how this is the "Ask a submissive/slave" section, I will ask: Would it be inappropriate for me to comment?

Peace and comfort,

Michael

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RE: my Master... - 1/27/2012 10:19:34 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr

Seeing as how this is the "Ask a submissive/slave" section, I will ask: Would it be inaapropriate for me to comment?

Peace and comfort,

Michael

I think it's alright. W/we all kind of cross comment, when You think about it.

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RE: my Master... - 1/27/2012 10:32:38 PM

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Unfortunately, this kind of thing happens all too often. It doesn't matter what the reasons are, really. A courteous and caring person would find a way to tell you (for example): "I really wanted to meet you but, my whole life is unspooling. I know it's only Thursday but, I don't think I'll be able to make it on Saturday"

Yes, life can throw us curveballs but if you're important enough to him, he'll find a way to make sure that you know that he isn't just some lout who's standing you up.

I would also like to expound on this:

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ORIGINAL: jennileigh8182

This was your first meeting and you were going to have him pick you up?

Caution, my dear! Take your own transportation and meet somewhere public, if you do meet.

Good advice but, let's go further: whenever you are meeting anyone new , not only should you take your own transportation but you should arrive, first and leave, last. In other words: Don't let them even see you getting into or out of your car. License plates can be traced, fairly easily (though they're not supposed to be easy to trace for civillians).

Also, don't meet in a place where too many people know you (a familiar bar, or restaurant). Not only will it make things a bit "sticky" if the end of the relationship gets ugly but, if the person is a stalker and you bring them to your "home base", people there may be more willing to share information with the new person because they've seen you with him and will think they're doing you a favor.

I can't believe I'm adding this but I will. Make sure you have a safe call with a time limit in place. Get as much information about the other person as is possible (You got there before he did. Grab his plate number as well as the make, model, and color of his vehicle) and give it to someone you trust. Then, tell your friend that if they don't hear from you within 90 minutes (or so) of the appointed time of your meet-up, they are to alert the proper authorities.

While I may sound like an alarmist, these things might save your life (although, if you do them, you may never know if they have).

Peace and comfort,

Michael

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RE: my Master... - 1/27/2012 10:39:30 PM

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Yes yes i know im an idiot for calling him my Master but oh well

Yes i have his number i been texting him but i have yet to hear anything...
He planned on picking me up around 2 then we were going to poss go to a convention then back to his place

Nope. Not back to his place on a first meet. Too soon.

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RE: my Master... - 1/27/2012 10:40:39 PM

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DaddySatyr: What if the other person also tries to follow your advice about arriving first and leaving last?

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RE: my Master... - 1/27/2012 10:44:45 PM

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DaddySatyr: What if the other person also tries to follow your advice about arriving first and leaving last?

You're just meeting this person for the first time and they're supposedly a dominant? I would say this is one case where the dominant may have to bend their will, a bit.

I was offering advice to one person. I don't give a toss about the safety of the guy (or future guys) she may be meeting but, I would give that same advice to everyone.

Without wanting to get my nuts twisted in a vise, I think we can agree that physically, most ladies are at a disadvantage to most men? Men have to understand that and act accordingly.

Peace and comfort,

Michael

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RE: my Master... - 1/27/2012 10:47:27 PM

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I don't really think too much of doms who don't think of making certain a new partner is safe and comfortable. I recently had a first meeting with someone from this site, and he was very concerned with making certain I felt comfortable with the meeting. He suggested the middle of the day, asked me to choose a location reasonably close to me (we're an hour apart), and suggested we keep it brief and public...just a meeting to see if there was any chemistry and feel each other out. I don't know if it was intentional, but he texted me on the way to let me know he was running a few minutes late, so I did have time (extra, since I'd already planned for it) to get there and get comfortable with the place before he arrived.

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RE: my Master... - 1/27/2012 11:08:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr

Seeing as how this is the "Ask a submissive/slave" section, I will ask: Would it be inappropriate for me to comment?

Peace and comfort,

Michael

No, I don't think so anyway. Feel free but these two week romances put a smile on my face.

"I've got me a master...oh boy, oh boy." I am much more confident in the sincerity of Aikoxkitty than her 'new master.'

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RE: my Master... - 1/28/2012 12:50:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: Aikoxkitty

So idk if this post goes here or not I guess it would seeing how im asking a slave there op on this i guess?

Well I found my Master on here and we been talking for 2 weeks now and we had plans to meet this Saturday.
Well the last I heard from him was Wednesday. I'm really worried and dont know what to do. And im starting to think maybe it was too good to be true.

so im asking what would you do in this situation? :/

He's not your Master.

And...welcome to my world. CM or other vanilla dating site, the number of men who set up a meeting and then drop off into black space is...surprising, really.

What I would do and what you should do are two different things. I usually take the "Fuck it, I've got nothing to lose" approach. If he's already gone, then another email or two won't make him any more gone than before. If you feel a very strong connection, it's worth making a little bit of extra effort, even at the risk of embarrassing yourself. (And, actually, I go with the notion that if he's someone who I'm considering a potential dominant, it's not embarrassment, it's exposure, and I prefer to be more exposed from the start.) But contain it. One or two short notes to say that you are still interested, but that's it.

My friends, though, tell me I am much too patient. So perhaps what I would do is not the best approach. But, good or bad, that is what I would do. I tend to give them the benefit of the doubt...more than once.

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RE: my Master... - 1/28/2012 1:16:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr

Good advice but, let's go further: whenever you are meeting anyone new , not only should you take your own transportation but you should arrive, first and leave, last. In other words: Don't let them even see you getting into or out of your car. License plates can be traced, fairly easily (though they're not supposed to be easy to trace for civilians).

Mmm, I don't know. I'm just as alarmed as the next girl, in general, but I could meet anybody, anywhere (while I'm at the bank or the store, say) and they could easily see me get into my car. There are some precautions to take when meeting someone, yes, but I can't imagine guarding against someone seeing me get into my car. Everyone in the world sees me get into my car. I'm sure not all of them are sane

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I can't believe I'm adding this but I will. Make sure you have a safe call with a time limit in place. Get as much information about the other person as is possible (You got there before he did. Grab his plate number as well as the make, model, and color of his vehicle) and give it to someone you trust. Then, tell your friend that if they don't hear from you within 90 minutes (or so) of the appointed time of your meet-up, they are to alert the proper authorities.

While I may sound like an alarmist, these things might save your life (although, if you do them, you may never know if they have).

I guess I do think you seem a touch on the alarmist side. What if I meet a man standing next to my car at the gas station, or while I'm sitting at the bar in a restaurant? I'm not jotting down their make and model. I'm too busy flirting.

I consider ground level starting off point to be what every other person in the restaurant would know about me. It could be the man at the next table, not my date, that watches me get into my car and traces it. That's just not something I can guard against. Putting myself in a situation in which I'm alone with someone I'm not ready to be alone with? That I can guard against.

However, I'm meeting someone new tonight, so if I should be convinced otherwise, someone please convince me. :)

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