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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 7:12:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Orion seems to be The New Holly, and hats off to him. Thanks, I appreciate it!

But can he cook meatloaf?

And... (so as not to hijack the thread)....

Welcome to CM (again) and good luck ModeratorTwentyOne.

(You'll need it - we're hard work, aren't we?)

Well, Holly couldn't either, so we are a horse apiece on that score.

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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 7:39:44 AM

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If this was in fact a physical place, this area would be the foyer where people say 'Hi welcome to CM. Glad you could join us." and the main areas would be where other things may happen. Leave the foyer open to the welcoming attitude and we may get more interesting posters here. Instead it has appeared to be an initiation line, which often turns even good posters off.

Yeah, but if you walked into a foyer of an establishment and yelled, "I'm looking for a slut to humiliate", it wouldn't go over well either. There's a difference between introducing yourself and opening with a statement that would get you slapped if you said it face to face.

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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 7:50:32 AM

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The problem is that the thread in question should not have been in introductions. It should have been in Help Wanted, or the equivalent.

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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 8:49:37 AM

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No you didn't! ;)

Just go to the Gorean section and read some of my older posts so you can get a good idea that I am only nice when I choose to be. If you mean SirsHolly, then I will take that as a compliment as I usually enjoyed her posts. Hope she is well, where ever she is. Now I need to go do some chest thumping to balance things out ;).

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Here's the short story: we need to just stay the hell away from this section.

Orion seems to be The New Holly, and hats off to him. Thanks, I appreciate it!

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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 8:54:12 AM

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We cannot control the actions of others. We choose how we wish to respond. Maybe report it and have those kinds moved if they are not introductions, and then have at them. Not sure what the solution is there, but I will say that at the BDSM club I used to frequent a longgggggg time ago, we did have people come in and ask similar things. We usually gave them directions to the nearest "massage" parlor, but we still did it in a way so that others in the foyer did not get the wrong impression on what the intent of the greeting areas is for.

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If this was in fact a physical place, this area would be the foyer where people say 'Hi welcome to CM. Glad you could join us." and the main areas would be where other things may happen. Leave the foyer open to the welcoming attitude and we may get more interesting posters here. Instead it has appeared to be an initiation line, which often turns even good posters off.

Yeah, but if you walked into a foyer of an establishment and yelled, "I'm looking for a slut to humiliate", it wouldn't go over well either. There's a difference between introducing yourself and opening with a statement that would get you slapped if you said it face to face.

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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 9:06:13 AM

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No you didn't! ;)

Just go to the Gorean section and read some of my older posts so you can get a good idea that I am only nice when I choose to be. If you mean SirsHolly, then I will take that as a compliment as I usually enjoyed her posts. Hope she is well, where ever she is. Now I need to go do some chest thumping to balance things out ;).

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Here's the short story: we need to just stay the hell away from this section.

Orion seems to be The New Holly, and hats off to him. Thanks, I appreciate it!

I know your reputation---you're one of the Goreans I respect!

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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 9:13:34 AM

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WHat Hibbie said!

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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 9:40:49 AM

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Thank you, ModTwentyOne!

I don't mean any offense to the other responders on the thread, but sometimes, I think people should remember that we're not all here for the same reason. This thing that some folks have going on about how intros have to be done in a certain way, profiles written a certain way, etc, does become a bit of a PITA. I can't say that I understand why people feel the need to post as they do up here in response to new folks.

I've been here for five years. I have never disillusioned anyone about My reason for it. I'm here for the kink. Not for My vanilla interests. Not to "date". Not for any of the other stuff that comes along as pleasant fringe benefits. I got those things along the way, but it had nothing to do with what was, and still is, My main purpose for being here.

In that five years, there have been quite a few times that I've been called one of the most respected person on the boards. That might not have happened if I ran into the negative attitude that a person who was here just for the kink that is so prevalent today was acceptable. If everybody ran to My profile when I first got here and all that was on it were kink interests and text that said, "I'll fill this out when I have the time".

I figure, if the members on this board can accept Me, and I'm really here just for the kink, that the new person coming here should be accepted, too. If you can't, pass their introduction by.

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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 5:20:23 PM

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Each of us are individuals, therefore, our reasons for being here are independent from anyone else. And time changes things. My reasons for being here are different than they were five years ago. Heck they are different than they were five weeks ago.......

And Orion, my local Wal-Mart has a opening for a greeter, it you are interested. I think you would be really good at it!

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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 6:34:39 PM

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I try to behave, but I swear when they come in here disrespecting any group of people, (usually female subs), then it really gets to me. I will try harder. sigh.

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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 6:53:32 PM

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I have been a very very good girl. And staying away while I've been going through hell so I don't write something I'll regret and get a golden ticket.

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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 7:32:24 PM

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I try to behave, but I swear when they come in here disrespecting any group of people, (usually female subs), then it really gets to me. I will try harder. sigh.

I'm more in agreement with this to be honest - coming back. I signed up here for the opportunity to locate, interact and possibly meet with like-minded people.

What I didn't sign up for is to be stigmatized, harrassed, or involved non-consensually in someone's juvenile online fantasies and headgames played out for the purpose of their own online gratification.

This is an internet message board it's a public space on a privately owned website with very clearly defined Terms of Service spelled out to which everyone agrees to abide by before setting up a profile and being allowed to make use of the generous facilities provided.

This is not a chatroom, it is not a bordello, it is a message board and like it or not when you write a post you are writing to an audience and I feel that basic common decency and civility is not too much to ask of anyone.

Now I'm aware that this might be a difficult enough concept for the few members of Middle America who come to this site and regard it as a dating site for kinky sex to grasp, but this is also actually an international site with members many of whom just don't have a comparable set of freedoms. Maybe it would require attendance at Equality Parades in Eastern Europe with religious zealots throwing stones at you in moral outrage or being whacked by police batons to get the message across.

After receiving my first ever gold warning for criticizing the way a new user, who was breaking TOS with genital nudity and stigmatizing a sizeable minority of other users who remain within TOS I felt that I had to make a stand.

I am not here to argue the reason or 'policy' behind that gold message, but accept it as coming from the site owners. However the message is very clear in that as I'm not part of middle America and do not represent a social group with large revenue earning potential for the site I am a minority, a second class CollarMe user.

But then again I prefer to remain positiive. I came here with no expectations and no feelings of entitlement, I don't especially feel that I have a reputation to maintain or to win any popularity contests. I've been here a few years and have made some very special and enduring friendships and I'm very sorry, when I see friends or people on this site being objectified, stigmatized to sexualized I will always make a stand.

This is part of my nature and perhaps a reason why my friendships are enduring and fulfilling.

The fact that I'm here doesn't mean that people have to like me. I would rather they figure that out for themselves. It's really no skin off my nose either way, I'm no better than nor inferior to any other user on these boards.

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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 7:51:01 PM

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Stella, you will never be a second class citizen in any way, shape or form to me. You're a class act all the way and deserve to be treated as such.

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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 7:53:00 PM

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I get yellow messages almost every day. I have decided to just stay otta the welcome section. I dont welcome them. Not a single one. (well maybe a select few)

I think what bugs me, is that quite a few of these new folks invite us to view their profile, but we are not allowed to discuss what we are invited to view, or ask them questions about it here on the forums, even though this is where it was brought up and brought to the groups attention.

Some of them even ask ... why isnt this working? Now we're discouraged to respond honestly. I dont quite get it.

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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 7:53:11 PM

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Stella, you will never be a second class citizen in any way, shape or form to me. You're a class act all the way and deserve to be treated as such.

QFT.

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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 8:25:30 PM

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What Stella said, and what Jannah said. Squared.

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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 8:50:03 PM

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I think what bugs me, is that quite a few of these new folks invite us to view their profile, but we are not allowed to discuss what we are invited to view, or ask them questions about it.

Some of them even ask ... why isnt this working? Now we're discouraged to respond honestly. I dont quite get it.

This. ^^ But, it's not my site and I'm a law-abiding citizen.

Worry not, me hearties. If they get limited or no response in intros, they'll eventually post in a different forum going 'whaaaaaaaaaaahhhh, wy cum i cant Get slave bithboyz or titcuntmeet biths to slob My nob and tribute My amazune Gif card for teh Asum privalej uv likkng My hary Balz.'

Then, I suppose we can answer their question. Assuming we can comprehend it, of course.

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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 8:51:31 PM

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that made my brain hurt, MDA, dammit!!

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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 8:57:37 PM

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that made my brain hurt, MDA, dammit!!

Feelin' sadistic tonight, Greedz!

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RE: *****REMINDER************REMINDER******* - 2/8/2012 8:59:15 PM

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Bitch ;)

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